Missing parents eve due to childcare

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Anyone ever had to miss a parents evening due to childcare? How did school react? (We are both teachers, occasionally our parents eves clash)

My school does not allow us to miss parents' evening so I'd have to get a babysitter if DH was not able to supervise them.

I guess your DH has been at his school longer and would be the better one to take the hit?

Although I do think having a babysitter available is v v helpful not just for this but so you can go out as a couple. Then in emergencies the kids are less stressed.

When I am working I have to pay for childcare. You are working therefore pay for a sitter!

Is there someone at the nursery who might be your babysitter?

As a parent, I take a dim view if her teachers aren't there- it has happened- and everyone is always "can't even be bothered to turn up to speak to the parents"

Really? You automatically assume that it's because they "can't be bothered?" I missed one recently (the first and only one in 30 years - even hobbled in on crutches for two, when I was signed off for months for a badly-broken leg) after my mother died. Would that be an adequate excuse for you? Thankfully, our parents were sweet about it, and were happy to pop in on an alternative date.

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Surely you know all illnesses, life events (like bereavement, labour) should all be timetabled around school.

Reminds me of a colleague who got an ear torn off by a student and their parent because they cancelled a VOLUNTARY revision class (that the child never turned up to despite home claiming their child did). She stood up thr next lesson saying "there's been a few complaints suggesting that I can't be bothered to run a revision club that I do voluntarily and apparently this matter is being referred to the head. I'll would just like to apologise to those of you for not being able to control the death of a loved one'. The people involved looked very sheepish.
The idea that parents just assume we can't be bothered is frankly insulting (but explains a lot). If somebody isn't doing something then there is a reason approved by work.

I'm a single parent and a teacher. I have to arrange and pay for a babysitter for Parents' Eve/new intake evening etc.

I'd be very unimpressed if you weren't at parents' evening, as a parent and as a former teacher.

🙄 For goodness sake things happen in everyone's personal life that outweighs having to do a parents evening. As a former teacher you should understand that! My dad died the day before parents evening and there was no way I could have sat there and spoken to parents. You could be unimpressed all you want, as frankly, I didn't give a shit about how parents or former teachers were feeling when I'd just suffered a massive loss in my life.

OP in your circumstances you can plan ahead for parents evening and as others have said there's plenty of time to find a babysitter that the children are settled with.

Missing a parents' evening because you're sick, or some major unexpected event has occurred e.g. Your parent dying, is quite different from missing one because you haven't booked a babysitter. Dates are set well in advance. I appreciate its a pain paying an evening babysitter when you've already forked out childcare all day (been there myself, my whole day's pay went on nursery fees for two toddlers so anything in the evening on top was effectively working at a loss) However as a salaried professional I don't think it's reasonable to just miss a parents evening because you don't want to organise childcare

Babysitter.

Dh and I have spent just short of a squillion pounds on babysitters over the years, both for work and pleasure.

It goes with the territory if you don't have family help.