Thomas markle

[Thomasina79]

Meghans dad has had two strokes and a heart attack. He is 80 so probable does not have much time left. It shows Meghan in a very poor light (again) as she has not contacted him at all so the chances of a reconciliation are slim. He has never seen his grandchildren. Whatever you think of Meghan and I don t particularly like her, I think this very sad and she may regret it. How hard is it to make a phone call?

I was no contact with my mum before she died and she never met my children and it was with good reason. Other members of my family may have been pissed off about but I’m really glad I stuck to my guns.

I’m not a huge fan of MM but I don’t think anyone should be forced into a relationship with a parent if they don’t want to and she obviously has her reasons that she doesn’t want got be.

Suggest you read some threads on the relationship board, particularly the stately homes threads, before you judge.

Why is this about Meghan? King Charles won't pick up the phone to his son. How is that different?

Yabvu op

When I was younger I believed that family relationships with sacrosanct. Time and experience have taught me that this is a rubbish notion and that good healthy relationships are about so much more than blood. I have learnt through my own experience not to judge those who choose to limit or completely cut off contact with family.

If you heard my mums version of our family story you would judge me, I haven’t seen her for 15 years. She has a lot of health problems, her partner (not my dad) is on end of life care. She posts on social media about her beautiful children and grandchildren (who she has never met) making out that I keep them from seeing her for no reason.

The truth? She was having affairs constantly which I knew about from the age of 12. She lied to me about who my real dad was. She took all my money from me when I was old enough to get a job. I was left to look after my 4 younger siblings from when I was about 10. We hid in a cupboard under the stairs when bailiffs came knocking. There’s SO much more.
Don’t be so quick to judge when you only know half a story. I choose not to explain my life to people who she has already got to, I just don’t want. I know the truth.

I was a huge fan and read her blog and followed her on social media.

The thing I don’t get is how she spoke about him being her biggest cheerleader and support before.

She wrote and spoke about him more than her mother. He was by her own account a devoted and supportive dad.

I don’t really get how it all went wrong.

If someone is estranged from both their biological father and their father in law, it suggests perhaps the problem can be spotted with some self reflection.

The Tig was full of warm and loving posts about him, wasn't it? There was a particularly lovely Father's Day tribute. However, things change. She was angry with those pap pictures and that he shared a letter (correct me if I'm wrong). Who knows?

I'm not a fan of MM. But imagine a bunch of complete random strangers who you don't even know exist and have never met, throwing opinions around on private relationships with your own family members? Batshit isn't it.

I think that happens with high profile celebrities, to be fair. If people share a lot about relationships, and details of their personal life, and if that sharing becomes a primary source of income, then I think that's going to be the case.
To be fair, she's moving away from that mode now, with the hostess business, which I think is probably better for her.

Oh come on. He was selling stories to the press when she marries H. He's hardly father of the year.

Maybe her reasoning is completely justified? Loads of people go no contact with their family for various reasons.

Anyway, all the details will emerge, and I suspect there will be things we've not heard about.

Also relationships do change, I used to be really close to my mum when we were younger and then things happened and I discovered things about her which made our relationship untenable. Breaking contact with her was probably the most difficult thing I ever did but it was definitely the best thing I could have done for me and my family.

As an aside I don’t get on my with my FIL either but neither does DH (or his siblings).

The only thing that keeps her and Harry relevant now are people talking about them (even if most is negative). They felt it fair game to speak about his family in exchange for money, so i suspect it seems more fair game to people to comment on hers.

Whatever you think of Meghan and I don t particularly like her, I think this very sad and she may regret it

You don't like her? It doesn't show one bit. I don't think it is anyone elses business. But equally, everything you know is filtered through an unreliable press and "friends" / "enemies" with their own agenda. And MumsNet.

Leave the woman alone.

No, no filter. She shares a lot, she talks a lot. It's all from her.

But they have released plenty of material which is allegedly their true "authentic selves". They've built a business on talking about others and rely on interest in their lives to remain relevant and keeping the money coming in.

"leave the woman alone" would appear to be the last thing Meghan wants. She's choosing to have a very high profile, very public life. That's fine, but people are going to comment.

FFS leave her alone op

Yes, that's really the point.

There's nothing het dad can give her so I doubt she gives a hoot. KC however, has lots of things she craves, money, elevation of their status, clothes budget, castles, .... she won't bother with her dad, but Harry's dad ....

I used to be on Meghan’s side about this. It’s horrible to have your loved ones selling stories about you and then publicly humiliating and emotionally blackmail you.

But more recently I find the whole situation a little odd. She had never introduced Harry to her own father even though they were getting married. It seems they got protection for Doria but not for Thomas, leaving him vulnerable. Plus the fact that they have more than got even with Thomas by dishing the dirt back rather than rising above it.

They both seem as bad as each other, the only difference one wants reconciliation and the other doesn’t. It’s a very toxic dynamic. The only one who has remained dignified in this whole mess is Doria.

I am not a Meghan fan but I don't judge Meghan for cutting off her father - I've seen (and lived) enough Stately Homes stories to know that sometimes maintaining relationships is impossible and the Markles clearly aren't that functional as a family. It probably would have been smarter to publicly had them at the wedding so they could benefit from the kudos of being royal-adjacent and then made it clear to them that they would lose that if they publicly attacked her, but they obviously didn't have a relationship before that and I understand why Meghan may not have felt that was an option for her.

I also think part of the issue is that Meghan really doesn’t get on with Samantha, and she wanted Thomas to intervene when she was going to the papers and selling stories about her. But he couldn’t and wouldn’t get involved with it as they were both grown women. When the pre wedding stuff happened, Thomas was obviously hurt and probably had Samantha dropping poison in his ear telling him to share his side of the story in order to rehabilitate his image.

They are such a dysfunctional family.