The sad reality is thousands of children have to cope with childhood trauma. Abuse, poverty, the death of a parent etc etc
Very few have access to the support Harry had and has. Nor do they have the luxury of having their behaviour excused due to trauma.
Where I work there is a project supporting survivors of abuse. Most are just trying to get on with their lives, and we can help them with that in various ways.
There is a small handful who respond abusively to staff when they are told something they (the service user) doesn't want to hear. Verbal abuse to the staff member, even death threats in a couple of cases. When told this is unacceptable they have resorted to social media to claim that we don;t understand trauma reactions.
We do. Both theoretically, and because some staff have experienced abuse themselves.
But once you are past a certain age (I would say about 20ish) you need to take responsibility for your own behaviour, and not abuse others. Yes, you can be angry, distressed, take time out etc. But you do not have the right to abuse others and justify it by your trauma.
I say that as a survivor of abuse.
Harry does not have a free pass on his behaviour as an adult. His description of the matron, and his grandmother and father's staff (who can't answer back with their opinions of him without consequences for their careers) is abusive.
No-one has a right to try to shut down other opinions, or play 'top trumps', because of their own childhood trauma.