It's my opinion that Meghan didn't come across well, as I don't think she wanted to sound silly or California woo. And I doubt she wanted to come across as pretentious either.
I also don't have strong opinions on Meghan the way I do with Harry because she is who she is. She was an influencer/blogger/actress when she met Harry and I think Harry was the one who failed her. I also think she unfairly gets blamed for his screw ups and was also the victim of misogyny when she was blamed for brain washing Harry and ‘stealing’ him away. As if Harry was some naive child who didn't know what he was doing.
I'm also not denying that there may have been speculation regarding what the baby would look like, but my issue is that in the Oprah interview, Meghan agreed with Oprah when she said that there were concerns about how dark the baby’s skin colour would be. Wondering whether the baby would inherit their mother’s complexion or their father’s hair, even if considered a micro aggression, is far different to raising concerns about how dark someone's child would turn out.
Also, again, there seems to be some sort of dismissal regarding what Meghan herself has claimed regarding the treatment she received from the royal family. She has claimed that it was more to do with her being American than being black. It was to do with her not getting mental help from the royal family (even though that should have been Harry’s job). It was to do with her and Harry not wanting to follow the royal hierarchy where they were meant to support the future heirs, it was to do with not being allowed to make money as working royals, it was to do with supposed leakings from members of the royal family (even without direct evidence), it was to do with supposedly the palace not continuously defending Meghan whenever there were negative stories about her (despite Catherine, Diana and Fergie and Beatrice and Eugene having endured the same).
Harry’s book also doesn't really show any instances of racism towards Meghan by the royal family, rather their grievances were more to do with Kate not looking happy to be sharing her lip gloss (even though she was pregnant at the time and some people just find it unhygienic to share lipgloss), or that both William and Kate weren't huggers and weren't as warm towards Meghan (who was a complete stranger to them at the time).
I'm all for the truth if there were instances of racism that Meghan endured from the royal family, but so far the only one mentioned by Meghan and Harry so far ended up being denied/minimized/dismissed by them.