I've completely lost track of what his problem is.

[lipstickwoman]

I admit to not having followed any of this rubbish too closely but I couldn't actually say now what exactly has upset him.

We need to put this thread in Classics for future generations to spare them reading Spare.

I think Harry's problem is that his mum died. Everything else flows from that really, and it should really be for his therapist not for public consumption.

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Courtney Cox took drugs? 😲

He wanted his pear cutted up

William got a bigger bedroom
Harry was allowed to keep his beard for his wedding day.
He fell on a dog bowl.
The bin grew a head.
Seals sing back to Meghan.
Charles has a teddy bear.
Harry is scared of Angela Kelly.
He got frostbite on his todger.
Someone parked in his dead mum's space.
He wasn't best man at Will's wedding.
His ass was slapped by an older woman losing his virginity in a field behind a pub.
He didn't give a speech at Will's wedding.
Kate made a face when Meg asked to borrow her lipgloss.
It was Kate and Williams fault he dressed at a Nazi.
Kate didn't like Meg saying she had baby brain.
He kept a lock of Diana's hair next to his bed and that helped the fall pregnant.
He killed 25 Taliban and called them chess pieces.
Something to do with a tiara (couldn't be assed to read).
They didn't call the RF racist, the media made it all up.
Meghan wasn't allowed at Queen's deathbed.
They were put in a small cottage instead of a castle and decorated it from IKEA.
Harry took drugs with Courtney Cox.
A courtier parked in front of his windows at KP and blocked the light
Same courtiers wife had her hair cut and some blew in through Harry's window and went in his mouth.
Charles has a back problem.

He wanted the whole royal family to do whatever Meghan wanted them to do. They refused.
He didn’t want any photos being taken of him and his family but happy to give it at a premium price for subscribers. The British press continued doing their job.
They wanted to live at Windsor castle but the Queen refused.
They wanted to keep royal titles, cherry pick royal engagements and make shed-loads of cash as private citizens. The men in grey suits refused.
Meghan wanted to go to Balmoral when the queen was in her last hours. The said it was close family only and refused.

Its all about the poor little man-child being told no by grown ups and him throwing a stroppy tantrum. It’s just everything now - if a corgi looked at him funny it’s the fault of Camilla, his brother and the British press. They’re both batshit.

Same courtiers wife had her hair cut and some blew in through Harry's window and went in his mouth.
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So much madness that I don't even know if this is a joke or true!!!

Love it! 😂

Another if Harry's grievances:

The Royal And VIP Executive Committee wouldn't pay for his security once he was no longer a Working Royal.

Despite claiming didn't expect it, Harry has always known he wouldn't have it if he stepped down as a Working Royal.

Then he goes and winds the Taliban up! 🤦‍♂️

They also wanted to do everything together with William and Kate (including being a king and a queen as well) but they were not interested.

😢Harry could do with taking a leaf from your DH’s book.

Exactly this. His mum died and he is still that traumatised 12yr old who hasnt grown up and resents that William has managed to move on and have a happy life.

I haven't read the book, only a few unofficial excerpts from the Spanish version as reported by the press, and I haven't seen the other interviews. But based on what he said in the US inverview (60 Minutes, with Anderson Cooper) last night, this is the core of the issue:

He has a deep-seated resentment of (almost a sworn enmity against) the UK press as an institution. He blames them for blighting his life and that of others in the RF, and in part for what happened to his mother. He was afraid that something terrible would happen to his wife or child(ren) because of the toxic and hateful atmosphere fostered, and that is why he felt he had to leave the UK.

He is angry with members of his family for in his view doing some combination of directly and/or indirectly (1) encouraging/collaborating with the press (2) leaking inflammatory material to the press (3) accepting the press's narrative rather than talking directly with Harry about things such as his relationship with Meghan and/or (4) failing to speak out about how damaging and wrong the situation was. At times, it seemed that he believed the influence of the press had actually turned his own family against him. He feels particularly betrayed by others in the RF who he knows have seen the toxic effects of the press and once upon a time resented them as much as he did - assume this is William, and to a degree Charles, Kate, and Camilla.

Now the only option left to him is to use the press to fight the press. Or something like that.

(I am not endorsing his world view, just summarising what he seemed to be trying to say with all the fluff and filler removed.)

Harry should also take a leaf out of his brother's book....William has dealt with it very well.

It appears he doesn't want to learn from him. Sad.....

I truly believe that if W&K and the three kids abdicated (hypothetical, but stay with me) and H&M unexpectedly became king and queen, these resentments would dry up.

Harry had awful trauma, while in the lap of luxury and was highly likely emotionally neglected. As was William. William's life partner comes from a strong, stable family. He's got social support almost as soon as he became an adult. Harry did not - well, outside of the military.

That's not William's fault. But for those of us who have also got lifetimes of trauma to process/ignore while living, the pain is recognisable.

Causing other people pain though, is something else. There's a saying that "hurt people hurt people". I hate it. It's rarely true in my experience. Harry, however, is vomiting his pain up and out into the world over anybody who has crossed his path. That's an active choice - just like not doing that is an active choice.

@KnitterNat
Exactly what you have said.
Regardless of how rich and privileged Harry is, it is clear that he has very significant mental health issues - very possibly linked to the untimely death of his mother. Let’s not forget how publicly he was expected to play this out.
Despite pretending to be increasingly aware of mental health, we are ‘hanging this man out to dry’, and I wouldn’t be surprised if this pushed him over the edge.
Maybe we should hope that he is sectioned and assisted rather than punished with jokes and ridicule…. What happened to ‘Be Kind’?

@notsosoftanymore I see you, I hear you, I agree with you, and me too. 💔

William got a bigger bedroom
Harry was allowed to keep his beard for his wedding day.
He fell on a dog bowl.
The bin grew a head.
Seals sing back to Meghan.
Charles has a teddy bear.
Harry is scared of Angela Kelly.
He got frostbite on his todger.
Someone parked in his dead mum's space.
He wasn't best man at Will's wedding.
His ass was slapped by an older woman losing his virginity in a field behind a pub.
He didn't give a speech at Will's wedding.
Kate made a face when Meg asked to borrow her lipgloss.
It was Kate and Williams fault he dressed at a Nazi.
Kate didn't like Meg saying she had baby brain.
He kept a lock of Diana's hair next to his bed and that helped the fall pregnant.
He killed 25 Taliban and called them chess pieces.
Something to do with a tiara (couldn't be assed to read).
They didn't call the RF racist, the media made it all up.
Meghan wasn't allowed at Queen's deathbed.
They were put in a small cottage instead of a castle and decorated it from IKEA.
Meghan had to put it on her CC.
Harry took drugs with Courtney Cox.
A courtier parked in front of his windows at KP and blocked the light
Same courtiers wife had her hair cut and some blew in through Harry's window and went in his mouth.
Charles has a back problem.
Charles wasn't a good single parent and didn't hug him.
Nobody helped Meghan when she was suicidal, despite Harry having a therapist for 7 years.
There was a kerfuffle over Bridesmaids dresses and there are 25 different versions of it, but Nobody has given the correct story, apart from Meghan.
Camilla or her office leaked nasty stories to rebuild her image.
Willy wouldn't speak to him at school.

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What? Has he's thrown Courteney Cox under the bus?

True thing. Apparently. He considered writing a letter of complain but decided against it as she wouldn't have know it would blow in and go in his mouth.

I miss the naked billiards days. Simpler times.

TL:DR everything is someone else's fault, but they're not fixing it

(valid points about press excesses have got lost in the landslide of petty gripes)

The thing is that their book, interviews, Netflix gig has no benefit whatsoever for anyone else but them.

It’s no like they are uncovering child abuse or solving crimes.

Their saga is a completely ridiculous rant of private affairs of his family.

Only reason it’s done in public is monetary. It’s that simple. For that reason they are, in my view, awful people.

I understand the greed for the money but let’s not be disingenuous here and for a second believe their heart bleeds…

It’s a private matter, should be resolved privately. This one is about money, nothing else.

All families rich of poor have problems, most have issues much worse than Harry. Why he thinks it if good taste to come and complain about it the way he does it’s almost offensive for some with real problems, including feeding or heating their homes and children. Those are real problems not this circus!!