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To feel very sad about the Queen

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nonono1 · 20/09/2022 20:46

I’m quite “ish” about the royals but actually feel very sad about the Queen. I can’t seem to articulate why - something to do with the end of an era perhaps? I just can’t believe she’s gone.

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Picoloangel · 20/09/2022 20:58

Me too. I think many people who weren’t
/aren’t invested in the Monarchy as an institution were very invested in her as a person. The Crown also helped people understand the pressure of the role. I am genuinely sad that she’s gone - she always seemed wise and considered and rarely made a misstep in 70 years. It definitely feels like the end of an era and very final after yesterday.

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KangarooKenny · 20/09/2022 21:00

I feel very grateful to have had her as my queen, she was the original girl power.
There will never be a monarch like her again.

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nonono1 · 20/09/2022 21:03

Picoloangel · 20/09/2022 20:58

Me too. I think many people who weren’t
/aren’t invested in the Monarchy as an institution were very invested in her as a person. The Crown also helped people understand the pressure of the role. I am genuinely sad that she’s gone - she always seemed wise and considered and rarely made a misstep in 70 years. It definitely feels like the end of an era and very final after yesterday.

I didn’t actually feel I was especially invested in her (though maybe subconsciously I was!) and wasn’t expecting to feel particularly sad when she died. But I really do!

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667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 20/09/2022 22:16

Yes I felt and still feel terribly sad at her death and watching the funeral service and the coffin being lowered into the royal vault seemed so unreal. I was never a royalist particularly, I very rarely watched her Christmas speeches( sort of wish I had now) I actually used to be a republican but over the years have changed my mind as seen too many idiot presidents and politicians!
I was reading an article about how the Queen is part of the British psyche as we are so used to her image but I think it’s more than that, she represented a maternal figure for the nation, she was always there usually looking very much the same until the later years, reliable and steady. My husband who is definitely not a royalist feels the same although I’ve been crying more than him lol

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667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 20/09/2022 22:18

KangarooKenny · 20/09/2022 21:00

I feel very grateful to have had her as my queen, she was the original girl power.
There will never be a monarch like her again.

Someone on TV I think mentioned that she was the only woman in a position of that much power when she came to the throne, there were no women presidents or prime ministers which is a really good point. Imagine how much sexist shit she had to put up with being young and female !

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knickersniff · 20/09/2022 22:29

I feel like I've lost my Nan , not hugely royalist but she was special and it's knowing that things will change from here on in . No one will ever fill those boots . I'm grieving for our nation as much as our dear Queen .

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Soproudoflionesses · 20/09/2022 22:34

I agree - l am a royalist anyway but feel so sad that we have reached the end of a very long era.
The world won't be the same place without her

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LouLou198 · 20/09/2022 22:35

I think a lot of people are feeling the same. It's unsettling, within the space of a couple of weeks we have had a new prime minister and king. We also have the prospect of a difficult few months ahead with the cost of living rise. It's a lot to adjust to.

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FrecklesMalone · 20/09/2022 22:41

Tbh I honestly feel there is a bit of collective mourning going on. If you read the paper, and watch the news and saw the funeral it was very morose. There was almost no counter to it. No anti royalists allowed to speak. Just told constantly that the country is feeling this huge loss. I quite liked the queen, bit haven't been sad at all. Just relieved that she didn't die in pain or after being bed ridden or having got dementia.

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667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 20/09/2022 22:44

FrecklesMalone · 20/09/2022 22:41

Tbh I honestly feel there is a bit of collective mourning going on. If you read the paper, and watch the news and saw the funeral it was very morose. There was almost no counter to it. No anti royalists allowed to speak. Just told constantly that the country is feeling this huge loss. I quite liked the queen, bit haven't been sad at all. Just relieved that she didn't die in pain or after being bed ridden or having got dementia.

It’s a good point, she lived a very long and mostly healthy life. Although I thought that the republicans protesting after her death etc were disrespectful, there is a time and a place , but it was worrying people were being arrested for peaceful protest

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BruceHellerAlmighty · 20/09/2022 22:50

I think the era that she represented ended a long time ago but a lot of us didn't realize it because she was good at what she did. Also famously neutral. So we could project whatever we pleased onto her. And really given the decline of the UK over the past 70 years we understandably needed to.

Now we can't. I mean we can't do that with king Charles. He doesn't have any opacity, he tantrums about pens, we know he's not too bright, is a philanderer, seems a bit lazy, has questionable friends, is sharp in business and as an employer and handles bags of cash.

So we're going to have to face up to where we really are in the world, which isn't so very good. In fact it's worrying. And we don't have her as our cipher any more.

It's going to be a rocky winter.

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IncessantNameChanger · 20/09/2022 23:03

She was a dependable constant presence in British life. Knowing she too has gone really hits home that nothing lasts forever and everyone truly dies.

I just thought she would live well into her hundreds.

I had new found respect for her working so late in life. I am very shocked at how much its upset me. I think it's also triggered repressed grief. I am / have repeatedly felt pressurised in recent years to suck up and push down my personal grief when friends or family have died. Ironically no one was judging tears for someone I didn't really have any kind of relationship with.

I could make a pilgrimage to her lying in state with my kids. I couldn't cry at my young friends funeral after his shocking sucicide in case I made it about me. Crying was most definitely only for his widow and children and next of kin. It's not healthy how we treat death in England. The queen's death wasn't shushed up and shut down and get on with it like it didn't happen.

It's complicated.

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Wombat100 · 20/09/2022 23:32

I’m really sad about it to be honest. Will miss the Queen, it just feels like the unforgiving end of an era we all thought would last forever.

I like Charles but I’d be happy enough if he stepped aside (I know that won’t happen!) and let William be King. William seems to have that certain something which the Queen had but I’m afraid Charles is missing. Charles will be a good King but I think the Monarchy will experience a jump in popularity when William eventually takes the throne.

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Farmerazza · 20/09/2022 23:43

I don't know anyone who is to be honest. Just my mother in law maybe and one colleague at work. I think most people I know are respectful to those who may be grieving.

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ExecutiveStrategyCoordinator · 20/09/2022 23:43

She did not care about you.

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asblindasabat · 20/09/2022 23:50

Yes I’m also very sad @nonono1

I had never met the Queen once in my life but as everyone says, she was a constant in our lives.

Of course I knew she would die, just like everyone does, but at the same time you kinda just thought she’d love forever?

she was absolutely brilliant. The haters can think what they want, but there was plenty of us who adored our dear late Queen.

It is nearly two weeks since she died and I still can’t believe how someone who was our monarch for seven decades is now gone. It’s so surreal.

I never thought I’d be so sad but I am. The funeral
yesterday was beautiful, sad yet so poignant, especially the service at Windsor.

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asblindasabat · 20/09/2022 23:51

Live forever *

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667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 21/09/2022 13:40

Wombat100 · 20/09/2022 23:32

I’m really sad about it to be honest. Will miss the Queen, it just feels like the unforgiving end of an era we all thought would last forever.

I like Charles but I’d be happy enough if he stepped aside (I know that won’t happen!) and let William be King. William seems to have that certain something which the Queen had but I’m afraid Charles is missing. Charles will be a good King but I think the Monarchy will experience a jump in popularity when William eventually takes the throne.

I actually like Charles I get that he’s got a bit of an image problem and I’m sure he’s not the easiest man to get along with. But I think he will step up to the job now, I think the media don’t like Charles in this country, maybe because he questioned the government with his “black spider letters” as they were called at the time. I think he realises he will have to remain quiet now for the sake of the monarchy he has had a long time to see how his mother did things.

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667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 21/09/2022 13:43

@asblindasabat I agree it’s surreal to think we won’t see her again. That hit me when her coffin was lowered into the vault at Windsor

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Arbesque · 21/09/2022 13:54

Her going marks the end of an era and a final connection with a Britain many people feel nostalgic about.

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BurnDownTheDiscoHangTheDJ · 21/09/2022 13:59

I was feeling quite sad and then felt quite unmoved by the funeral... until the ceremony where they removed the crown and orb and sceptre. For some reason that really really got to me and I was blubbing. As a PP said it all suffered love you feels very final.

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Hbh17 · 21/09/2022 14:10

Incredibly sad.

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nonono1 · 21/09/2022 15:06

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 21/09/2022 13:43

@asblindasabat I agree it’s surreal to think we won’t see her again. That hit me when her coffin was lowered into the vault at Windsor

I think that’s part of it for me too - the surrealness of it. I just can’t quite believe she’s no longer with us.

She did not care about you.

True!

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derxa · 21/09/2022 15:44

we know he's not too bright What do you mean? How does this manifest itself?

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asblindasabat · 21/09/2022 15:47

667TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 21/09/2022 13:43

@asblindasabat I agree it’s surreal to think we won’t see her again. That hit me when her coffin was lowered into the vault at Windsor

Omg I know! I started crying when I seen her coffin being lowered!

If only she could have lived for another few years.

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