James Viscount Severn

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He looks so so young standing vigil. That must be hard.

This is all about power and succession. George and Charlotte are 2nd and 3rd in line to the Throne. So they are paraded as such.

It’s a far better option than children sitting alone waiting for their parents.

Thats your choice. That doesn’t make it inherently wrong that other people do it. Funerals work for families all over the world, and millions of children get a sense of closure from them.

pretending that death isn’t sad and excluding children from mourning does more harm than good imo.

They’re just children who are old enough to attend their great grandmothers funeral.

@TizerorFizz "anti-funeral?"
What do you mean? What do you propose instead when people die?

Well I think there isn’t a great need for immediate gatherings at all. Just a small private ceremony or nothing. It’s a fairly recent thing to have such large gatherings and lots of tributes and special music etc. I’m planning for anyone who wants to remember me to have a party some time later. I don’t find funerals worth very much at all so I’m happy to not have one. My DC and DH have been instructed not to get any plaque for the coal bunker shaped memorial in our village. It’s an appalling thing.

My grandchildren were 7 and 5 when my Dad died aged 90. They loved him and continued to visit him in his declining health until a few days before he died. They weren’t made to do so, it’s what they wanted.

Likewise they attended his funeral. Walked behind the coffin with their parents and carried a single rose which they place on top of the coffin in the church. They are now teenagers and we spoke about it yesterday while watching proceedings on tv. They both remember the day and are glad they were given the opportunity to say a final goodbye to their much loved Grandad.

Everyone is different. Personally I think dictating every detail of what happens after you die is very selfish. It’ll make zero difference to me when I’m gone so mine have been told to do whatever makes them feel better or whatever they see fit be that a bit party or a sad funeral. It’s them that’s living with the loss.

Funerals are for the living, not the dead.

Yes but sometimes the living might prefer to do something else too. I see the funeral today as being very orchestrated by the dead. That includes Queen Victoria. We should be allowed to have alternative views. I’m hoping my family do. We do not have to slavishly follow the past.

I see the funeral today as being very orchestrated by the dead.

exactly like you said you intend to do.