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My darling girl has died

33 replies

ByEdgyHare · 29/09/2025 16:02

We had to have our 11 year old cat put to sleep last week. She had end stage kidney failure. She'd had a kidney injury at the age of 2 and we were warned she'd probably only last a few more years but on a renal diet she was doing really well and naively I guess I just didn't think she'd go. I feel terrible because we'd been on holiday the week before and although we had a cat sitter coming in and a camera set up I feel if I'd been here I would have picked something was up with her sooner and maybe she could have been saved. I could tell something wasn't quite right with her the evening we got back and by the next day she went dramatically downhill and at the vet when they did her bloods they said only dialysis could have saved her.

We had a vet come out to the house to put her to sleep peacefully while we held her in our arms.

I have such an ache in my heart for her. I loved her so much. We still have her sister but the house doesn't feel right with just one cat. I've been crying every day since it happened. I can't bear the thought that I'll never see her again and I feel so guilty I wasn't with her the week before she died. The grief feels crushing.

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Zov · 29/09/2025 16:05

Awwwwww, I'm so, so, so sorry. 😢 I can feel the hurt and pain coming out of your words. She was so lucky to have you. ❤

Do you wanna share any pics of this beautiful girl? Flowers

ByEdgyHare · 29/09/2025 16:06

She was so lovely

My darling girl has died
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kellygoeswest · 29/09/2025 16:06

I'm so sorry for your loss, it sounds like she was very very loved by you. How lucky that she had you!

Do you have any favourite memories of her?

kellygoeswest · 29/09/2025 16:07

ByEdgyHare · 29/09/2025 16:06

She was so lovely

Stunning girlie 💜

PegDope · 29/09/2025 16:08

Condolences OP. Your girl was a beauty.

She was loved and safe when she went and that’s all that matters. ❤️❤️

murasaki · 29/09/2025 16:08

I'm so sorry. What a beautiful girl. And you gave her the best departure that you could, held by you, in her safe place.

CalzoneOnLegs · 29/09/2025 16:09

I’m so sorry OP 💐

FlyingHigher · 29/09/2025 16:13

Ah, sorry to hear that. The loss of a beloved pet can hit harder than one might think it would.

I think you need to let go of the guilt. It was not your fault. She was ill and it was time for her to go - and that comes to us all in the end. You know that she had a good life and was well looked after, so take comfort from knowing that.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 29/09/2025 16:16

What a beautiful cat she was.

You didn't do anything wrong. Guilt is often part of grief as it's natural to wish things had turned out differently but it was her time and she was safe with you at the end. I'm so sorry for your sad loss.

Pudmyboy · 29/09/2025 16:17

What a beauty she was, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope in time you get some comfort from knowing she died at home with people she loved and all the familiar sounds and scents of home about her. Please talk about her on here if you would like to 💐

ByEdgyHare · 29/09/2025 16:20

It just felt so sudden. I know her kidney problems would mean her life was shorter than it would have been but I think I expected her to have more of a slow decline.

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SooticaTheWitchesCat · 29/09/2025 16:21

So sorry to hear of your loss, cats are so much part of the family x

spiderlight · 29/09/2025 16:22

What a beauty she was. I'm so very sorry.

ByEdgyHare · 29/09/2025 18:35

Thank you for all your kind words

I collect her ashes tomorrow

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Catsknowbest · 29/09/2025 18:38

I'm so, so sorry 😞 she was a beautiful girl 💕

OfDragonsDeep · 29/09/2025 18:42

She’s so beautiful. Thinking of you 🥰

hereismydog · 29/09/2025 18:45

I lost my beautiful girl to end stage kidney failure too, she had no outward symptoms until the day before we put her to sleep. She was fine and then she suddenly wasn’t Sad four years and I still miss her terribly. Your girlie was gorgeous. Please try and take some comfort that she passed peacefully at home with her family Flowers

Ruggerlass · 29/09/2025 19:22

Sorry for your loss. Take comfort in that you gave her a wonderful life and difficult as it was, you did one last act of kindness for her.

3kidsaremorethanenough · 29/09/2025 19:32

Im so so sorry @ByEdgyHare for the loss of your beautiful girl. She was a beauty. Please dont feel guilty you did everything you could and gave her a lovely life. It is such a loss, total heartache but you did such an act of kindness for her by not letting her suffer ❤️

TheJustJoker · 29/09/2025 19:32

So very sorry and I fully understand your pain. Had to have my seal point Siamese girl PTS in April. She was 14 and had megacolon. I’m still crying every day and like you agonising over whether things could have been different if I’d done this/that. I bottle it up as I honestly think people don’t feel pet loss warrants prolonged grieving but it does. You’re in a safe space here where we all understand your agony.xx

Sminty2 · 29/09/2025 20:24

I’m really sorry, it’s heartbreaking when a beloved pet goes. Xx

ByEdgyHare · 29/09/2025 20:26

I just loved her so much. She was the sweetest thing. Such a lap cat.

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Antimimisti · 29/09/2025 20:26

I'm so sorry, OP Flowers

nzeire · 29/09/2025 20:28

Oh she is beautiful
im sorry and take care xxx

Pianoaholic · 29/09/2025 20:30

What a gorgeous cat. I am so sorry. My old cat (little tabby and white) died at 11 from fluid on the lungs, and I remember how devastating it was even though it was years ago and I have another cat now.
Take care x