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Could a male cat sense that my indoor female cat is in heat and just Tahoe up at my house/garden?

63 replies

Catcrazy85 · 17/01/2025 18:18

That should say turn up at my house/garden!

Sorry if this is a ridiculous question but genuinely wondering is this true? If my cat goes into heat, will I get all these male cats appearing in my garden or is that just a myth? My cat is an indoor cat only so not sure how male cats would be able to sense she is in heat through brick walls 😂

OP posts:
Overtheatlantic · 17/01/2025 18:21

Please have her spayed. She will be utterly miserable in heat.

Catcrazy85 · 17/01/2025 18:25

I am planning to get her spayed but I am thinking I would like her to have one litter first and then I will definitely spay her. I would like to keep one of the kittens as well.

OP posts:
tsmainsqueeze · 17/01/2025 18:34

Please spay her before a litter , could you find potentially multiple good homes if she had a large litter ?
Who will be the cat to mate her ? if you are thinking about letting her out what if the male has fiv/felv ?
Not all the new owners will neuter the kittens ,so many kittens can be produced from just one litter.
If you are going to spay don't wait , an unspayed cat is at risk of mammary and uterine cancers and pyometra.
I'm a veterinary nurse and we see the result of entire cats ,please do the right thing for her.

Floralnomad · 17/01/2025 18:35

There are enough kittens in the world already , get one of them and get your cat spayed

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 17/01/2025 18:35

I've finally had a chance to use the 🍿 emoji.

OP - this thread won't end well.

EmpressaurusKitty · 17/01/2025 18:37

Your cat won’t benefit in any way from having kittens but she will have a rotten time being in heat. Also it’s then your responsibility to find good forever homes for all her kittens (if they all survive).
Rescues are overflowing with homeless kittens. The very kindest thing you could do for her is get her spayed asap & if you want a kitten, adopt one.

Ilovemyshed · 17/01/2025 18:41

She won't "enjoy" having a litter. Have her spayed.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 17/01/2025 18:48

A cat in heat will be climbing the walls and yes you'll have all the local Tom's lining up.

Just get her spayed and get another (rescue) kitten if you want one.

pinneddownbytabbies · 17/01/2025 18:56

Please do the responsible thing and have her neutered.

UnhappyAndYouKnowIt · 17/01/2025 18:57

You want your pet to be painfully, forcibly mated by one or more male cats with a barbed penis... and then have to give birth without anaesthesia.

That's what "letting her have a litter" means.

maudelovesharold · 17/01/2025 18:59

I can see why you’re contemplating this - letting your cat fulfil her biological role, a ready made related kitten to complete your cat family. I understand, but the world doesn’t need 4+ more kittens! Neither can you guarantee that the mother cat will remain well-disposed towards her adult offspring. It’s not ‘natural’ for a grown cat to remain with its parent.

RamsayBoltonsConscience · 17/01/2025 19:04

They'll hear her! Believe me! My rescues came into heat before I'd had a chance to have them spayed. It only happened once, they were so noisy!

Esgaroth · 17/01/2025 19:04

Get a rescue kitten, don't add more to the world. Your cat doesn't yearn to be a mummy.

Chemenger · 17/01/2025 19:12

Having fostered mother cats with litters of kittens I don’t think it is enjoyable for them. It’s relentless when the kittens are small, the mums are so hungry and they are feeding so much. Then the kittens become active and just never leave their mother alone, they do, quite obviously, get fed up of being jumped on, having their tail bitten if they twitch it and even more feeding. Kittens love to suckle even when eating what seems like their own body weight in kitten food (which costs a fortune). Then the mums really get fed up and starts to actively avoid the now huge and entirely insane kittens. Kittens regularly get a clip round the ear, in the “wild” mum might well just leave them to get on with it and leave. Don’t put your cat through that for your own satisfaction, it’s not for hers.

Sillysoggysheep · 17/01/2025 19:14

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 17/01/2025 18:48

A cat in heat will be climbing the walls and yes you'll have all the local Tom's lining up.

Just get her spayed and get another (rescue) kitten if you want one.

We had à female cat who was due to be spayed and came in heat a few days before her appointment. We kept her in but the tom cats were lined up outside and she kept sitting on the window sills, and trying to get their attention. It was a difficult job to keep her inside too.

Chemenger · 17/01/2025 19:18

I should add that living with a female cat in heat is like living with a crazed, screaming banshee who will do anything to get outside and who also wants to show her bottom quite forcefully to a male of any species. You will need earplugs if you want any sleep. My last fostered mum came in to heat while still feeding her ginormous kittens.

KittenKaboodle · 17/01/2025 19:18

maudelovesharold · 17/01/2025 18:59

I can see why you’re contemplating this - letting your cat fulfil her biological role, a ready made related kitten to complete your cat family. I understand, but the world doesn’t need 4+ more kittens! Neither can you guarantee that the mother cat will remain well-disposed towards her adult offspring. It’s not ‘natural’ for a grown cat to remain with its parent.

Completely agree with this (and the other posts). Our cat was rejected by her mother as an adult and basically chased away. She turned up in our garden, thin and flea-ridden, after surviving on what she could catch/scavenge for several months. When we tracked down her old owners they sort of shrugged and said “well we’d like to keep her but her mother won’t tolerate her, so you’d better have her”. Occasionally the mother cat used to venture down to our end of the street and try to fight with her daughter (our cat).

Logoplanter · 17/01/2025 19:19

I echo everything which has been said.

We have a mother and daughter duo and they really only tolerate each other. I suspect mum thinks daughter should have moved out.

If you want a kitten get one of the hundreds which will be in a shelter. Don't add to the problem.

thesaskedminger · 17/01/2025 19:20

Catcrazy85 · 17/01/2025 18:25

I am planning to get her spayed but I am thinking I would like her to have one litter first and then I will definitely spay her. I would like to keep one of the kittens as well.

Why? Just why?

Favouritefruits · 17/01/2025 19:20

Get her spayed, there’s enough unwanted cats in this world without adding to the problem. It’s not nice for cats to go through pregnancy and birth. it’s purely for your own benefit for her to have a litter

MemorableTrenchcoat · 17/01/2025 19:24

There are more than enough cats in the world already. Don’t be selfish; have her spayed and adopt a kitten.

EmpressaurusKitty · 17/01/2025 19:25

I fostered a mum & her one remaining kitten (the others had all been rehomed). She tolerated him but spent most of her time in places he couldn’t reach.

On the day he left I could swear she breathed a huge sigh of relief. She became a different cat.

Bananalanacake · 17/01/2025 19:29

But some cats must be allowed to go through pregnancy and birth or they would die out after 24 years if all cats stopped having kittens.

Ohnonotmeagain · 17/01/2025 19:35

Bananalanacake · 17/01/2025 19:29

But some cats must be allowed to go through pregnancy and birth or they would die out after 24 years if all cats stopped having kittens.

Not going to happen though.

there’s enough feral and semi feral cats that TNR schemes can’t neuter them faster than they have kittens.

add “breeders”, either for profit kitten farms or those who breed/show pedigrees, plus accidental litters, and there’s absolutely no danger of cats reaching extinction.

last thing needed is people breeding because they think it’s be nice for their cats to have kittens.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 17/01/2025 19:36

Bananalanacake · 17/01/2025 19:29

But some cats must be allowed to go through pregnancy and birth or they would die out after 24 years if all cats stopped having kittens.

There are hundreds of millions of cats, spread all over the planet. Barring some global environmental catastrophe, there will always be kittens being born somewhere, every minute of every day.

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