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Having cats made me not want children

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Thecandywomancan · 16/08/2024 08:19

Thought I wanted children, got two cats, don’t want kids anymore. This is a lighthearted post but it’s also true. They’ve made me realise I don’t think I’d cope. I wouldn’t be able to cope with anything more than I have now, I’m run ragged!

Before cats I really thought they were just chilled and easy.. I never imagined they would rule my life 😂

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Tumbleweed101 · 16/08/2024 18:28

Dogs and cats are perpetual toddlers. I have pets and I work with toddlers and the similarities are so strong!

Thecandywomancan · 16/08/2024 18:48

MySereneBird · 16/08/2024 15:57

@Thecandywomancan you realise that cats tend to love people who totally ignore them? Don’t be a slave to your cats as they will soon have you twisted round their furry little paws. They are the most joyful pet to have precisely because they are so easy..but if you have previously had a dog you might still be in dog mode which is a whole different ball game.

But my boyfriend ignores them and they just ignore him back. It’s me who they come to for everything, including love and cuddles. We sleep in separate beds and it’s my bed that they sleep on. If he gets home before me they stay where they are but once I get home they come running over and rub themselves all over me. I get that I’m being a slave but I do enjoy all of the love and cuddles too 🥰 I just don’t find them easy at all. It’s funny because all of the people who are shaying they’re so easy… that’s what I imagined! Every single cat I’ve ever known is so laid back. I’ve dog sat for people in the past who have had cats and I hardly even noticed the cats were there. Maybe my two are just devils? 😂

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Allergictoironing · 17/08/2024 08:18

At my DBro's wedding, on of his new-IL aunts asked him "and when are you and SiL going to start having children". DBro looked at her slightly puzzled and said "we don't need children, we have cats". The aunt smugly told him that "cats are just a child substitute". Cue withering look from DBro - "other people's children are just CAT substitutes". End of conversation.

I have 2 cats, never had (or really wanted) children. They know the morning routine and apart from swarming round me as I collect up last night's bowls and get their breakfast ready, the only thing they want is a bit of stroking as they start to eat. No "mum mum MUUUMM" before I've woken up. No "where's my xxx" or "Oh I need to take a yyy (never before mentioned) to school today". No prepping breakfast, just empty a pouch into a couple of bowls & top up the dry.

Yes I do need to clean the litter trays at least twice a day, & change them completely every week. But I can compare that to how many loads of washing I would have to do every week with 2 kids, making sure they shower/bath/clean teeth etc. Yes the odd vom, usually on the laminate flooring, vs. tidying up endlessly - I have enough of a problem tidying up after myself!

I know roughly what they cost me every month in food & litter. The odd Molly's mouse. Annual MoT, jabs and worming/fleaing (indoor only so only once a year as a "just in case". No nappies when young, no growing out of clothes like nobody's business, no demands for whatever the latest trend is, my Gods the cost of children's SHOES, no taking them places & paying to entertain them. No ferrying them to/from school, clubs, friends homes. DSis looks after mine if I go away (mutual arrangement), but if they did need to go into a cattery that costs less than taking the kids with you on holiday.

Yes I worry about them if anything seems not right, yes I do get very disapproving stares if I'm home from work later than my curfew (set by Girlcat). But isn't that the same for Children?

RobinEllacotStrike · 17/08/2024 08:31

Laughing at all these needy cats. I have cats precisely because they are so low maintenance.

I'd never have a dog because they are so very needy & I don't have that in me.

I have 2 dd's, but with my cats I am the queen & they adore me (i.e. I feed them).

I love having them sleep on my bed & I know all their language - chirrups, meows, looking at birds out the window noises. and "look queen I've caught a mouse" noises.

Top tip if you feed your cats an all meat diet their poops get tiny and not so smelly.

eggandchip · 17/08/2024 08:42

I have no kids or pets i wouldn`t cope with either.
I like to up and go when i want.
Plus i hate responsibility for anything but my self.

DamnYerEyes · 17/08/2024 08:50

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 16/08/2024 10:21

I've had 3 cats in my life and found them unbelievably low-effort pets. In what way are your cats such hard work?! Dogs are certainly an effort. Children too!

Yes this!

My cat doesn't have a litter tray. He has a cat flap to let himself out. He's zero trouble unless he's been in a fight and needs the vet!

Wondering why so many cats are using litter trays? Honestly get a cat flap. Cats are born to be independent!

DamnYerEyes · 17/08/2024 09:23

Perhaps it's the owners themselves who create these needy cats.

GreenPoppy · 17/08/2024 09:29

DamnYerEyes · 17/08/2024 09:23

Perhaps it's the owners themselves who create these needy cats.

It honestly depends on the personality of the cat. I got a rescue and expected her to be pretty independent, got a cat flap fitted, thought she would be in and out and we'd have cuddles etc regularly but more 'as and when'.

It turned out she hates going out for more than a few minutes, likes long cuddle sessions of about 20 minutes in the morning and evening, as well as regular cuddles during the day if I'm at home. She is also extremely vocal, so quite hard to ignore.

I love her but she has a very different personality to my previous cats.

PetrichorSoul · 17/08/2024 09:31

Cornholioooo · 16/08/2024 08:42

Cats are vastly superior.

This with bells on

MotherofChaosandDestruction · 17/08/2024 09:43

I don't recognise this at all - my cats are easy going, go out, come back for food and fuss. I've had cats before and they were equally as easy.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 17/08/2024 09:44

Me too. Although kittens can be a handful.

RobinEllacotStrike · 17/08/2024 10:18

eggandchip · 17/08/2024 08:42

I have no kids or pets i wouldn`t cope with either.
I like to up and go when i want.
Plus i hate responsibility for anything but my self.

You sound a bit like my cats 🐈‍⬛ 🐈‍⬛ 😁

Puppylucky · 19/08/2024 19:49

Thecandywomancan · 16/08/2024 11:02

I think you just have very good cats because mine are extremely vocal and DO yammer about all sorts. Most of the time I have no idea what they want. Yowling to go out, yowling to come in, can’t make up their mind if they want in or out, yowling for food but you put their food down and they don’t want that, decided they don’t like it anymore. Put down a different food instead. Still not good enough. Continue to yowl, ok do you want attention? Stroke them but they run off or bite you, come back to carry on yowling, ok do you want to play? Get out all of their toys and try to find which game they want to play. None of them work. Continue to yowl and stare at me! I don’t know what you want!! Constantly every day. My days in the office are a break from their relentless meowing

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OMG this is my world! It's relentless and I only have one cat. Definitely harder work than I ever envisaged

Mammma91 · 19/08/2024 19:50

Ohhh I get this! I have 3 cats, 2 children. One of my cats is more work than them all combined. I say that as I’ve just cleaned cat sick off my carpet because he can’t contain his excitement at dinner time and swallows it all bloody whole. I can assure you - my children don’t behave this way. Cats are dicks wild.

CrowleyKitten · 06/11/2024 02:59

one of my mid 40s friends still lives with her parents. she went to UNI, then afterwards, went back.
to be fair, where she lives, getting on the property ladder is insanely expensive, and her family frown on renting as it's "wasted" money. and I agree it is, but for most of us, that's the only option if you want to leave home.

she's always said when she has her own place, she wants a cat. but when she visited, she was so absolutely disgusted every time he used his litter tray she had to leave the room. she could probably never realistically have a cat. yes, it stinks. but you live with it, or take it straight to the bin. she complained about the smell of his food when we fed him. don't kid yourself you can handle a cat, if them going to the toilet or eating leaves you gagging

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