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Cat passed away today

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catmum75 · 04/01/2024 18:33

Just here for a hand hold really
The first cat I ever adopted died today, pretty unexpectedly after a quick deterioration and kidney stone diagnosis this morning. He was only 3.5 and I'm devastated. I know it was the best thing for him but I will miss him so much

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WhineyVaginey · 04/01/2024 18:36

Oh I'm so very sorry. 3.5 is so young, I'm sure his short life with you was full of love & care.💐

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catmum75 · 04/01/2024 18:39

I know, I think that's is the most devastating part because we expected so many more years 😭 just such a shock

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Baldieheid · 04/01/2024 18:41

Oh I'm so truly sorry. That's heartbreaking.

shellyleppard · 04/01/2024 18:43

Catmum75.....so so sorry for your loss x

Fuddlefiend · 04/01/2024 18:44

It's really hard when you lose one particularly so young. Thinking of you x

Chardonnay73 · 04/01/2024 18:46

Aww, you must be devastated 😔 You gave him a great life though, cling onto that, it’s hard, I know x

CatChant · 04/01/2024 18:47

I’m so sorry. It’s a cruel blow to have lost him at such a young age.

Jillybloop393 · 04/01/2024 18:50

I'm so sorry to read that you lost your darling cat .... at far too young an age. It's never easy, but at least if our beloved pets get to old age, we don't feel so cheated. Still heartbroken, of course. I lost two of my dogs last year ... one at 18.5 years (fantastic age), one at 12 years ..... and he really should have been with me for longer 😞. As soon as you can possibly face it, I would say get yourself another kitten/cat. Not to 'replace' the one you've lost - they were unique, and will hold a special place in your heart and head forever, but just because you can .... you have that love to give .... so open your heart to another pet .... it helps, trust me! xx

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catmum75 · 04/01/2024 19:13

Thanks all, I just keep crying and thinking if we could've done anything. Of course we couldn't otherwise we would've but still tough. I was just not expecting to come home without him today

He was so antisocial but he loved me, and I'll miss everything about him. When I was much younger we had dogs live to 16/17/18, too. He was supposed to be annoying us for years yet 😭

We have another cat who is a year younger (and can tell he is confused a bit too) but I do think when the pain subsides a bit we will get another

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Mumsgirls · 04/01/2024 20:32

So sorry that is much too young. My boy was a dominant biter, but also a lap boy. Gone a month and it hurts so much. The hurt is the price we pay for the love. As my boy was a good age had been dreading losing him and hoped he would go on another few years. Was not to be. The only consolation is that like yours he had the best cat life. Run free young boy, over the bridge

SallyWD · 04/01/2024 20:38

I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking. Allow yourself to grieve.

Anontocomment · 04/01/2024 20:39

Oh no sending much love.

Jayinthetub · 04/01/2024 20:46

Big loves Flowers

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catmum75 · 04/01/2024 20:48

Thanks again, I love reading your stories of other DCats. I think as well despite being so young he and I have been through a lot together. We've lived in three houses, I left my DP who I adopted him with and he was with me through that then we lived alone together for a while, I've since got married and had a baby (fast in his short life I know).. he's just been a constant for me in the chaos really!

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Rainbow1901 · 04/01/2024 20:48

So sorry to hear of the loss of your cat. They become so much a part of you and your home that it's not surprising that we miss them so much when the cross the rainbow bridge.
We had our 20 year old cat put to sleep last year as she suddenly deteriorated and we were devastated. We couldn't face replacing her as we couldn't imagine another in her place. But you don't replace animals as they all have their own personalities and after around five months we were ready for a kitten that we adopted from a cat rescue charity. After an initial very shy start, she has come into her own personality and does things entirely differently to our much puss cat and as she's a kitten - she has been so entertaining, funny, affectionate.............. and vocal!!
So mourn your much loved pet - and when - and if you are ready - welcome another new furry bundle. 😾

allmyliesaretrue · 04/01/2024 20:51

Jillybloop393 · 04/01/2024 18:50

I'm so sorry to read that you lost your darling cat .... at far too young an age. It's never easy, but at least if our beloved pets get to old age, we don't feel so cheated. Still heartbroken, of course. I lost two of my dogs last year ... one at 18.5 years (fantastic age), one at 12 years ..... and he really should have been with me for longer 😞. As soon as you can possibly face it, I would say get yourself another kitten/cat. Not to 'replace' the one you've lost - they were unique, and will hold a special place in your heart and head forever, but just because you can .... you have that love to give .... so open your heart to another pet .... it helps, trust me! xx

I am so sorry about your kitty, and so young!

I agree so much with the advice above. We lost our boy 2 years ago this month - he was 20+ we think. I couldn't cope with a cat-less house so a few weeks afterwards I adopted two rescue girls... and we are getting our new rescue boy tomorrow!!

They don't ever replace the furbaby you lost but they are a great distraction, and soon gain their own place in your heart x

JaceLancs · 04/01/2024 21:01

So sorry to hear of your loss x I always feel it’s worse when they are so young
We lost our 5 year old male cat to impacted kidney stone suddenly last year - and I felt awful that maybe if I’d done something differently he could have been saved - I know now that was not the case but it’s taken me a while to realise that

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catmum75 · 04/01/2024 21:10

Thanks for sharing @JaceLancs, I keep thinking the same like was it his diet? Did we give him something he shouldn't have had? Did we get him seen by the vet early enough? Did his last cattery visit stress him out too much?

Like you say the truth is we couldn't have done much more for him and it's senseless to dwell on the unchangeable but that doesn't stop us does it? It just really hurts right now

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AverageJoan · 05/01/2024 07:46

So sorry for your loss, OPFlowers

StrawberryFizz27 · 05/01/2024 07:49

I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost 2 of my boys in 4 months and they were only 5. It's the unexpectedness of it.

Be kind to yourself and in time another cat will help to heal your heart.

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catmum75 · 05/01/2024 08:29

Sorry for your loss @StrawberryFizz27 that must've been really hard.. it definitely is the unexpectedness. I just never envisioned not coming home with him yesterday, I thought whatever was wrong could be sorted with some tablets or something, such a shock

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StrawberryFizz27 · 05/01/2024 09:14

@catmum75 thank you. It really was & I still miss them both like mad. Ginger was May and that was an electric van and Bobs was October so still very fresh and very raw.

I used a private pet crematorium with Bobby and it was so much more personal & nicer than with Ginger. My insurance/petplan were really great too, they sent me a hand written card and forget me nots, which I'll plant in the spring.

I've got their ashes and am thinking of planting them in a big pot I've got so I can take them with me if I move but I'm not ready to do that yet.

I got a new kitten after Ginger and Ozzie my other boy was okay with at her first, but after Bobs he definitely grieved again, it was a really confusing time for him and he was out a lot. They stayed in together one weekend when I was away and it's been better since then.

Give you & your other kitty time. I'm so sorry, it really is shit. Someone said to me when I posted at the time, they might have only been with us for a short period in our lives but we were their whole lives and that really brought me comfort.

I'm thinking of you 💐

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catmum75 · 05/01/2024 13:25

Thank you @StrawberryFizz27 that sounds awful. In the chaos yesterday we opted to have him cremated so we can bring him home but not really sure what we'll do after that point, dreading it to be honest. I do love the pot idea.

Thank you for your words

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Jasmin1971 · 05/01/2024 13:27

I am so sorry

marshmallowfinder · 05/01/2024 13:32

catmum75 · 04/01/2024 21:10

Thanks for sharing @JaceLancs, I keep thinking the same like was it his diet? Did we give him something he shouldn't have had? Did we get him seen by the vet early enough? Did his last cattery visit stress him out too much?

Like you say the truth is we couldn't have done much more for him and it's senseless to dwell on the unchangeable but that doesn't stop us does it? It just really hurts right now

Condolences OP. Very sad. Cheap dried cat food has been noted as a contributor to bladder problems in some cats. The top quality dried foods, or wet food, are much better. Just in case that helps.

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