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I can't cope with the noisy cat

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Despercato · 19/08/2023 20:04

Hi everyone,

Just that really (name changed as I feel awful) - we have an incredibly noisy cat. She meows so loud all the time. It's like having a newborn, she's awake in the middle of the night every night. She meows at our bedroom door just because she wants to see us. She meows loudly in the middle of the night outside as she wants us to open the back door (she's perfectly capable of using the cat flap). I can't cope. It's affecting my mental health, I can't cope with being woken up every single night.

I want to give her up. Is that awful?

OP posts:

nolamesallowed · 20/08/2023 15:12

plantingacattree · 20/08/2023 10:43

@nolamesallowed
But why do you get an animal? Just To look at? Or do you get a pet to join the family...?

Pets are indeed part of the family but they aren't babies or children. They are animals. If an animal is causing an already fragile persons mental health to decline- the decision should be clear.

Telling another human being to suffer and have a mental health decline for a person is not acceptable. It's abnormal to expect other people to have medical emergencies for animals. It reeks of a lack of compassion.

nolamesallowed · 20/08/2023 15:13

I did not mean 'a mental health decline for a person- but for an animal.'

The point standards. Take the cat if it means so much to you but don't cry fake tears for the NHS when it's mental health treatment is inadequate.

QuestionableMouse · 20/08/2023 15:31

Mine is currently sitting in the kitchen yelling because he knows there's tuna in the fridge and wants more! My other cat is quiet and only meows when there's something wrong so having a chatty cat too is quite the adjustment! Some cats are just loud.

Have you tried shutting her in the bedroom with you?

verdantverdure · 20/08/2023 15:35

SomewhereWithSomeone · 20/08/2023 11:17

There’s probably a reason that she’s so loud, stress, boredom, hearing loss, thyroid etc.

We had a cat that was very loud that had a thyroid issue. We have fostered others that were very vocal because they were stressed and had been left alone a lot previously.

I’d start with a full vet check up including bloods, sight check, hearing check, urine and whatever else the vet suggests.

If nothing is showing in them, then it’s likely to be stress, anxiety, boredom, loneliness and you’ll have to address it. Spend more time with her, a cat flap on your bedroom door, products like feliway, change of food, food activity toys, more hiding places for her etc.

You're absolutely correct in all of this.

neilyoungismyhero · 20/08/2023 15:50

We have had a needy randomly noisy black cat for 14 years. We lost his friend who he had always lived with 3 months ago and he has become a ruddy nightmare. He howls and miaows super loudly 60 percent of the day/early mornings and tbh it does drive us nuts. He starts at 6am and keeps going intermittently for a couple of hours at least. He has his breakfast and then starts again...People comment when we're on the phone that they can hear him..it might be he would benefit from another resident cat but that's not happening sadly.
Not much we can do but I think if he was younger like yours OP I might have to rehome him to a deaf couple or someone who didn't mind the racket.

plantingacattree · 20/08/2023 15:50

@nolamesallowed but when you buy or adopt an animal, you take on the responsibility of that animal. OP isn't taking or hasn't YET taken the necessary measures to try and find out what is causing this issue, and then to resolve it.
I'm not saying she should suffer a mental health decline for the sake of an animal, what I am saying is... a noisy cat is not the be all and end all here. In the grand scheme of things, it's an easy fix .. if they want to take measures to fix it.
You can't consider giving up a cat because it's noisy.

neonjumper · 20/08/2023 16:01

We have a very noisy cat . She now sleeps in the playroom with the door shut . This seems to make her feel secure .

When we first got her I found it very draining as I've never had a cat as vocal as her before and the interrupted sleep felt like having toddlers again . I even felt I couldn't go to the loo in the middle of the night as it would set her off.

She initially didn't like being in the room but we have a routine which seems to make her feel secure now and she is quiet in the room .

Firefighter22 · 20/08/2023 16:21

Not much we can do but I think if he was younger like yours OP I might have to rehome him to a deaf couple or someone who didn't mind the racket.

I am sure that I’m not the only person who could just take my hearing aids out or turn them down if my cat was a noisy sod. But depending how thoroughly the vet has investigated possible reasons for the incessant vocalising, it would be worth another check. As pp’s have said, could it be thyroid or other things that might not have been tested for? I know you’ve probably tried, but a Feliway plug-in really calmed my friends cat down after she’d been very thrown out of synch after a UTI and treatment for that.

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