I just wanted opinions on something to do with this please.
My daughter was 13 on Monday. She absolutely desperate for a kitten, one of my friends breeds ragdolls. She fell in love with one of my friend's kittens.
I made it clear to her that she would need to help with the kitten, that I would expect help with the litter tray and remembering to feed etc. I already have an adult cat. Because I knew I was gonna get my daughter the kitten (as a surprise) I also got another little moggie kitten to keep her company as I know kittens are better in pairs and I couldn't afford two ragdolls - even though my friend gave me the kitten at a much reduced price.
My daughter was adamant that she would help and she begged and pleaded for this kitten. So on Monday I surprised her with the kitten and she was so happy.
But she hasn't helped with the kitten once. Her younger brother helps feed and he bought the kittens a bed with his own money. I asked my eldest to help with the litter tray just now, she never does anything around the house and all she wants to do is play on her phone. She does play with the kitten and cuddle her but point blank refuses to help put food down and refused just now to empty the litter tray and pop new litter in. I do everything round the house as well. I have exploded at her just now and sent her to her dad's. Her complete insolence and rudeness and point blank refusal to help has driven me mad. The kitten cost me a fair bit of money, and now I have two extra kittens I didn't necessarily want.
Would I be unfair to give the kitten back to my friend? The kitten was expensive and what makes me even more upset is that my car went wrong last week and I don't have the money to fix it, I'm gonna have to pull every single bit of cash I have from everywhere to get it fixed. I'm a single mum, I have a job, and have to have a car. if I had not bought her a pricey kitten my car would not be an issue.
Perhaps I am being stupid and selfish. The kitten is gorgeous. She is adorable and friendly and I don't want to give her back. But money is so tight and my daughter is showing no appreciation. Help :(