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Devastated. My baby boy is being PTS tomorrow

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 00:39

My beautiful, empathetic, gentle friend … my companion, my purring, whiskered beautiful boy.

The vet’s coming to the house tomorrow. I feel like an executioner, knowing this. Planned since Thursday when I took him in & they offered to do it then and there.

This is the worst part of loving cats isn’t it?

He seems perfectly fine, purring away. Giving me kisses. But I know it’s time, he’s got an awful tumour, among other things & he’s about 15-17.

He’s incredibly empathetic and sort of psychic. Whenever I cry he rushes to comfort me. I think he might know his time is coming to an end & I feel absolutely devastated.

Devastated. My baby boy is being PTS tomorrow
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Inkypot · 22/05/2023 00:44

Hand hold OP. I'm so sorry to read that you're saying goodbye to your beautiful boy, it is not an easy step at all.
Our old boy had to be pts at 21 years old and it still feel sad to think about even though this happened many years ago.
Sending you a big cuddle, it is not easy at all but you are giving him a safe and gentle journey into the next life. So much love.

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 00:45

Welp I really fucked up when adding a picture. Christ. Life. Anyway enjoy my blood tests …

trying to get deleted.

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 00:48

Inkypot · 22/05/2023 00:44

Hand hold OP. I'm so sorry to read that you're saying goodbye to your beautiful boy, it is not an easy step at all.
Our old boy had to be pts at 21 years old and it still feel sad to think about even though this happened many years ago.
Sending you a big cuddle, it is not easy at all but you are giving him a safe and gentle journey into the next life. So much love.

Thank you @Inkypot . It’s not easy at all is it. I’m sorry you went through the same.

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 00:53

It’s just me and him in this together.

I feel so guilty yet I know it’s right. I can’t believe he won’t be here this time tomorrow.

DD is nearly 5 but I don’t think she really understands what’s happening.

my partner is being an absolute bell end, but that’s par for the course for him.

(have another lovely robust cat who is about 6-7 but she’s off out chasing mice, not giving a fuck & generally being a cat)

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 00:56

Anxious yet hopeful little face always.

Devastated. My baby boy is being PTS tomorrow
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Inkypot · 22/05/2023 00:56

Not easy at all. It was a long while ago now but I do know it was the hardest decision.
I also remember our cat before him struggled with many health issues and we couldn't face having her pts. We let nature take its course and it felt the right thing at the time, but on reflection she probably did end up suffering more than she would've done if we had done the kind thing and let her go.
It is so hard because it feels like it goes against every fibre of your being as an animal lover but try and look at it like this instead- this is one of the final acts of love and kindness you can do for your boy. A last act of compassion to help him. And you are doing this so lovingly.
I hope you are having all the cuddles with him tonight and hold him close as you can. You are doing what we really should have done for our old girl, I know it won't feel like it at all but you are. Bless you xxx

AliceOlive · 22/05/2023 01:00

He’s so handsome. I’m so so sorry. I know it’s just gutting.

MuddaUdders · 22/05/2023 01:03

Sorry to hear this. I still reminisce about our cat and miss her terribly x

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 01:07

That’s so well put @Inkypot . Thank
you so much for replying and understanding, as I’m having such a wobble.

But yes I do feel it’s a final act of compassion. He’s not a well boy, bless him, and he doesn’t deserve to suffer.
But I’m just dreading it.

I also left my previous cat for far too long suffering I think and it haunts me. The vet kept saying there were things they could do and she had so many interventions when I should have just let her go. It was horrific at the end.

but my boy can go peacefully tomorrow with all the love I have for him sending him on his way.

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Inkypot · 22/05/2023 01:11

Of course. You deserve some of that compassion too OP. Cuddle him close and know that you are not alone.
I'll check back in on you tomorrow evening to see how you're doing then. I'm away to bed at the moment but don't want you thinking I've forgotten you. I promise I will check back.
Lots of love OP, to you and you gorgeous big boy xxxxx

Catcatcat12 · 22/05/2023 01:24

He is beautiful. I’m so sorry xx

Furries · 22/05/2023 01:57

What beautiful eyes.

It is a cruel twist of fate that our biggest act of kindness and love is the one that breaks our hearts.

Keep posting whenever you need to - everyone here knows how it feels.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 22/05/2023 11:27

I'm so sorry, he's a beautiful boy. We had our boy, my soul cat, PTS 7 weeks ago tomorrow and it's the most awful decision but also the kindest. We had no choice as the vet believes he had a blood clot that paralysed his back legs but I still felt bloody awful signing the paperwork.

Sending much love to you and your darling boy.

hartof · 22/05/2023 11:30

I'm so sorry. It is the absolute worst part of living them.

Defiantlynot41 · 22/05/2023 11:43

FlowersFlowersFlowers so sorry OP

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 12:49

Thank you all. He's gone. He was out in the garden, poor love. I brought him in and up to the bed. He got a bit freaked out because there were two people, and his little leg had to be shaved. His heart started beating really fast and he tried to leave ... oh my heart. But he had a sedative, and he just zoned out. At least it was quick ... one minute in the garden ... next few minutes all done. More peaceful than my last cat, but still so sad.

My other cat is here & she ran away when she saw the vet & the nurse, so I don't know what she's going to think now my boy is gone. Wonder if she will look for him, or wonder where he's gone, because she didn't come back until it was all over. They weren't related and didn't exactly love each other loads but tolerated each other well and would sleep side by side a fair bit.

Anyway, rest in peace darling boy.

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Justlovedogs · 22/05/2023 12:58

So, so sorry for you, OP. Sending hugs and flowers for you and fusses for your other cat. It's the most horrible thing to go through but you've had many good years with him. Try to hold on to those thoughts. Flowers

ifIwerenotanandroid · 22/05/2023 12:59

Oh my dear, I'm so sorry to read this thread. Sending you lots of love.

Been there, done it. Even when it's the right thing to do, it still hurts like hell, inside. Be gentle with yourself for the next few days. Expect tears at odd moments. Remember the love & the years you had with such a wonderful cat: that gift remains, & it's yours forever.

Catcatcat12 · 22/05/2023 13:16

So sorry for you. I hope you and your other cat are ok. Pets break our hearts, we love them so much and it’s just awful when they are gone. Xx

AllTheOtherCats · 22/05/2023 13:16

So, so sorry Brown Jug. I've been there several times in the last three and a half years and your 'executioner' comment rang true. But it's true that it IS the final kindness that we can give them although it may not feel like it at the time.

You clearly loved your boy and always will love him. The photos show how gorgeous he was. Such a beautiful, knowing face. He'll always be with you in one way or another x

Catcatcat12 · 22/05/2023 13:19

So glad you were able to be with him, and support him through it all. 🌸

maranella · 22/05/2023 13:26

Flowers @LittleBrownJug

You did the kind thing for your boy, but it's heartbreaking nonetheless. RIP

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LittleBrownJug · 22/05/2023 13:26

Catcatcat12 · 22/05/2023 13:19

So glad you were able to be with him, and support him through it all. 🌸

Thank you, you're right. It was an act of love and care, and I was lucky to be with him, rather than in an emergency situation, or a beloved pet passing away without anyone being there, which has happened to me in the past. My heart is in a million pieces but I know it was the right thing to do.

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Belami · 22/05/2023 13:49

Sending you all the love , you did the right thing for your precious boy. Can't imagine how you are feeling, they are such a big part of our lives ❤️

afaloren · 22/05/2023 15:39

Sending so much love to you and your other cat. My last three all died in fairly traumatic circumstances and I wish I’d had the chance to let them go gently, at home, like your boy. You did the right thing x

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