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Advice on how to reduce the number of cats in my life?

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WhiplashGirlchild · 03/10/2022 23:25

We've always had a cat and I wouldn't be without one. But several years ago a pregnant (autocorrect went with legendary!) queen arrived in the garden. Naturally, we took her in and in due course she had a litter of six beautiful kittens.

Our cat was old so we decided to keep a pair of kittens (our cat tolerated them quite well) and found homes for the others. I got the mother cat spayed and expected her to move on because she was very nervous and semi feral.

Long story short, two kittens were returned to us when a friend emigrated, one kitten was rehomed locally and found her way back to us and moved himself in. The mother cat bonded with our old cat and settled in for the long term. Then my sweet old gentleman cat died aged 18.

So the total number I'm feeding is six. I'm fond of each of them and their adorable personalities but it's more than I ever intended to care for. They are all chipped, neutered and vaccinated, that's not the problem, just the sheer quantity is too high. I'd love to just have the pair that I chose originally.

These are adult, independent cats. I feel sure that if I rehomed them anywhere in my area they'd find their way home. They would need to find a better situation than they are in now before I'd let them go. Lastly, they are tame and respond to us but they (all but one) are very nervous of other humans and are not well behaved lap cats.

Do I have to make peace with being a 6 cat parent or is there another way to solve this??

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PurplRainDancer · 03/10/2022 23:27

Make peace you’re fabulous 💐

FlowerArranger · 03/10/2022 23:34

Get in touch with RSPCA adoption. They list pets that are up for adoption on their website. You can make it clear that the adopters need to be based at least x miles away.

I foster for the RSPCA and so far all my fosters have been adopted by people who lived over an hour away. One woman drove 3 hours to get her ‘special’ kitty!!

WhiplashGirlchild · 03/10/2022 23:46

FlowerArranger · 03/10/2022 23:34

Get in touch with RSPCA adoption. They list pets that are up for adoption on their website. You can make it clear that the adopters need to be based at least x miles away.

I foster for the RSPCA and so far all my fosters have been adopted by people who lived over an hour away. One woman drove 3 hours to get her ‘special’ kitty!!

There are so many cats in rescues around here that are being fostered and are homeless it seems wrong to add mine to the list. Also, I worry that they'd never settle in a new home because of their feral background and unfamiliarity with people.

Here's a pic of two of them packed up and ready to go

Advice on how to reduce the number of cats in my life?
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Couchpotato3 · 03/10/2022 23:51

When you say that 6 is too many, what is the actual issue? Do they all get on OK together? Obviously there is a cost to feeding 6 cats, but other than that, what is bothering you about having them? We had 6 and they were individually wonderful but could not get on at all and I eventually re-homed two of them (to a family member and a friend). Cats are low maintenance pets compared to a dog, for instance - they pretty much look after themselves. Can you say a bit more about what you are struggling with?

Aretheyhavingalaugh · 04/10/2022 00:10

We had 1 cat who had 4 kittens, I wanted to re-home at least 2 of them but DH was having none of it. We now have 5 cats a year on and I wouldn't be without them, they are lovely.

syntoandtoast · 04/10/2022 00:17

No advice but OP, you are wonderful Flowers

WhiplashGirlchild · 04/10/2022 00:47

Couchpotato3 · 03/10/2022 23:51

When you say that 6 is too many, what is the actual issue? Do they all get on OK together? Obviously there is a cost to feeding 6 cats, but other than that, what is bothering you about having them? We had 6 and they were individually wonderful but could not get on at all and I eventually re-homed two of them (to a family member and a friend). Cats are low maintenance pets compared to a dog, for instance - they pretty much look after themselves. Can you say a bit more about what you are struggling with?

I'd like to concentrate my attention and money on two cats. As you can imagine, the cats run the household. When we have visitors who don't like cats I have to round them up and with six it's a big job. It's just a lot. I'd like to give them better food and more care and attention. Sometimes it's like running a leisure centre more than a household.
It's not an urgent issue. I just feel like it's got a bit out of hand.

I think I would be happier and two cats would be happier in a smaller family. It's just that the other cats might not be happier anywhere else.

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Supersimkin2 · 04/10/2022 01:11

OP you are superb. Autocorrect was right - you’re legendary.

Being run ragged by petcare 😽😽😽 and you need a little break. Have a day out.

The cats love you. They’re not going anywhere in a hurry. You have been Chosen.

mountainsunsets · 04/10/2022 08:02

Cost issues aside, there is absolutely no way I would be rounding up my cats and moving them for a visitor - and I only have three 😬

It's their home. If the visitor doesn't like cats, they don't have to come over or we can arrange to meet elsewhere as far as I'm concerned 🤷🏻‍♀️

Finances are different though and if you genuinely feel like you're struggling with six then I would maybe look at re-homing two of of them as a bonded pair - could they maybe go somewhere as barn cats if they're not great with humans?

DifficultBloodyWoman · 04/10/2022 08:09

The cats live there, the visitor doesn’t. Visitor can stop visiting.

Probably not what you want to hear but I think the cats came back to your for a reason. You are their chosen person. Accept your lot in life!

HairyMothballs · 04/10/2022 08:13

If you can afford to, I'd say keep them all!

As for some guests not liking cats - hard luck, the cats live in your home. Guests should be expected to fit in around the cats.

had cats for 42 years

FlowerArranger · 04/10/2022 10:34

@WhiplashGirlchild - don't be guilted into keeping more of these cats than you are comfortable with. 6 cats is a lot.

Finding a farm for the two slightly feral ones would be a good call. But don't be afraid of listing them on the RSPCA adoption website and/or with other cat rescues. Someone out there WILL want them, and advertising is the way to connect with potential new.homes.

WhiplashGirlchild · 04/10/2022 11:08

mountainsunsets · 04/10/2022 08:02

Cost issues aside, there is absolutely no way I would be rounding up my cats and moving them for a visitor - and I only have three 😬

It's their home. If the visitor doesn't like cats, they don't have to come over or we can arrange to meet elsewhere as far as I'm concerned 🤷🏻‍♀️

Finances are different though and if you genuinely feel like you're struggling with six then I would maybe look at re-homing two of of them as a bonded pair - could they maybe go somewhere as barn cats if they're not great with humans?

I really like the idea of rehoming two as well cared for barn cats. They'd be really happy running around the countryside killing anything smaller than them 😁 and then coming home for food and a little praise. I don't know if that's a thing though? I'm in Ireland but we have our equivalent of the RSPCC. I'll send them an email.

I think most of you might be right. I appear to be the neighborhood Chosen One and I should accept the honour with grace.

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Shmithecat2 · 04/10/2022 11:17

I get how you feel OP. 6 is a lot. I had 6 and it's fairly consuming! I didn't aim to have 6 cats, but being active in rescue etc, they just happened upon me really. I love them all but sometimes I wish I had none. Although I know I don't really mean it as I did lose a cat to illness a couple of months ago and I was immediately googling ginger cats for rescue 😳. That was mainly as my heart was still is broken and the loss to me was huge. We're sticking at 5, all but one of them are now middle aged as such. I've said to myself I won't be getting anymore as the numbers inevitably depleat as it would be nice to shed the responsibility gradually, but I think I'm trying to convince myself of that still.

user7817811 · 04/10/2022 11:23

I can see how 6 is a lot, 1 attention-seeking demanding little tyrant is a lot here. We quite often see ads for farm cats around here so presumably people want them to keep mice down etc. Can you approach a local rescue and see if they'll let you keep them with you until you find a new home?

Costacoffeeplease · 04/10/2022 11:23

We currently have 13 so 6 would be a doddle 😄

Whiskeypowers · 04/10/2022 11:26

I’ve got three and they are very loved but cost a lot and are hard work.
Take my cat hat off to you

BlueKaftan · 04/10/2022 11:28

Those two are gorgeous!

StillNotWarm · 04/10/2022 11:28

I'm not convinced you have 6.
We need pictures of the rest!

If those 2 in the box would survive the postage, I'll have them!!!

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 04/10/2022 11:37

I do wonder if this entire thread is just to enable OP to show off a brilliant picture of two gorgeous cats in a box 😁.
Being serious I would base any decision on reducing your cat footprint (pawprint?) on how your cats are coping. If there are visible signs of stress amongst your cats then rehoming some might be advisable. If however they are all happy I'd be inclined to keep them.

WhiplashGirlchild · 04/10/2022 13:24

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 04/10/2022 11:37

I do wonder if this entire thread is just to enable OP to show off a brilliant picture of two gorgeous cats in a box 😁.
Being serious I would base any decision on reducing your cat footprint (pawprint?) on how your cats are coping. If there are visible signs of stress amongst your cats then rehoming some might be advisable. If however they are all happy I'd be inclined to keep them.

They all get on surprisingly well. Lots of play fighting but lots of head bumping as well.
Here you can see how unrepentant they are about taking over

Advice on how to reduce the number of cats in my life?
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anderosonnmj · 04/10/2022 13:32

How much outdoor space do you have? Could you set up a shed or similar with a microchip cat flap and then feed the cats in there? And put some beds and cat trees in it? Then only let the well-behaved lap cat into your home?

Or only let the cats into the kitchen? This is what my granny used to do when she took in strays. The cats were never let into the house but seemed to be quite content sitting in the kitchen and sleeping in the shed.

FlowerArranger · 04/10/2022 17:54

Oh yes, your cats are indeed gorgeous, @WhiplashGirlchild !!!!

However, if you are under financial pressure just feeding them all, it would be wise to remove some of them while they are still fairly young.

Because they will become infinitely more expensive as they get older, as I'm sure you know. And much easier to find a new home if they are 4 years old or younger.

Speaking as a seasoned shelter volunteer...

FlowerArranger · 04/10/2022 17:54

REHOME, not remove...!!!

catandcoffee · 04/10/2022 18:00

This has got to be a
' look at my adorable cats ' thread in disguise.
They are amazing looking cats 😍