My cat is dying Advise please

[Cocopogo]

My poor boy, he has cancer and has now stopped eating. It’s so hard to know whether he’s suffering. He’s getting more wobbly with each day. I’ve tried a few different foods to encourage him to eat but nothings working. He’s just skin and bones now. He can still jump on the bed, just about, and go to toilet etc. It there anything I can give him to eat, make him more comfortable, when will I know it’s time?

I'm really sorry but it sounds to me like the time is now. Cats are very stoic creatures - if he's not eating then the chances are he's in pain. Better to let him go now then wait till the last minute - after all, better a week too soon than a day too late.

I'm sorry op I know how hard it is saying goodbye

When they stop eating its time. I'm sorry.

I’m sorry you are going through this.

I think whenever a much loved pet stops eating and their quality of life has diminished and they struggle to get comfy, then it is time.

You know your lad best. We can’t tell you what to do.

Just ask yourself honestly if his life is no longer joyful. Deep in your heart you will know your answer.

now, sorry. Had to make a decision like this ourselves 2 yrs ago. It's time when they can't eat any more.

I'm so sorry, this happened to my boy for the same reasons. Cats can get very sick even from just two days of not eating abs the wobblyness and hiding pain is just like how my boy was near the end., please take your lovely boy to the vet to see if it's "time" or there's anything further to comfort him x

I'm so sorry he's so poorly, it's heartbreaking when you can't help them x

Oh no, I was hoping someone might have some random recipe of sardines or something that might perk him up for a week or two longer. He’s asleep now so I will wait until the morning if I can then the kids can say goodbye too.

I'm really sorry, but the time is now. The kindest thing is to let him go. I had to have my cat put to sleep recently and I was with her at the end. She looked into my eyes and I honestly believe that she was saying thank you for helping me to be free. She knew I loved her.

Also don’t know what to do with him. Do I bring him home and bury him or do I send him away to be cremated. It’s so awful and hard but DC need me to be strong and make these decisions.

So sorry you are facing this, but I think you have made the right decision.

For what it is worth I have always left body disposal to the vet. I have photos and memories of my cats, I don’t need little boxes of ashes or a garden grave to remember them by.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree best to get him to the vet first thing tomorrow. We cremated both of our beloved cats and their ashes are currently in the house. I didn't want to bury them as we may move house again. Thinking of you and your loved cat.

Please let your cat now go in peace. It's the last kindness we can give.
If you can hold it together, be with your cat. I was. It was a comfort for both us. Her ashes were sprinkled under rose bushes planed behind the veterinary clinic.

I think when they stop eating, it is time. Especially if other things have been tried.
I wished I had been able to give my boy the gift of sleep, I will do so for any future cats. A parting gift.
Please call the vet today and discuss. It is hard to do but the vet will make the final call, and will not do anything unless they are also sure that it is time.

My cats are buried and it gives me a sad peace to tend to their graves and known that they are sleeping there.

It's time. Do it today. What you do with his body is up to you and won't matter to him. What will make a difference to him is a pleasant death and being spared unnecessary suffering. So do it today.

It's definitely time 🙁

I had my previous cats cremated and their ashes scattered without coming back to me. I have a garden bench with brass plaques on for them instead.

I didn't want to bury them as we have a lot of foxes.

Ring your vet and ask their advice. Your cat could be in a lot of pain.it is time. The vet will tell you it is time. Listen. You love your pet and can end his suffering. Be strong and kind.

I have sent you a PM as I had a similar situation a while ago.

Regarding the cremation etc, my vet just asked me whether we wanted the group (?) cremation which means you don’t get the ashes back, or a private one. They arrange it all so no need for you to look into it yourself. You can then scatter the ashes in your garden, or keep them if you prefer.

If I were you I’d make an appointment for this evening so that the children will be able to see him to say goodbye but so that your cat doesn’t have to wait too long. Our own cat deteriorated so quickly at the end that even 12 hours made a big difference.

I lost my gem of a cat last year. He was only 8. I miss him so much. He had a huge tumour on his shoulder blades and we were just watching this tumour grow and watching him suffer and he was dying every day. The best thing we did for him was to end his suffering. We suffered as a result with all the grief and sorrow but our pain was eased by easing his.

Please consider now. When my cat died there was virtually no time between moving about, eating a bit and actively dying. I realised on morning she was dying (heavily asleep, only tolerating utter privacy and quiet, dragging back legs) and made an emergency appointment for early afternoon. She died 3 hours later and I so regret not taking a brave decision to euthanase her a few weeks before. So sorry.

We had to make this decision two weeks ago. Our cat had congestive heart failure - the diuretic pills helped greatly and he almost become frisky again, but then a few weeks after he went on them he stopped eating, and couldn't be tempted by dreamies, mackerel or smoked salmon. He was still drinking and walking about so I gave him one last morning in the sun, and then took him to the vets. When they stop eating then they are telling you that it is time.

It's the hardest part of owning pets, knowing when to let them go. So sorry for you and your family.

My beautiful boy has been pts first thing this morning. Thank you for all your messages

Thinking of you. You gave him your last and kindest act of love in doing that.

@Cocopogo so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you all xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. You did the kindest thing for him

Sorry for your loss. They are part of the family. I lost my 21 year old girl a few days ago and it's a horrible empty feeling without her here.
You did the best thing for your boy.

I'm really sorry for your loss. We are still mourning our two boys who died a year apart and can honestly say I never thought I would fondly remember the times they scattered a chicken carcass over the house or kept peeing on the welcome mat.

Every memory is treasured just as your family's memories of your little fella will be too xx