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Can’t stop crying

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Madwife123 · 12/09/2021 18:17

My cat died last night. It was horrific and I’m so shaken up by it. I just can’t stop crying. Everything seems to set me off. I need to go to work tomorrow and I don’t know how I’m going to contain myself. I feel absolutely traumatised. She was only 4 years old. This shouldn’t have happened. Poor baby.

Can’t stop crying
OP posts:
PinkMitten · 12/09/2021 18:21

Hi, I'm so sorry this has happened, she looks like a beautiful girl. I lost my cat soulmate recently too and still feel heartbroken, and it wasn't a traumatic death so I can't imagine how you are feeling. I would encourage you to ask for some time off if you can, even a day- I was given two days leave and this really helped me to process what happened. Sending love.

ItsSnowJokes · 12/09/2021 18:23

Sending hugs and love. It is so hard when they pass whatever age they are. Just be kind to yourself, if you cry in work so be it. Could you take tomorrow off? Some companies understand these things more than others.

PumpkinKlNG · 12/09/2021 18:26

Aww I’m sorry, she was beautiful 😢

thefirstmrsrochester · 12/09/2021 18:32

Oh op, what a beautiful girl. It’s just such a shock when you lose a pet so suddenly. She was one of your family and it will take time to come to terms with it. Agree with pp’s that if at all possible, take tomorrow off. Much love to you Flowers

Blackkbird · 12/09/2021 18:33

I'm so sorry.

SirenSays · 12/09/2021 18:36

💐💐💐

Suzi888 · 12/09/2021 18:39

Flowers So sorry, she was gorgeous.

BrilloPaddy · 12/09/2021 18:39

We lost ours last year and even though he died at home lying in the sun just as I'd wanted, I still cried for days ....... it's just the worst part of having pets.

It's perfectly ok to grieve and cry, especially when it's been unexpected. Be kind to yourself.

Flowers
Cleverpolly3 · 12/09/2021 18:40

Oh that’s so sad. What a beautiful cat she was Flowers

cheeseislife8 · 12/09/2021 18:41

What a beautiful girl! I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'd definitely think about asking for a sick day after such an awful shock Flowers

Motorina · 12/09/2021 18:45

I’m so sorry. But what a lucky cat to be so loved.

Wintercoffee · 12/09/2021 18:47

I lost my soul mate cat to a very traumatic death in 2015, it took me a week for my swollen eyes to calm down. Take time off work if you can. The pain does become less in time, as hard as it is now. Your wee one is at total peace now xx

Madwife123 · 12/09/2021 22:10

Can’t take tomorrow off sadly. I’m NHS staff with a manager that made me use annual leave for my grandads funeral. Calling in sick with a pet death would not go down well.

I’m just in shock. She was literally playing one minute, absolutely fine. Then she collapsed and starting screaming. Literally screaming in agony, a sound I’ve never heard before and will haunt me forever.

Rushed her to the vets and by the time we got there she couldn’t move, her back legs had no pulse and her temperature was dropping. We weren’t allowed in with her so sat in the car sobbing not knowing if she was alive or in pain. It was horrific.

They phoned to say she had a heart scan and it confirmed a massive aortic embolism. Her entire aorta had collapsed and she was in heart failure. There was nothing we could do. She was in excruciating pain due to the pressure in her aorta and the blocked blood supply to her rear legs meant the tissue was slowly dying.

They allowed us in to say goodbye. She was terrified. Screaming in pain until the drugs finally kicked in. It broke my heart.

She was only 4 years old. Fit and healthy. Never had a problem. It’s apparently really rare and just one of those things but I swear I’ll be haunted by her screams and the look of help me in her eyes.

I can’t stop myself crying. I don’t know how I’ll cope trying to be professional in work. I normally check my kitty cam a few times a day and now I won’t see her little face looking at me when I call her through it. She won’t be there waiting at the window when I get home.

It feels so silly to be so torn up over “just a cat” when people go through way worse every day but she was my companion, helped me through so much, the constant comfort to me no matter what. She was my spoilt baby and followed my every move. Every time I look down at my feet to check I’m not about to stand on her I fall apart again.

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Brollypackedforscottishholiday · 12/09/2021 22:29

Remember op she wasn't just a dcat.
They really are part of your family.
So sorry for your loss.

stealingbeauty · 12/09/2021 22:29

I’m so sorry to read this. I know how horrible it is to lose a special pet. They really are family members and it takes a long time to come to terms with it all. Losing a companion is a VERY big deal 💐

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 12/09/2021 22:40

Pets are never just pets and I feel for anyone who doesn’t see why they can be a just anything.

They are beloved members of the family. They are sources of love. Little entertainers. Charming companions. Sometimes they are the bringers of exasperation. Makers of mess. Furniture destroyers. Expensive like you would never fathom.

But loved - always loved. And ultimately they give us so much joy when we have them. And so much heartache when we don’t.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m so sorry it was so awful for you both.

But if you can, let your thoughts be guided to happier times when you are ready. Grieve and cry as much as you need to until that time.

A lot of us know your pain. And we are so sorry Flowers

ilovesooty · 13/09/2021 00:56

I'm so, so sorry. She was beautiful and much loved. I'm sorry for how she died too. When we lose our loved one it's never 'just a pet'. Thinking of you.

FlowerArranger · 13/09/2021 01:00

So very sorry, @Madwife123... I have no words but I know how hard this is for you.Flowers

Heffapotamus · 13/09/2021 11:55

I'm so so sorry xxx

Doggiedementia · 13/09/2021 11:56

I’m so sorry

caringcarer · 13/09/2021 12:03

What a horrible death for her and a terrible shock for you. Just try to remember you loved her and gave her a very happy life whilst she was with you. My cat went missing on September 13th last year. Several cats in my cul de sac all went missing on the same day. My girl was half Bengal and 3 Mane Coons owned by our neighbours. I still worry about if she is alive or dead and who would steal her from me. I made a montage of photos of my Mystique and it helps having her photos on the wall.

Amrapaali · 13/09/2021 13:00

So sorry for your loss @Madwife123 - it truly is tragic and sounds like a traumatic death.

If you feel up to it, can you share stories about her? Would love to hear about her favourite toy, her little quirks... what is her name?

BrilloPaddy · 13/09/2021 13:00

Thank goodness you were with her Flowers at least you were able to get her help quickly and she didn't suffer for longer than she needed to.

What an awful shock.

heldinadream · 13/09/2021 13:11

Gosh OP I really hope you took the day off somehow because that sounds really traumatic and upsetting. So sorry. Poor dcat and poor you. Flowers

Ostryga · 13/09/2021 13:15

Oh op I am so sorry. A death is hard enough to come to terms with, let alone it being so traumatic.

You were with her at the end, and that will have given her some comfort, even if she was in pain. She was loved for her whole life and that more than a lot of animals can say. She was lucky to have you.

Sending you love Flowers Look after yourself