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Can’t stop crying

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Madwife123 · 12/09/2021 18:17

My cat died last night. It was horrific and I’m so shaken up by it. I just can’t stop crying. Everything seems to set me off. I need to go to work tomorrow and I don’t know how I’m going to contain myself. I feel absolutely traumatised. She was only 4 years old. This shouldn’t have happened. Poor baby.

Can’t stop crying
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SoloISland · 13/09/2021 15:25

@FlowerArranger

So very sorry, *@Madwife123*... I have no words but I know how hard this is for you.Flowers
OP; weeping with you. . be kind to you please and take care? Just know you are loved and held here.
Fluffycloudland77 · 13/09/2021 20:04

How was work? it's always so bloody painful to lose them and you saw something very traumatic.

GoodVibesHere · 13/09/2021 20:09

I'm so very sorry you are going through this. The pain of losing them is awful, particularly one which follows you about and is a loyal friend. It's heartbreaking.

She has a loving look in her eyes, in the photo you shared.

I'm so sorry for the way it happened. It's horrible and I'm not surprised that it keeps repeating in your mind. You will need time to recover from the shock. You are no doubt emotionally exhausted so you must try to rest, eat, be kind and gentle to yourself, let your mind have the space to process that she is gone.

I'm so sorry x

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Madwife123 · 14/09/2021 17:14

Thank you everyone. It’s so helpful to have people who get it. Lots of really life people don’t seem to understand how much bond you have. She was literally my shadow. I was never without her and it’s like my arm has suddenly been cut off.

Our other cat is clearly mourning as well. She’s been walking round the house looking for her. They were mother and daughter so they had never been apart. It’s so sad.

I’ve been looking at the little paw prints the vet did for me today. I’ve found that helpful.

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AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit · 14/09/2021 17:18

So sorry. Poor Puss xx 💔

Wintercoffee · 14/09/2021 17:22

I absolutely agree with what you said OP, it feels like everyday people in your life don’t understand how heart broken you are over your cat, but they’re not just a cat! They’re our wee best friends, animal soul mates and as you said companions in life. I remember one of my cats having to be put down because he couldn’t breathe due to his lungs being filled with liquid. It was AWFUL, I cried all the way home on the train. Worked helped to stop thinking about it but as soon as I was alone with my thoughts I grieved all over again. The pain eventually subsides, think of all the happy times and how well you took care of them, giving them treats and pets.

I don’t know how spiritual you are but it helps me talking to my pets after they passed and explaining what happened, rationalising and send ALL my love. It helps immensely in the healing process.

Fluffycloudland77 · 14/09/2021 17:29

People don’t understand the bond at all. I miss mine the most when I put the recycling out and he’s not there supervising me,

Evvyjb · 14/09/2021 21:28

Oh I'm having a cry for you. I lost my soulcat last summer and its still so painful. We get it.

I had my girl cremated and her ashes are in a little round wooden cat. Its a great shape to sit in your hand and I really comforting weight. I sit and chat to her often and tell her how much she is missed.

ElephantCup · 14/09/2021 21:50

My cat had a traumatic death too, and I felt so guilty that I couldn’t save him. But he definitely knew that I loved him, and he had such a happy life apart from the very end. I thought I would never get over it, but little by little it gets easier. I still think so him so often, but he makes me laugh and smile now. Your cat knew that you loved her too xxx

MrsCatE · 15/09/2021 06:45

Lots of hugs. She was absolutely beautiful. I can’t imagine how awful it must have been to witness this. My cat died in March and that was shocking but instant - I never thought I’d say this but I was lucky in that I didn’t have to go through what you had to. You obviously gave her the best life. I hope you’re getting some support from colleagues x Flowers

FiveShelties · 15/09/2021 06:52

@Madwife123

I am so very sorry, it must have been awful to see her in so much pain. She looks so gorgeous and very well loved. Hugs for you and your other cat.

LittleGreyFluffyCat · 15/09/2021 21:19

I'm so sorry OP. I've just come here to post because my own little grey kitten was found dead in the early hours of this morning. She was killed by a car. She was just 1 year 4.5 months, but she was still the tiniest little thing, so I often called her my kitten instead of my cat.

I can't think straight and her brother looks very confused and lost.

Blankspace4 · 15/09/2021 21:23

I’m so sorry OP. I know exactly how you feel. I’ve never wept as much or for so long as when I lost my cat. He was my best friend and it was such a shock. Be kind to yourself.

Sorry also to @LittleGreyFluffyCat that’s so heartbreaking too. Squeeze her little brother tight ❤️

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Madwife123 · 17/09/2021 21:55

@LittleGreyFluffyCat So sorry you’re also having to deal with this.

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pollyroo · 17/09/2021 22:06

OP your description of what happened sounds truly harrowing & heart wrenching. I too have a cat ( she's 13 ) & if I went through that I would be too traumatised & broken to deal with anything for a while. Some of us are a little sensitive than others & it affects us differently .... sorry I can't offer any helpful advice other than allow yourself a little cry when you need to,

You poor love x Your poor baby x Be kind to yourself as you did the best you could Thanks

LittleGreyFluffyCat · 17/09/2021 22:15

How are you today @Madwife123 ? I keep feeling like I'm ok and then suddenly I'll be sobbing again.

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Madwife123 · 17/09/2021 23:59

Exactly the same. Feel ok for a short while and then I feed the other cats and start sobbing because there is one bowl less. Or I come across one of her toys etc. I alternate between feeling silly for being so upset and then feeling like people just don’t understand how close a pet is. Such mixed emotions.

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pollyroo · 18/09/2021 08:52

@Madwife123 You we're in my thoughts this morning when I woke up Thanks

LittleGreyFluffyCat · 18/09/2021 08:57

It's horrible isn't it? I am struggling with this more than I expected, and I'm much more upset than the rest of my family.

My two kittens, brother and sister, came home in June last year. It was a strange time because of Covid, and then I became quite ill for a couple of months (not Covid). The kittens were such a comfort to me through this time. Since my kittens arrived I've been working from home and my cats have been a big part of my life.

I'm finding it so hard to accept that my little grey cat is never coming home, that I'll never again see her curled up in a perfect fluffy shape or find her snuggled up with her brother. She was a very vocal cat and the house is too quiet without her. And seeing her brother always alone when he's always been part of a pair is just so sad.

OP are you burying or cremating?

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