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Ilovemycat13 · 20/08/2021 07:51

My beautiful cat last night all of a sudden lost use of his back legs. Took him to the emergency vet where they told me he had a clot which is why he couldn’t use his legs and his heart murmur turned to heart failure.

During the night he was given methadone for pain, diuretics for his lungs and blood thinners for his clot. Luckily I heard nothing through the night so I’m hoping he responded well.

I am absolutely devastated. I’ve never dealt with a poorly pet before or god forbid a loss. I am so broken. He is only 4 😔

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EatSprayGlove · 20/08/2021 07:53

Oh no I'm so sorry have everything crossed for you and kitty FlowersFlowersFlowers

Fluffycloudland77 · 20/08/2021 09:29

I’m sorry, that’s no age to be poorly. At least he isn’t suffering now he’s had painkillers & you acted quickly.

Mumdiva99 · 20/08/2021 09:31

So sorry for you. I hope your cat doesn't suffer and has a good outcome. He's I'm the best place at the moment. Fingers crossed for good news.

ghostyslovesheets · 20/08/2021 09:32

Oh no 😔 it’s so hard when they get this sick x

pleasestopscreaming · 20/08/2021 09:33

Handhold I really hope everything will be ok x

Oldraver · 20/08/2021 09:55

Hoping he gets better soon

Oldtiredfedup · 20/08/2021 09:58

Oh no. I’m sorry. I really hope he pulls through

Ilovemycat13 · 20/08/2021 16:19

Hello
Thank you for the love. We had to put my beautiful boy to sleep this morning. The clot I’m not sure if cleared but due to his heart and lungs he’d have another anyway. His legs were useless and his beans were cold 💔 due to no pulse.
He was drugged up to the MAX. His eyes were green, huge and glazed! I said my goodbyes but didn’t stay with him whilst they did it, it was unbearable he looked so unlike himself.

It’s been a tough day of on off crying, I hope it gets better soon. Thank you for all your lovely words.

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stepbackfromthecircles · 20/08/2021 16:21

I am so sorry for your loss.

Fluffycloudland77 · 20/08/2021 16:22

I’ve seen cats on here get this before, it often ends like this but you did your best.

4 is no age.

MrsCatE · 20/08/2021 16:22

Hand hold. Sorry, can’t give more comfort but know how you feel xFlowers

Want2beme · 20/08/2021 19:35

So sorry Ilovemycat13 How awful for you. Poor wee thing. It takes time to come to terms with their loss, but it does get betterFlowers

Worriesandwobbles · 20/08/2021 19:41

I am so sorry for your loss. 4 years isn't long enough but I bet he knew how much you loved him. Try to hold on to the good memories not just the ending.

Suzi888 · 20/08/2021 19:46

I’m so sorry Flowers that sounds heartbreaking.

Cleanmean · 20/08/2021 20:32

So sorry! How devastating for you.

Oldtiredfedup · 20/08/2021 21:45

I’m so sorry - I was afraid this would be the outcome particularly in a car so young - it’s almost always due to some sort of serious gear condition.

There was nothing you did wrong and nothing you could have done to prevent it happening xx

Oldtiredfedup · 20/08/2021 21:46

*heart condition

TableNiner · 20/08/2021 22:01

So sorry to hear this, it must be such a shock and will take time to recover from, go easy on yourself and know he had a lovely life with you.

TheLongRider · 20/08/2021 22:06

I'm so sorry, you did your best for him. Flowers

Ilovemycat13 · 20/08/2021 22:23

Thank you everyone. We did the right thing putting him to sleep after seeing him this morning. He wasn’t himself. He looked like an OAP cat and was so poorly. He was born with a murmur so it seemed inevitable he would go young.

Thank you for all your lovely words they’ve made me smile. I’ve really struggled today I just don’t know how to deal with this type of grief. His litter tray, bed and pole are still out I can’t bear to deal with it. Even his water. If anyone has any advice on how to deal with losing a pet I would be all ears 😔❤️

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Pudmyboy · 20/08/2021 22:27

I am so sorry, I would like to give you a hug as well as a handhold. Remember the love between you, and know you gave him the best, and you did not let him suffer. Flowers

StartingGrid · 20/08/2021 22:36

Was it saddle thrombosis? I'm so very sorry, its such a horrible thing to happen, and treatment is very rarely successful so you did all you could please be assured. It's not something widely warned of and doesn't just affect old cats. The Ralph site is a lovely, if not painful, website to visit, it may help you. Sending you Flowers

Beamur · 20/08/2021 22:47

Ah, that's very sad news.
Losing a pet is a grieving process. I still tear up thinking about the last cat I lost and that was three years ago (he was a super boy).
It takes as long as it takes. Have a cry. Look at some photos. Hugs Flowers

pleasestopscreaming · 20/08/2021 23:13

I'm so, so sorry how devastating. The same thing happened to my boy. Sending you lots of love. Know he had 4 happy years with you, loved and wanting nothing. X

Furries · 21/08/2021 01:44

I’m so sorry for your loss, such a young age. I wish I could offer you some concrete advice, but the grieving process is a bugger - it hits everyone in different ways.

The best I can offer is to say don’t fight it - if you need to cry, then cry, don’t bottle it up.

Internally, I wanted to swing for anyone who said “time is a healer“. But, I’ve gradually realised it’s true. The raw grief will pass, but you will still get moments where you catch your breath and feel the tears flow. It’s hard, but it is also a reminder of the love and bond you had.

One thing I did, which wasn’t easy in the beginning, was I chose a remembrance Rose bush for my boy. I’ve planted it in a prominent spot in the garden and around it, in the soil, are four solar lights in the shape of paw prints. Every night when I go to bed, I turn off the lamps and look out the window to see them gently shining.

I’m not good at posting links, but the Blue Cross charity have a bereavement line you can call. It’s difficult, because they can’t give you advice - they are only there to listen. But sometimes, when you feel you can’t express your grief to people irl, then it might help.

💐 for you