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hartof · 26/03/2021 21:18

On my way home from work tonight, my husband rang me to say the local vet called to say our cat had been run over. We rushed there (literally a minute away) and was showed his X-ray and him lay on a warmed bed crying in pain. We had no choice but to let him go. He wasn't even 3. I needed wanted to let him out but he was so unhappy being inside. We tried to keep him safe by keeping him in at night.

I feel heartbroken, literally can feel my heart shattering. My DD13 is so upset, husband has sobbed his heart out: I had an ectopic 13 years ago and feel sadder than I did then. He had become my baby replacement. I can't believe I won't see his handsome face again.

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SeeSawSeen · 26/03/2021 21:21

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry OP. It is utterly heartbreaking when we lose them, and even harder for you to bear with the shock of it all. What a beautiful cat. Flowers

LST · 26/03/2021 21:23

So sorry for your loss op xxx

Want2beme · 26/03/2021 21:24

So sorry hartof. Very sad for you and your family. It is heartbreakingFlowers

TroysMammy · 26/03/2021 21:40

I'm sorry x

DaisyandIvy · 26/03/2021 21:53

I'm so sorry OP. Sad He's a beautiful boy.

I lost a cat this way once. It was awful. My neighbour found him on the driveway. I can still remember just sitting there and holding him and asking him what had happened. I loved that cat.

With every cat I've had since him and since I've had children, I have explained to the kids that we have to decide whether this cat stays in or goes out. I explain the risks associated with going out. We have always unanimously agreed that they should go out. I always tell them that losing pets is sadly a part of having them around. And it's terribly sad when we lose them.

You'll remember him fondly always. You gave him the freedom and adventure that he longed for and enjoyed.

Thanks
HamSandwichKiller · 26/03/2021 22:02

So sorry. How devastating for you all. Seeing an animal in pain is harrowing. Try and remember the happy moments x

lljkk · 26/03/2021 22:21

Sorry for your loss. Flowers

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 26/03/2021 22:23

Oh I'm so sorry. That's awful.

RevolvingPivot · 26/03/2021 22:24

Oh no I'm so sorry.

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hartof · 27/03/2021 02:43

@DaisyandIvy

I'm so sorry OP. Sad He's a beautiful boy.

I lost a cat this way once. It was awful. My neighbour found him on the driveway. I can still remember just sitting there and holding him and asking him what had happened. I loved that cat.

With every cat I've had since him and since I've had children, I have explained to the kids that we have to decide whether this cat stays in or goes out. I explain the risks associated with going out. We have always unanimously agreed that they should go out. I always tell them that losing pets is sadly a part of having them around. And it's terribly sad when we lose them.

You'll remember him fondly always. You gave him the freedom and adventure that he longed for and enjoyed.

Thanks

Thank you. I feel the same with him he hated being inside and I thought what life is this for him?

This hurts so much I don't know how I'll get over it.

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coastergirl · 27/03/2021 03:34

I'm so sorry.

I lost a cat this way too. It's heartbreaking and such a shock. My other cat was hit by a car three weeks later, but thankfully he survived. My youngest cat died before Christmas from anti-freeze poisoning. I had to make the decision to let him go too. It's just horrendous. I'm thinking of you.

ApplestheHare · 27/03/2021 04:06

I'm so sorryFlowers

Brightbulbs · 27/03/2021 06:49

I’m so sorry for your loss OP x

Soubriquet · 27/03/2021 06:50

I’m so sorry for your loss OPFlowers

It’s one of my worst nightmares

ChaToilLeam · 27/03/2021 06:58

I’m so sorry OP, he was a beautiful boy. I lost a kitty this way too many years ago, and still shed a few tears for him.

helpfulperson · 27/03/2021 07:03

So sorry. I'm another one who has weighed up the risks and would rather a happy outdoor cat and to take the chance but they do leave a big hole.

claireb7rg · 27/03/2021 07:14

So sorry 💐 we lost one of ours the same way last week, we are both still heartbroken. He was very much an outdoor cat too, whenever we tried to keep him in he would go full on scratching at the back door.

Rip gorgeous boy 🐈‍⬛🌈

FlippinNoah · 27/03/2021 07:18

Sorry for your loss OP. He's now free from pain, chasing butterflies over the rainbow. Thanks

Somuddled · 27/03/2021 07:31

Big hugs for you. You did the right thing to let him out if he was struggling indoors. He is so very beautiful. Let your sadness be whatever it is.

BigcatLittlecat · 27/03/2021 07:37

Such a beautiful boy! You only had him for a few years but take comfort from the fact he had a lovely life and was so so loved! It's the hardest part of having a cat, when they pass. Go gently with yourself today xx

cushioncovers · 27/03/2021 08:02

Oh op I'm so sorry this happened Thanks😞

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 27/03/2021 08:07

Oh no I'm so so sorry OP, I can't tell you. It's devastating when we lose a loved one and he is so cute and handsome.
I lost one about 6 months ago on the road too and was absolutely traumatised by it.
Just take it one day at a time Flowers xxxxxx

niki26 · 27/03/2021 08:28

Oh OP I'm so sorry. We lost our first cat this way about 6 years ago now.... I woke up in the morning and he wasn't on the bed....I just knew that something had happened and as I was driving out of our close I found him in the middle of the road. I just held him and wept. I remember people were walking past on their way to work and they all came over to me and offered words of sympathy. My work sent me home later that morning and sent flowers and a card.

I remember googling bereavement services because I couldn't believe the grief I felt was normal... but it was. And day by day it did get easier. We've since got a 'new' cat (she's six now!) and had two daughters....we have a picture of our lovely Charlie on the wall and my eldest daughter asks questions about him. It will get easier I promise - look after yourself xxx

PrincessConsuela12 · 27/03/2021 08:32

So sorry OP Thanks

I lost my cat almost a year ago, I was completely devastated & still miss him every day but can now look back & smile at the lovely times we had with him.

Take care of yourself x

Kudukudu · 27/03/2021 09:15

I'm so sorry, @hartof. The grief you are feeling is real and it is terrible - and it will get easier in time.

Our beloved 4 year old cat was killed 3 years ago and I've never felt pain like it. I couldn't believe that anything could hurt so badly (and I have faced human bereavements) or that I'd ever feel normal again.

But eventually we felt it was time to welcome a new rescue cat into our family. He's completely different in personality (though not in looks!) - and we love him to bits. Like @niki26, we have a photo of his lovely predecessor on display and we'll never forget him, but a time does come when you can think of the happy memories without this pain.

Wishing you strength and comfort - please look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve and talk about him xxx

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