Saying goodbye to my best friend in the morning

[SaddestDay]

My beautiful girl is getting PTS tomorrow morning.

She's at least 15 (rescued 14+ years ago and wasn't a kitten - had been found with her litter of kittens by someone)

She's been the best cat ever. I love her so much, she was so nervous when I got her but with some dedication she came out of her shell and loves and trusts me so much. We know how each other is feeling and thinking and I'm so sad our time is already over.

Just so so very sad. I don't know how I still have tears left to cry but they won't stop coming.

Please hug your kitties close tonight. I know this pain won't be forever. But it's so awful and I'm dreading tomorrow that I can't be with her when she's PTS. Stupid Covid.

2020 is so shit.

It's always too soon. I had to let my lovely boy go last year, I know how you feel.
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Oh my god I'm so sorry xx

What a wonderful life you have given her.

I'm so sorry, it's never easy even when it's their time.

It sounds like she's had an amazing life with you

I’m so sorry OP

oh my- I am so sorry to read this...

its the hardest thing to have to do but if she is suffering/ill and has no enjoyment out of life then it is the kindest. Horrible for you though...will she sleep nearby to you tonight? Nice little breakfast in the morning, lots of cuddles and sing softly to her- your little darling girl

will be thinking of you both tomorrow

Oh bless you, it's so hard. My rescue girl is 17 and I don't know what I'd do without her. My husband died last year and she's been my only company during lockdown. Your cat has had a lovely life, but now it's time to let her go.

Thanks all.

No she won't sleep with us the last few nights. Which is a big sign. She's spent her life sleeping on my pillow/face/neck when I've let her get away with it.

Has been finding little quiet hideys to rest in bless her.

We've got her some tuna for dinner but she's struggling to eat (tumour in her mouth) but hopefully she'll give it a try as it's her favourite.

While she eats that I'll sit with her, then clean her up after as it's a messy process this last week or so bless her. And she loves loves loves being brushed so will do that tonight and tomorrow for her.

I know it's the right thing for her. Just the worst for me.

She leaves behind an annoying younger brother (non litter mate who she pretty much despises ) so he'll be getting a lot of spoiling the next little while. Hope he's ok without her to torment.

Our daughter is 7. She knows what's happening and has been the sweetest to me "it's ok mummy, you don't need to cry again" and DH has taken tomorrow off work so we can all look after each other tomorrow and remember her together.

My boy had to be PTS last year, it sounds like you have given your girl a good life, I hope that gives you comfort.

Very sorry about your cat
I would check with your vet if you can be with her when she is PTS. There was a post, a few days ago, about a lady in a similar position. She was told, after the event, that she could have been present. She was very distressed and angry. I would definitely ask.

I'm so very sad to read your post. What a wonderful life you have given each other - they are so much more than just pets 2020 is shit

Yes, do ask/ insist you are with her. I can't imagine vets would refuse that.

@SaddestDay - I am so sorry that you’re having to say goodbye. She sounds like she’s had the most amazing life with you, and landed on her paws when you took her in. This is absolutely the hardest thing we ever have to do, but it is also the biggest show of love that you will ever have given to her.

I am sure that you are all over the place this evening, and understandably so. But if you can, try to check in the morning whether you really can’t be with her. I know it will be doubly hard if the answer is a definite “no”, but on the other hand you may wonder “what if” in the future and guilt yourself over it. Some vets may let owners in, others are finding a way to let them pass in the boot of the car/in the car park - which I know sounds not right, but they are trying to ensure that owners can be present as they know how important it is.

Please don’t beat yourself up over the tears, definitely best to just let them flow. Am so pleased your DH will be with you and, as for your daughter, wow - what a wonderful human being! I am sure you will all take comfort from each other tomorrow.

She may prefer being in a hidey hole tonight (natural when they really don’t feel well), but I wish you all a peaceful evening under the same roof - and will be thinking of you tomorrow 💕

I'm so sorry. Definitely worth asking if you can be with her, my friend is a vet and said clients can go in with their pets now at her practice.

I'm so sorry, I have a cat that's the same age and has the same kind of past as yours.

Please check if you can be with her, my DDog was put to sleep 3-4 weeks ago and we were both with him.

So sorry OP and sending love to you all xx

I'm so, so sorry. There's no feeling like it.

Im so sorry you're going through this. Try and take some comfort that while its the hardest thing its also the kindest. X

Thanks so much everyone.

She's had her tuna and a wipe down and we've put a towel between us on the bed and tonight she's stayed!!! So I've been stroking her and ugly crying.

She's snoring now so I beat try to get some rest.

So hard to think she won't be here tomorrow when she's had such a good day today. But she's skin and bones and as tempting as it is to reschedule and have more time I think deep down it's the kindest thing to grant her the peace she deserves.

I will certainly ask the vet tomorrow about being with her. X

It is truly awful, my 21 year old cat was PTS 4 years ago and reading your post made me cry remembering that day.
Just remember you are doing the kindest thing. Not letting her suffer and always remember the good times.

I said goodbye to my boy a week ago. I'm heartbroken. I was with him when he was pts. So sorry for you xx

So sorry. I can empathise we had to say goodbye to my beautiful girl last week who was 20, she was in pain and struggling with all the things she loved. Missing her so much and feel somewhat empty without her.

However you know your doing the best for her, be with her, hugs for you all.

@SaddestDay - Am so pleased that she’s had some of her favourite tuna, and beyond pleased that she’s settled down on a towel with you.

I completely empathise with that feeling of wanting more time, I too felt it so desperately. But I always remind myself that “better a day too early than a day too late” as a reminder of how we are responsible for them.

I hope you all get some rest tonight. And tomorrow, I will be thinking of you 💕

It is the worst thing for you, but also the most selfless. You are looking after your girl and doing the best for her as you have so clearly done throughout your life together.

She will be waiting for you at Rainbow Bridge 🌈

(((Hugs))) 💐

Morning everyone. Thanks so much. She stayed with me on the bed until 4am when the sun rose and then sat on the kitchen side waiting for more Tuna from then.

Screamed at me this morning for her breakfast bless her.

She's seems so so well (other than the tumour symptoms) this past 24 hours. I think it must be the painkillers we got the other day.

So it's making today feel a bit harder but she's so bony, can't groom herself and thus worn her better.

So I just need to remember "better a day too early than a day too late" and not let myself overthink it. I'm glad she's going out close to how she lived her life. But feeling so heartbroken for me.

Anyway I have 3 more hours to spend with her. (Probably doesn't apologising as to why I'm not letting her in the garden)

Hope I don't make too much of a scene at the vet wailing outside.