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The Litter Tray Memorial Thread

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TheLongRider · 12/07/2020 16:02

This thread is for anyone who has lost a cat. It's a place for pictures and memories, to tell stories and to mourn. A cat is never, ever "Just a cat". They are special to their owners and to the people who love them and who they love in their own special way.

The Litter Tray has some lovely posters who have lost cats. I would hope that posters would respect the sentiment of this thread and use it as a place to commiserate and comfort others. Also it would be great to see photos of people's pets. There are some real characters on the Litter Tray who deserve to be remembered.

If you feel that you can't talk about your loss in real life, there will be a sympathetic ear here. Flowers

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Toddlerteaplease · 12/07/2020 17:56

Darling Maia, a bossy diva of a cat! Still much missed by me. Unfortunately not much by her sister!

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Fluffycloudland77 · 12/07/2020 18:14

Asbo. Missed everyday & I still half expect him to be behind the door when I go into the utility room.

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Cherrypies · 12/07/2020 18:16

Bitz and Bobz
So, so young. Two brothers that I got from a rescue shelter.
Bitz was run over, we spent over 6k getting him better.
A few months after full recovery, noticed one day that his breathing was really fast, and he had stopped eating. Vet took him in, as felt a large lump, in his stomach, did a biopsy on it. Found to be very fast growing lymphoma, nothing they could do, in pain, took him home for a few days, then let him go.
Literally two weeks later, Bob difficulty in breathing, exactly the same thing.
2.5 years old.
It was absolutely heartbreaking.
I have their caskets in my room.
Only had them a very short time, but so missed.
I had four cats. Now just the two.
Wonder if they were somehow exposed to FELV
at some stage.
Either way two life's cut short.
Thank you for this thread.

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DramaAlpaca · 12/07/2020 18:20

What a lovely idea for a thread.

Lots of Flowers and to those of you who have lost your wonderful furry friends. Cats are such special creatures.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 12/07/2020 18:39

Having had cats for over 30 years I have lost a few (well six).
All were characters, all unique and all missed.
Enclosed is a painting an artist friend made of my first three cats, (probably not to everyone's taste - but we love it) The grey was shown in a picture because he'd already gone when the painting was made. He was my first cat - and meaning no disrespect to the rest - he was the best cat I ever had. He was a stray (a very big full tomcat) who just decided to move in with me. He was incredibly friendly, very well mannered, very talkative and miaowed with a Glasgow accent. He also immediately looked after the other two when we got them as kittens.

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Vinorosso74 · 12/07/2020 20:32

Aw lots of well loved and missed felines on here. This is our dear Coco aka Vinocat on here who was PTS in November 2017; she was at least 14 years old. She was the calmest, sweetest natured cat. Poor cat had so many health problems in her last couple of years.
The second photo was when she was younger and less skinny.

Sunnydayshereatlast · 12/07/2020 21:44

Our beautiful Hamish. Pts unexpectedly April 30 th.
His db misses him terribly.

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caitlinohara · 12/07/2020 21:46

Thank you. Already been posting about the marvellous Rupert who was PTS on Friday with HCM at just under 4 years old. Still very raw and doubtful of ever finding another quite like him. He is actually fast asleep in both these photos which shows just how not bothered he was. In addition to retrieving nerf gun bullets and following the children to school, he was an excellent ratter and brought plenty home over the years, managing to get a particularly large one wedged sideways in the cat flap. He also enjoyed a beer garden as much as the rest of us and Dh was walking home one night only to see Rupert being fed pizza by a group of young men outside our local. Not to mention accompanying the neighbours’ dogs on their daily walks. He will be missed by our whole street I reckon. The birds look happy thoughWink
Will love you forever my lovely boy.

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RavenT · 12/07/2020 21:52

George, pts end of January, aged approx 19. This pic taken at Christmas. He developed breathing problems suddenly in mid January. I got him as a rescue with his sister 10 years ago. He was the best cat - a real gentle giant and we miss him every day.

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Crazycat2016 · 13/07/2020 19:36

My beloved boy, hit by a car age 2 Sad it’s been a year and I still miss him. A new adopted kitty is helping to heal my heart but I so wish he was here.

So sorry for everyone else also mourning and missing their lovely cat Flowers

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Gingerkittykat · 14/07/2020 13:57

My Shadow died in April of lymphoma, he was 15.

I have PTSD and when I was at my worst he was with me every night when I couldn't sleep for fear of nightmares. He used to follow me from room to room and when he slept with me the warmth of his body and vibrations of his purr soothed me.

He was the most calm and gentle boy you can imagine.

I miss him massively.

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Oldraver · 19/07/2020 11:18

Every time I look at my camera roll it reminds me a lovely life Ernie had. He was such a character and our life revolved around him.

I've always had cats but he was just so present in our everyday lives.

He was always a scaredy cat when it came to people or noises there is a long list of things he was frightened of and thus manifested itself as outright aggression to any other cat. He had just started to accept a visiting cat and they were starting to become mates

I found this pic recently, he loved rolling in muddy dust and was quite often dirty, he also loved snuggling up

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Oldraver · 19/07/2020 11:41

He wasnt never thta bright and it took him a while to figure this out

Even he had a shock when he pulled the thing over and all the Dreamies fell out

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 19/07/2020 21:56

Sev died in February. Only 5 years old.

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thegcatsmother · 20/07/2020 23:48

I had three for my 21st birthday, so RIP Possum (aka Ratbag), Elf and Seville, a beautiful ginger. The latter two died at 17 and 19. Pics of them are all on photos and not the computer. Jasper was run over by my NDN, who was doing her usual drink driving thing, and hit him. He was her cat's kitten.

I had a period without cats and was then adopted by Chairman Maiow, who is still here and was 17 this month. He was Belgian, then Cornish, then Belgian and now Cornish again. I also had Gcat#2, who was PTS on 17 Match this year, and I still miss him. His ashes are in a wicker casket in the kitchen, and I talk to him every day. The pic is of him sunbathing after having allowed me to groom him.

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Karmagoat · 21/07/2020 10:16

My beautiful girl Cupcake.
She had to be pts last November after she developed complications from diabetes, she was 11.
She was the loveliest and sweetest car and we still miss her everyday especially my dd who grew up with her and was Cupcakes favourite person.

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Karmagoat · 21/07/2020 10:18

cat not car obviously Hmm

contrary13 · 26/07/2020 21:46

Thank you for this thread. Flowers

The first picture is our kitten-sized Corby, who barely tolerated myself and my daughter - but absolutely adored my son (who was born when she was 6 years old). She would have gone to the ends of the earth and back for him, quite frankly, and I credit her with saving his life before he was even born (I miscarried his twin, and was awoken by a frantic cat headbutting me - I'd not known what was going on. I was 9 weeks pregnant at the time). She was 18 when she passed, of heart complications that we didn't know she had. It sort of broke my son for a while. So, she's the tuxedo cat sunning herself (and glowering at me for daring to take the photo!), and behind her is Hermes, aka Mimi. He was 3 when he passed from a build up of calcium in his urethra - apparently a very common thing for neutered tom-cats! He was part Bengal, and twin to the cat who is still with us (called Hercules), but he was also the bitchiest little diva I've ever known! If our dog was barking, Mimi would stalk - not even stroll, or swagger, but stalk - up to him, claws clicking on the floorboards, and slap the dog. Consequently our springer was absolutely terrified of him! Our lovely vet tried his hardest to save him, and only realised once they'd opened him up that it wasn't going to be possible (they were talking at one point about changing him from a tom- to a queen, which I didn't even know was possible at the time), so I went rushing down there to be with him when he passed. He'd sort of come round a little from the sedation as the vet's nurse took me into the back room where they kennel their patients, and as soon as he heard my voice, this little head popped up, very blearily peering for me, and he started to call - it was as if he were saying "Mama's here to take me home!". When he passed, the nurse and I were both in floods of tears. That was 10 years ago now, and I still think I can hear him clicking along the hallway. He also pee'd on my foot when he was a kitten, as I was lying on my son's bed, reading to him before he went to sleep - Mimi wanted his supper, and he was furious that I was still reading as opposed to feeding him.

The second picture is of my Carma, aka "Psycho". He was almost 22 when he died, and had been in my life since the age of 3 weeks old. He saw me through university, a relationship, 2 children growing up, career, disablity, major depression, and PTSD. He slept on my head at night, because during those first few weeks with him, the only way I could get him to sleep was by letting him curl up in the crook of my neck/shoulder and him suckling on my earlobe. He thought he could fly at the age of 6 weeks old, jumped out of my first floor kitchen window, straight onto solid concrete - and realised he couldn't get back home again. So he kicked our downstairs neighbours rabbit out of its hutch and hid inside there, until he heard me frantically calling his name. He'd herd my daughter to me if I called her name 3 times, and she was ignoring me (claws out, swiping through the air at her legs, tail lashing), hated my (now ex) partner with a passion, thought he'd hatched my son, because he used to drape himself across my bump and purr every time my son kicked or moved (for about a year after my son was born, if he started to grizzle in his cot, Carma would position himself nearby and purr - and my son would drift off to sleep). When I woke in the middle of the night from nightmares, he'd lazily start to purr and let me drape his belly fur across my eyes - then keep purring until I went back to sleep, like a lullaby. He went missing for 3 days and my entire street, bar one neighbour, searched for him. An indoor cat since the rabbit/super-cat incident, Carma had wandered out of the front door when my daughter was putting the recycling out - later, I'd heard an imperious meow, but thought he was upstairs, not waiting on the doorstep for me to let him back inside. The one neighbour who hadn't joined in with the search had locked him into her utility cupboard by the front door, thinking he was a pregnant queen (I suspect she saw £ signs flashing before her eyes - she's a nasty woman at the best of times!), and it was only when another neighbour's small daughter mentioned this in her hearing that he was rescued. Bugger had heard me calling for him, and decided to ignore me, just as he perceived I'd ignored his demand for the door to be opened! He had FD and would often forget he'd been fed, and he was stubborn beyond belief. He hung on until I'd come to terms with his death, I think, but on that last day, he just wanted to be held by me - when my son took him so that he and my daughter could say "goodbye", he cried and struggled to get back to me. So I spent most of the day, waiting for the end of the vet's surgery, with him curled up in my arms with one paw hooked into my jumper as though he were trying to cuddle me, too. And we spent a fair amount of the day sitting outside in the garden discussing what rose bush we were going to plant where, even though I knew he wouldn't get to sit out in the sunny back yard with me ever again. That was March 2019, so it's been a little over a year now, but I will always miss him. He just got too tired to go on, really.

And the last photo is of Merlin, or 'Mog', who died last week (July 21st) of what we think was a brain tumour. His death was ridiculously unexpected - although in hindsight, there were little indicators that it was coming which we, not knowing, just thought "oh, that was odd!". Merlin was my son's first birthday gift - he was the last kitten left from its litter in the pet shop, and his yowling could be heard from outside. He was "too noisy", apparently, so no one wanted him. My ex felt sorry for him, so home he came (he'd popped in to get some fish food and left with a kitten...). At home, he was too quiet - he'd fall asleep on the sofa in a pile of my children's stuffed toys, and one of us would sit on him, not having seen/heard him. He went bald from his waist downwards due to stress, following our move/relationship breakdown, and Mimi had a strange fascination with stalking him around the house, which didn't help. He was grumpy, and looked evil, but he was the softest, sweetest of cats whose favourite place in the world was... wherever my daughter was. Gradually he became her cat, and wherever she was sat, he was either on her lap, tucked under her long hair (I always used to joke that he'd probably adore a wig of his own!), on top of her when she was in bed, or next to her... with one foot always touching her. He also adored cheese. I swear, I could open a new packet in the kitchen, and wherever he was, he'd hear it. Just the cheese, mind, not anything else. But there'd be a THUMP as he rolled off of my daughter's bed, or chair, and then loud thudding as he hurtled down the stairs, and suddenly I'd have a pleading cat next to me! He hated heat, because it made him itchy, but he loved our fire - I think the flickering of the flames soothed him, somehow - and on Monday, he strangely insisted he was sleeping on the sofa, stretched out "like a lion", in front of the not-lit fire. The vet said the next day that he must have had a huge stroke during the night, given that he was staggering around like he'd drunk a gallon of wine, or forgotten how many legs he had. We were fortunate in that both of my children were allowed into the consulting room to say "goodbye" to him - and I'm grateful that he had the stroke, or aneurysm, which actually killed him, literally as soon as they'd left the room. He - like Mimi, and Corby, and Carma (and our elderly spaniel who died last Halloween) before him - passed in my arms, being told how very loved he was, and always will be, by us. At the moment, my daughter's not coping very well with his loss - exacerbated by the fact that her boyfriend of 4 years, the man she'd intended on marrying/having a family of her own with, dumped her that night. Normally, it'd be Merlin dealing with tears, and upset, and everything else that their break-ups involved (she says this is the last time, because he knew about Merlin, then callously said "it's over"...), and she admits that she feels like she's lost a limb, but she's also grateful for having been furloughed, so that she got to spend precious time with her beloved Mog.

Our last cat, Hercules, thinks he's a dog, and is very much my 16 year old son's cat. He's 14 now and is technically a geriatric... who is obviously enjoying a second kitten-hood, given that he stays up late, gets up late, swaggers about as if he owns the place, yowls back when he's told that he doesn't... and inhales his food rather than taste it. He adores my 3 year old dog, Littlun, though, and they're about the same height (Hercules is also part-Bengal and is "a big boy" to quote my son), so when he wants to cuddle her, she gets little choice in the matter. Yesterday, though, he licked her nose. Which was sweet.

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Oldraver · 03/08/2020 08:55

Yesterday was Ern's fifth birthday. The stance on the card we previously got him was a regular occurrence in our house

I got out the shower this morning and yet again had no one waiting for me

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stophuggingme · 10/08/2020 21:38

Two months and nine days since I said goodbye to my little Dolly. The gap this tiny little forever kitten cat left behind is enormous. She would have been 13 on the first of November
I am still completely broken hearted and spend most nights willing her back though I know it’s futile

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 11/08/2020 11:45

This is William. He was a stray who lived in the service road behind my house. It was a long time before we realised he was a stray but when we did we started feeding him and bought him a cat house for the garden. We took him to the vet to be checked over and he moved in with my Mum after DH suggested we 'show her William as she's never met him'. With the immortal words 'he's yours if you want him' William had a home!

Sadly he only had 5 months with Mum but they were 5 months filled with love and affection, a warm bed and plenty of food. He was put to sleep with a suspected brain tumour. Mum kept his ashes and, since she died, he sits on my window sill above the radiator. I couldn't bring myself to scatter his ashes as he spent too long outside.

He wasn't with us for long but he made a huge impact and I still miss him. Love you William, I hope you've found Mum again.

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GrumpyMug2 · 11/08/2020 17:10

Adding my beautiful girl Moo here. Never thought I would have to write this, I made her promise she would live to 40! She was the most hilarious, loving, beautiful, neurotic cat that ever was.

One, two, three, four paws Moomy x

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hellswelshy · 12/08/2020 14:05

My dearest Esme, we lost her 3 years ago this month and still miss her madly. She was really really loved

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Furries · 12/08/2020 20:58

21 weeks ago today I had to unexpectedly say goodbye to my soul cat and best friend, Simba.

Losing him has pretty much broken me and, although I’ve had some ok days, today it’s hit me hard again and have spent most of it in tears.

I miss every single little thing about him. He really was my shadow and it just feels like an essential part of me disappeared when I said goodbye.

Sleep tight Mr Handsome Cat - if love could have saved you then you really would have lived forever 💕🐾💕

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Miranda15110 · 17/08/2020 20:21

We lost our lovely boy today. He was14 and totally gorgeous. He'd been unwell a few weeks ago but was making a good recovery under veterinary care. He had a great week last week and was back to his old self. Sadly he suffered a stroke type event overnight and had to be pts this morning. 💔

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