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Not sure what to do with this lovely little cat...help!

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Alabasterangel6 · 08/10/2019 19:51

I won’t dripfeed so apologies for the long backstory.

I had a cat for 22 years. I am a cat person. DS was born when DCat was 20, so for 2 years he was around cat, touched cat and grew up with a very furry environment.

When DCat died we said no more pets for a while. A year later, at 3, DS went into the home of a dog and with no warning at all had an acute and severe asthma attack. A&E blue light job. It isn’t the only dog he is allergic to because he has less severe but obvious symptoms if we even go in a car where a different dog has been. We are very very vigilant to avoid dogs (due to the acute and severe nature of the attack) and DS is now 8. We’ve always wondered if he is the same with cats but a) hoped not due to earlier exposure and b) daren’t risk finding out. Note we lived in the house that the cat had lived in for another 2 years but moved when DS was 4.

Minding our own business, going about life, and for reasons unknown to us this little cat arrives. She is small, fed (as far as I can see), clean, very used to humans and for some reason is also very very very determined to get into our house. We have NEVER let her in or fed her, not even once. DD (10) will stoke her if she’s playing in the garden but the cat is very affectionate and absolutely adores DD. When we come home from school Cat comes running miaowing. She spends hours every day miaowing on the kitchen windowsill or at the kitchen door. She stares at us through the door all evening and scratches at the living room door all evening (see photo!!). If DD or I go out to her she will literally jump from the wall or garden table to DDs shoulder. As I speak she is outside miaowing at the door.

I’ve been round circa 25 houses in the direction she most commonly comes from and everyone sees her but no one knows who owns her. So....

What do I do to locate her owner? I don’t want to take her to a vet, I don’t have a pet carrier for a start.

Should I put a note on a collar and put it on her? Would that work?

In light of the above, I don’t want to claim her as I am 80% sure she is owned but if she was your cat wouldn’t you want to know she was trying so badly to invade ours! I want them to know i haven’t fed her or tried to steal her!

DS has allergy testing at the end of Oct, but IF (if if if if) it turns out she’s a random, what are the chances of him being allergic to dogs but not
Cats?

Thoughts on the above, please?

Not sure what to do with this lovely little cat...help!
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Toddlerteaplease · 13/10/2019 22:27

GrinGrinAgreed!

sashh · 14/10/2019 05:44

Lovely updates

coastergirl · 14/10/2019 07:01

Awww I wish I'd seen this last night. I had a horrible personal situation and was in bits, but this has just cheered me right up! Amazing to see her looking so happy. You did such a good thing.

Alabasterangel6 · 14/10/2019 11:04

Thank you all. You think I’d feel happy today but I just feel emotionally rollered. I really had got fond of that little girl in the last few weeks. But I know she’s happy and safe. The DH of my friend was at school today and said she’d had a good night and is very settled. I’ll see my friend later at pick up and DD can get an update as she was quite upset later last night. She said she’s not sad, just that she misses her loads and enjoyed having her around.

See I said I get too invested? It’s madness to still be mulling it over. I feel really......melancholy I think is the right word. Happy that she’s safe, but I kind of miss her furry little face and purr too Sad

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Mollpop · 14/10/2019 14:38

Aaah. You're missing her. I totally understand. I found a kitten a few years ago and he was in a really bad way. I took him to the vet and looked after him for a few days but couldn't keep him as my cat kept trying to attack him. I took him to the RSPCA and he was adopted, but I was in bits, even though I know I did the best thing for him.

You'll be able to see Pip again and you've done a wonderful thing. If my cat ever wanders off ( which is unlikely as she's very lazy!), I hope she finds someone as lovely as you.

Alabasterangel6 · 14/10/2019 17:03

Thank you moll. I’m as flat as a pancake today and DH said the wrong thing and made me burst out crying. He didn’t mean to but he does have more of a ‘it’s just a cat’ thing.
I keep looking at the kitchen door expecting her to be there Sad

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Alabasterangel6 · 14/10/2019 17:04

I seriously will look forward to seeing her later in the week. Hopefully when I can see she is happy I will feel better!

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BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 14/10/2019 18:32

I think you will definitely feel better when you see her, I am not surprised you are feeling how you are feeling, she took a piece of your heart and you miss her, I bet once you visit your friend and Pip rubs up against you to say thank you for finding her a lovely home you will feel tons better.

Fluffycloudland77 · 14/10/2019 19:55

You’d feel worse if her little face was pressed up against the window in the rain.

We’re going to have to get you a course of counselling at this rate.

Alabasterangel6 · 14/10/2019 21:48

😂 I hope not!!

I feel slightly better this evening. As long as I don’t wake up in a muddle thinking she’s in the shed still then we are on the right track.

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Nikhedonia · 14/10/2019 23:35

Aww! I'm so glad there has been a happy ending for DCat.

A new warm home for winter, how lovely.

Well done, OP. You did a really kind thing. She didn't have to spend anytime in a car shelter. She's now got a loving home.

DobbyTheHouseElk · 18/10/2019 13:50

Any update on Pip.

SamBeckett · 18/10/2019 13:55

I was hoping for a update too but I guess Pips new owners may not want to share details .

sulks just a bit

DobbyTheHouseElk · 18/10/2019 14:35

@Alabasterangel6

Alabasterangel6 · 18/10/2019 19:23

Sorry!!! She’s amazing. She is so so happy. She’s had a minor wee discrepancy just the once but is otherwise a very happy, already loved, LUCKY cat..... she loves laps and is finally playing. And eating and sleeping well and absolutely adored by her new DC who are gentle and kind with her. She is a hot topic in the whole of our school!!

Due in for spay and all the rest in November. Won’t be anything but a housecat till then. Photo coming. I will ask if it’s okay to post one not on FB as I don’t want reverse image searching of her (I am starting to think her ‘owners’ were unkind) but I’ll get a pic which isn’t linked to FB.

My stupid heart is still hurting as I miss her, but I’m missing something I never really had. I guess I’m also missing my old boy still too as she looks so much like him it’s uncanny.

We are visiting next week and get daily updates at school!!! DD is happy now. So am I.

Tossers at the street behind can go to hell. I hope they never own another animal again.

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Fluffycloudland77 · 18/10/2019 19:28

Well she’s used to just going wherever isn’t she?. Litter trays will be alien to her.

Alabasterangel6 · 18/10/2019 19:38

I’m not convinced. She’s used the tray consistently and only got worried when left alone in the house, I suspect it’s just fear. Her new people couldn’t be more loving of her and keen to make her secure. She’s done plenty enough wees in the right place!! Grin

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bobstersmum · 18/10/2019 19:46

I think it's your old cat reincarnated!

Alabasterangel6 · 18/10/2019 20:04

😱

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SamBeckett · 18/10/2019 21:17

Aww it is so good to hear she has settled in well .
You and Dcs get the best of both worlds , the cat is loved and well looked after and you still get to hear about her and see her without it affecting your DSs health

A win all round I think

DobbyTheHouseElk · 18/10/2019 22:13

Thank you. Fantastic update 😻

Mollpop · 18/10/2019 22:16

@Alabasterangel6

This is just brilliant. You've probably saved her life. This whole thread brought a tear to my eye. You've done an amazing thing. Please post a photo when you can 🐾🐾🐾🐾

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