Cat's not right

[LanguidLobster]

We have an appointment in one hour. I've had her for 10 years and she's never been ill before.

Appointment was booked anyway but today she pooed in her tail whilst curled up and there wasn't anything I could do apart from clean up the the surroundings then gently try to clean her tail with baby shampoo. She was very passive and let me do it.

Anyway vets soon.

You’d need a spade rather than a trowel. I’ve just googled it and it suggests at least 3ft deep.

It might be easier to ask your vets for an individual cremation, and then scatter her ashes in the park she loved? I'm so sorry for your loss. You obviously loved her so much and did all you could for her.

Papergirl1968 I'll see if a friend has a spade.

I'm going to explore the coastline in a bit to see if I can find a suitable spot.

Actually 3ft is quite deep. I'd much rather she was buried though. It did all happen really quickly but I'm still baffled at not having her furry little inquisitive self running around

We had William cremated and I found it comforting to have his ashes home. He was originally with Mum as he lived there for the last 5 months (he was a stray who adopted me but didn't get on with Harry) and when she died he came home to me. He's still on the window sill by the radiator as I couldn't bear the thought of him being outside.

I'm so sorry for your loss. You must have had some great times together.

Most of my cats have been buried and I've tried to put them in a favourite spot in my garden (I'm not in the UK). Or in a place that has good memories.

Your vet can arrange cremation if that is what you would like. You can ask for individual cremation and the ashes back.

I chose this last Christmas when my cat had to be put to sleep. I bought a nice decorative urn which just looks like a lovely carving of a cat. I keep his ashes in that and it sits on our hall windowsill, which was his favourite indoor vantage point. I have found it a great comfort, that he was able to come home to us where he belongs, and he sits just where he liked to be.

I gave his unopened food pouches away to a neighbour who has two cats. Some animal shelters also will take them, and may have collection bins out in various places, like supermarket car parks etc.

None of this was your fault. You need to be kind to yourself. She was a lovely, well cared for cat and had a great life with you. You have given her the final kindness now, which is just about the worst and hardest decision any pet owner has to make.

Do whatever feels right for you. Take care of yourself.