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Please hand hold I'm devastated

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Incrediblehulky · 21/02/2018 18:45

I'm going to have to take my old girl to be put to sleep in the morning and my heart is broken. She has stomach cancer which has come about very suddenly and progressed very quickly - we only found the tumour on Monday. She's my best friend and she's been with me pre-marriage and 3 children and we've been together through so much. I'm absolutely devastated to lose her and so sad that she won't get to sit in the sun again in spring. I feel like I'm trapped in a nightmare.

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Monkeypuzzle32 · 21/02/2018 18:47

Aw, my little cat had stomach cancer and like you say, it shows really quickly. You are doing the best thing for her, it's so hard but it's a privilege really to be able to help out pets and always remember the brilliant life you gave her.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 21/02/2018 18:50

I’m so sorry. I know it’s no consolation but you have done the kindest thing for her, probably the biggest act of love you could. She’ll have had an amazing life with you Flowers

joangray38 · 21/02/2018 18:50

So sorry, you are being a loving owner, doing the best you can for her Flowers

Rainbowqueeen · 21/02/2018 18:53

Another one who is so sorry, I would feel the same way. Cherish these last few hours, lots of cuddles, photos.

It is the right thing it just hurts so much. Thinking of you

TheNecroscope · 21/02/2018 18:53

So sorry, it's a horrible decision to have to make but it's the kindest thing you can do. My beloved moggy had heart failure and suddenly deteriorated, it went from me rushing her to the vet one day to her being put down less than a week later. It took a long time to get over it, they are such a part of the family.

MikeAlphaMikeAlpha · 21/02/2018 19:18

ThanksThanks you are doing the right thing. I'm so sorry, it's so tough not to have them around when they've been with us through so much. Truly sucks

MrsMyreton · 21/02/2018 19:29

I am so sorry Thanks it is such a difficult thing to do, but as other posters have said, you are doing the best for her.

Piggypiggyoinkoink · 21/02/2018 19:30

Flowers it’s the most loving thing you can do for her, but it does suck. Be kind to yourself tomorrow.

timtam23 · 21/02/2018 19:36

I'm so sorry. I had similar with my old boy cat a few years ago (tongue cancer). Like your cat he had been my pal for years, long before DH and the DCs came along.Try make a big fuss of her tonight Flowers

DeltaG · 21/02/2018 19:38

So sorry OP Sad

We all know the time will come one day with pets, but when it does it is so, so hard. Take comfort in the fact that you can do this one last kindness for her; sparing her the pain and suffering.

Liz38 · 21/02/2018 19:44

So sorry, it's such a hard thing to do. I cried so much over my old boy who was pts with cancer just before Christmas. I still miss him dreadfully but it helps that I have no doubt that we did the right thing. I hope knowing that helps you too. Get all the cuddles you can now. Flowers

Vinorosso74 · 21/02/2018 19:52

I'm so sorry it is the worst part of having animals but you are doing the kindest thing for her. We had our lovely 15yo girl PTS last year (not cancer) we realised at 10pm we had to do it so I called the vets first thing. It was very peaceful and they were very kind.
Strokes for her and WineCakeFlowers for you.

ScreamingValenta · 21/02/2018 19:59

So sorry, OP. I lost my wonderful 15 year old girl to liver cancer a few years ago and it was heartbreaking. She will always live on through your happy memories Flowers.

Want2beme · 21/02/2018 20:03

It is so devasting. I've lost 2 of my old timers in the last 5 years and they were my last connection to the old life I had. I miss them so much and think about them everyday. We all know exactly how you're feeling now. Be with her tomorrow when she's going to sleep. It'll be one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do, but you won't regret it. She'll always be with you Flowers

LanguidLobster · 21/02/2018 20:14

Sorry hulky and hulkycat Flowers

You're guiding her through her last moments into a painfree existence, she'll be sunning herself forever whenever you think of her

thewhitechapelfatberg · 21/02/2018 22:09

This thread has had me in floods, with my precious old lady sitting here beside me. Can’t imagine life without her but I know it will come.

20nil · 21/02/2018 22:13

I’m so sorry. I had to do this for my beloved cat a few years ago. She was my best friend in the world and had been through the very worst of times with me. I still miss her, but I did the right thing and you will too.

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Incrediblehulky · 21/02/2018 22:52

Thank you all for your messages of kind support, I've found your messages and words so moving and am grateful to you all. I'm lying on the floor next to her downstairs at the moment. If she manages to plod upstairs to my room then I'll follow her and sleep with her there - this is what we've done the last few nights. She's enjoyed a brush and actually eaten a small amount for the first time since Monday. I'm finding it gut wrenching knowing everything is the last time...and slipping in and out of denial. I can't imagine life without her...

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LanguidLobster · 21/02/2018 23:21

Handhold. She is spending her last night with the person she loves most and you're doing the best for her because you don't want her to suffer

ScreamingValenta · 21/02/2018 23:39

Handhold here too. You are doing everything you can for her by making sure your last times together are peaceful and filled with love, rather than seeing your girl in increasing pain and no longer able to appreciate the time you spend together.

tryingtobethebestican · 21/02/2018 23:50

I'm so very sorry for you they are family aren't they and so precious. You are doing the kindest thing for her but it is such an awful thing to deal with Thanks

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Incrediblehulky · 22/02/2018 07:03

I can't believe the morning has come around so quickly

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QueenOfAccidentalDeathStares · 22/02/2018 07:10

So sorry Flowers. Hand hold for this morning. She won't be in pain much longer. As per owners we take responsibility of loving the through life and death. Doesn't make it any easier.

Vinorosso74 · 22/02/2018 07:31

Thinking of you this morning. Will anyone be with you?

pilates · 22/02/2018 07:48

So sorry incredible, thinking of you 💐

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