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Mum thinking of rehoming George

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/09/2017 10:24

Please be gentle with me, I'm feeling very fragile at the moment.

DM struggles to get around and is nearly blind through glaucoma. She has been ill for months, struggling to breathe, has no appetite and is depressed. I found out yesterday she has heart failure and we're waiting for a scan to find out how severe. Dr Google has told me it's pretty bad though. She doesn't know yet, her GP is going to see her on Monday and I don't want her worrying all weekend.

Sorry for the waffle but I wanted to give the background. Anyway, I'll get to the point. When I saw DM on Tuesday she told me she thinks she should rehome George as she can't look after him. I'm trying to convince her otherwise. He's fed, watered and loved. The main problem is the litter tray as she can't see when he's used it. We can get round that though, it might not be emptied every day but one of us can get in every other day. When I'm on holiday Harry's cat sitter can go in.

I think she'll be more depressed than ever if she rehomes him. They adore each other and he won't be the easiest cat to rehome - he's a 10 year old jet black cat with anxiety issues. If anything happens to DM or she has to go into a home then sadly we will have to rehome him but I can't do it to him now.

I am doing the right thing aren't I? I can't bear the thought of splitting them up unless we absolutely have to.

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cozietoesie · 27/09/2017 23:06

Your Mum will have known that you'd see that George was fine.

It will have given her peace. Smile

Wolfiefan · 27/09/2017 23:31

Do things at your pace. How lovely to mention gorgeous George in the eulogy. I bet you were their best surprise ever!

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/09/2017 07:52

I've mentioned all the animals I remember but George got a special mention. It's the least I could do after he made her so happy and wouldn't leave her alone on her last night at home.

I've also mentioned how she used to tell people she had a grandson called Harry if they asked when I was having children! Someone actually told her how selfish I am not giving her grandchildren and it annoyed her that much!

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cozietoesie · 28/09/2017 16:48

It sounds wonderful. Smile

cozietoesie · 29/09/2017 14:20

How did it go?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 30/09/2017 17:35

Sorry, I've just seen this. The funeral is next Friday so I'm now panicking something will go wrong and Mum won't get the send off she deserves. On a positive note though, George moved home this afternoon. I saw him this morning and said my goodbyes but it's going to seem strange going to the house and him not being there. I'm so pleased for him though as it sounds as though he's going to be thoroughly spoilt!

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cozietoesie · 30/09/2017 17:45

I'm so glad for him - and you - that he has a good new place. And next Friday will go smoothly - don't worry about that.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 05/10/2017 08:45

I thought it was time I provided an update on George! He moved home last Saturday and, by all accounts, has settled in nicely. When I spoke to Mum's neighbour he was lying on his back on the sofa having his tummy tickled! They refer to him as Lord Muck!

Thankfully he seems to have landed on his paws. I've just got to get through tomorrow now...

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TimeIhadaNameChange · 05/10/2017 09:08

That's really lovely news about George. Will you pop in and see him?

I'm not sure 'Good Luck' conveys quite the right sentiment for tomorrow but hopefully you understand what I mean. I'll be thinking of you. x

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 05/10/2017 10:22

They've said I can go and see him any time but I'm going to leave it a month to give him time to settle.

Thanks Time, I know what you mean

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Toddlerteaplease · 05/10/2017 11:05

Hope tomorrow goes Well, and gorgeous Harry is giving you comfort.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 05/10/2017 11:55

That's good news and may tomorrow be a day of remembrance and peace.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 05/10/2017 12:23

Harry isn't being particularly helpful Toddler, I don't think he knows how to deal with crying women! Yesterday he tried to take a chunk out of my face and he's been playing silly buggers with his food. Last night he ate goose, this morning he looked at me as though I was trying to poison him! All he seems to want now is tuna and biscuits.

I threatened to sneak into the neighbours' house and swap him for George!

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YetAnotherSpartacus · 05/10/2017 12:26

Oh dear ... He's probably very unsettled because you are upset and unsettled :(.

wtffgs · 05/10/2017 12:36

Just wanted to say how amazing you are to still be able to organise a rehoming on top of a bereavement. I am so glad for George and glad for you that you've been able to do this for your Mum. So sorry for your loss Flowers

piperatthegates · 05/10/2017 12:58

I don't often post but I have been hoping that lovely George would find a happy new home, so nice that you can still see him as well. Also thinking of you and so sorry for your loss Flowers

Wolfiefan · 05/10/2017 15:55

Thinking of you tomorrow. Xx

TimeIhadaNameChange · 06/10/2017 10:54

Thinking of you today. Hope it all goes as well as possible. x

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/10/2017 19:18

Thanks for all your kind words.

Friday went perfectly, I felt nothing could have been better. The service was very personal to my Mum and I think she would have been happy. I'm also proud that we've raised over £600 for Guide Dogs, which was one of her favourite charities. I feel sort of empty now though, as though I'm not sure where I go from here. There's so much to sort out that I feel overwhelmed. I'm lucky that DH is helping me though.

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Wolfiefan · 08/10/2017 19:24

That's a huge amount of money. Fantastic.
One step at a time. One job at a time. When those jobs are done you can decide what to do. Had a discussion with my DD today about a way of commemorating grandad. Lovely idea in local WWT. Leaves on a tree. Looked beautiful. Friend just had a bench placed somewhere special for her DH.
Be kind to yourself. Flowers

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/10/2017 20:10

Thanks Wolfie. The leaves on a tree sounds lovely. I'm sponsoring a guide dog in memory of Mum, it's not much a month and I know she would have been happy with that as she always donated. In time I'll think of something permanent, possibly a paver at the Monkey World Walk of Thanks in Dorset with Mum and Dad's names on it.

I will be glad when everything is sorted out as there's been some friction with people telling me what I should be doing with Mum's things. I don't want to fall out with anyone but it's hard not to!

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Wolfiefan · 08/10/2017 20:21

You do exactly what you want to do. When you want to do it.
Your mum. Your decision. Don't feel rushed or badgered into anything.
I LOVE the Guide Dog idea. Every day that will help transform the life of someone. Independence and companionship. What a legacy.
Take care.

cozietoesie · 09/10/2017 11:56

I’m so glad for you that everything went well. And just ignore the people who try to muscle in. There’s something about estates which usually brings out the worst in people.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 12/10/2017 09:55

Time for a George update!

He has settled in next door very well and it's like he's always been there. Mum's neighbour was in the shower and heard George crying outside the door so she got out, opened it and got back in. When she looked down he was in the shower with her! He sits on their laps, which he never did with Mum and last week they put a cat video on YouTube and he sat and watched it and meowed back at the cats!

I miss him, but I'm so happy for him. I'm planning on visiting him this weekend. He's probably forgotten me by now though!

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cozietoesie · 12/10/2017 10:01

I’m really delighted by the news. SmileSmile