Mum thinking of rehoming George

[PinkSparklyPussyCat]

Please be gentle with me, I'm feeling very fragile at the moment.

DM struggles to get around and is nearly blind through glaucoma. She has been ill for months, struggling to breathe, has no appetite and is depressed. I found out yesterday she has heart failure and we're waiting for a scan to find out how severe. Dr Google has told me it's pretty bad though. She doesn't know yet, her GP is going to see her on Monday and I don't want her worrying all weekend.

Sorry for the waffle but I wanted to give the background. Anyway, I'll get to the point. When I saw DM on Tuesday she told me she thinks she should rehome George as she can't look after him. I'm trying to convince her otherwise. He's fed, watered and loved. The main problem is the litter tray as she can't see when he's used it. We can get round that though, it might not be emptied every day but one of us can get in every other day. When I'm on holiday Harry's cat sitter can go in.

I think she'll be more depressed than ever if she rehomes him. They adore each other and he won't be the easiest cat to rehome - he's a 10 year old jet black cat with anxiety issues. If anything happens to DM or she has to go into a home then sadly we will have to rehome him but I can't do it to him now.

I am doing the right thing aren't I? I can't bear the thought of splitting them up unless we absolutely have to.

Sorry events have taken a turn for the worst I really hope George finds a lovely new home, he sounds such an adoring cat. Have you considered taking him to his vets and explaining the situation? I've previously acquired cats that need rehoming this way, they may know a cat loving client willing to take him, especially as he's been so well looked after, I wish you and your mum all the best.

Sorry x posts with you.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. I know he was a Battersea cat but maybe contact Cats Protection, they won't PTS for those things unless he was suffering which he clearly isn't. If you're South London they have a centre in Mitcham with decent rehoming rates.
Unmumsnetty hugs.

I've just sent a message to CP to see what they say. Part of me is still hanging on for that miracle so DM can go home and live happily with George but I know it's not going to happen. The thing is I can't rehome him until I know for sure what's happening. I just feel in limbo at the moment.

If your mum is able to sign the paperwork for The Cinnamon to take him on (you would need to complete it) then he may be able to go to a long-term foster home, perhaps with another older person who has lost their pet, or to the residential homes they have for elderly pets... worth ringing when yo can think straight!

I've just heard from the Cinnamon Trust and, although they can't help me, he gave me some more ideas. He suggested looking on Catchat.org and contacting Celia Hammond. I think we're too far our for CH but I'll give them a call. He also said he doesn't think Battersea will do extensive checks on George so it's doubtful he'll be PTS.

Unfortunately Mum won't be able to sign anything, she is now almost completely blind (which I've only just realised, she's hidden it so well) and is now sleeping most of the time.

Op, pm thecatneuterer she works with Celia Hammond and may be able to advise.

Fingers crossed for George - some people actually welcome older animals (the Oldies Club - google that plus dogs to get the correct one! - have fostered and adopters looking for older animals). And wishing you strength at this sad and difficult time. 💐

I'm sorry Pink. It's a worry isn't it?

I've spoken to my lovely vets and they are going to sort out the details of some local charities for me. They also sometimes have clients who are looking for an older animal. CP have asked for my contact details which I'll send them at some point and my friend's aunt knows someone who has lost their cat and will find out if she's interested.

Fingers crossed I can find him somewhere as I'd rather he went straight to a new home rather than being in a pen for months.

Sadly my lovely Mum has deteriorated and is now having palliative care and I've been told the doctor will probably want to see me with a view to ending treatment. I seem to have focused everything on George as I know how important he is to her and I want to do the right thing for him.

I'm so very sorry to hear about your Mum. I hope George is able to get a lovely new home soon, he is lucky to have you to care for him

I'm so sorry, Pink.

Fingers crossed for George.

My lovely pet sitter has said she knows people who may be able to help with George so I'm going to sit down and write his biography with a view to getting him the home he deserves. He's come on so much in the last year that I'm worried about him being on his own most of the time in case he starts going backwards.

How are things?

Not good. George didn't eat much yesterday so I'm worried he's pining for Mum. We spent some time with him and he loved the affection. Harry didn't eat much yesterday either but I think he's picking up something is wrong.

We're just waiting for 'the call' from the hospital now. Mum has a 24 hour pump for pain relief and sedation so at least she looks more peaceful. She's been moved to a private room and the medical staff on the ward have been amazing. Nothing is too much trouble and they are looking after me as well. I just want it to be over now for Mum's sake.

Hi OP. I'm very, very sorry about your Mum.

Just to save you the call I'm afraid that we, Celia Hammonds, have no space whatsoever anywhere. I was there last night and needed to find space for just two cats overnight only - they could go the next day. There was nowhere to put them. I ended up cobbling together a cage from two Queen cages tied together and putting it in the toilet as there wasn't even any floor space anywhere else. Things are that bad.

So if Battersea can take him, and no one else can, that will have to be your best bet.

This is so sad.
I don't do our litter every day. It gets a proper change at weekend and a quick scoop in the week. We use this litter which doesn't really smell.

Yes. They'll likely have picked up that something is awry. At least they're eating a little.

Take care of yourself.

Mum died this morning. Although I knew it was coming it's still such a shock.

TCN, thanks for letting me know. I'm so sorry you're struggling like that, I feel awful that George may have to go to a rescue when there's so few spaces.

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So sorry about your mum Pink
No doubt you have a lot on your plate right now but things will work out for George.

Am so sorry, Pink.

Hope it doesn't too long for you to find a lovely home for George. x

So sorry about your mum Pink. George gave her so much joy, and I hope you find the home he deserves x.

I am so so sorry for your loss.
It may be no help at all but we got our first two from Katz Castle in Surrey. They have resident cats as well as rehoming them. Another contact to try

And bless you. In the midst of your grief you're clearly trying to do right by him and your own cats too.

Very sorry to hear about your mum I really hope a good home can be found for poor wee George