My kitten died today

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It was my fault. A complete accident, but my fault. I don't think I've ever felt so guilty. I only had her a really short time, I can't believe this has happened. I would pay a million pounds to turn back the clock by an hour. Her sister is looking for her. My 2 year old will be looking for her tomorrow. It must have been such a horrible way to go. I wanted to give her the best, most happy long life I could possibly imagine. Now I think I should give up her sister as I'm obviously not careful or responsible enough to have a pet 😢😢😢😢 I'm the most stupid, awful person! My poor baby deserved such better care. She was so funny and friendly and loving and she was settling into our family so well. We loved her. Her sister was much shyer and always looked to her for guidance 😢 I can't stop crying, for both of them. I really don't want to go into it, but it was a horrible way to go. Some things on google says it would be really quick, some said it would have took 20 minutes. I can't stop googling and thinking about my poor girl. If love could bring her back, it would. I actually feel lower than I've ever felt knowing I brought this pain to the most gentle perfect baby kitten. I'll miss her for the rest of my life.

Always check your tumble drier. Don't just be a fucking stupid idiot like me and chuck clothes in without thinking. Honestly how stupid can you be when you have kittens in the house?!? Kittens like to hide, and they like warm stuff. Please don't make the same mistake I did. I'm sure you wouldn't be as careless and stupid as me when you're trusted to care for a living, beautiful baby but please please Just make sure you check your drier and washing machine and dishwasher etc. Constantly. I don't want any other poor babies to go through what mine went through

That was to mrbrownstone. Enjoy your new pet they bring so much joy.

So sorry op, I never would hsve thought of that so appreciate you sharing.

@NC2468 you weren't stupid or any kind of idiot. You got unlucky. Our guy loves the dryer. Really, it could happen to anyone.

I'm so sorry OP. Please be kind to yourself, it was a tragic accident

If you have only had them such a short time it might be worth getting in touch with the breeder/where ever you got them from and seeing if there is another litter mate you could have. If they haven't been separated long then she will remember siblings.

Op I did the exact same thing a few years back in a rush and didn't check , I like you was tormented for a while , but I tried to think about all the good things I done for the kitten even in her short time I loved her like you love yours , I spent every moment treating her special , please try to remember the good times.
Sending huge hugs

They were the last two in the litter, that was my first thought but I remember the breeder saying 😢

I'm so sorry about your kitten. My cat lost her sister at 9 months old. ( not an accident, she just disappeared ). She missed her at first, but is now the friendliest most affectionate cat we've ever had ( she's 10), I don't think she would have been the same with her sister for company iyswim.

Thank you sincerely to everyone sharing your sad stories. I've never had a pet before as an adult, so I just thought I was the most irresponsible person and the last person that should ever have a pet. But your stories, from all you lovely people, have started to make me realise that I will still be a good owner to my kitten and I do deserve her.

I still can't stop crying but I do really think m I can give my kitten number 2 the best life ever and I won't give her up and make her suffer a third trauma in her short life

@NC2468 seriously this happens to loads of people, you can't turn back the clock so just concentrate on going forwards.

I broke my kittens tail many years ago.

My friend killed their kitten in the patio doors when it made a dash for it and got its head trapped.

But yeah, good advice to check WM, TD, DW etc before putting them on. Also check you odn't shut them in wardrobes, drawerers etc

The idea of asking the breeder if they have any more litter mates left is good, otherwise I wouldn't get another one that isn't related.

I'm so sorry. This thread has made me teary, I can't imagine how you must be feeling.

Don't beat yourself up, OP. Right now it will feel as though the sadness and guilt won't ever leave you, but it will subside, I promise. And your remaining kitten will have a lovely life with you and your DD.

OP please don't be too hard on yourself, it was an accident. It could happen to any of us. Look after yourself

I got another kitten today. My DD was saying 'cats name gone' and looking for her all morning, my kitten wouldn't come out of my dd's room, even to eat/ go to the toilet (onCe this became evident I moved her food and litter tray in there obviously) so I drove 45 minutes for the closest ginger kitten I could find. She's very very lovely and playful and used to being around kids and other animals.

My DD screamed the cats name as soon as she got in the car, and was absolutely over the moon. Sister cat bounded downstairs as soon as she heard the meowing, had a sniff, a run about together, and now they're curled up on the sofa next to each other asleep. I think they're going to be great friends.

My heart aches so much for my poor passed away kitten, and Ive felt so sick and guilty and anxious all day. I think it will take me quite a while to get over what she went through. I'm not sure I ever will, fully. I'm trying not to think about it too much, but then I feel guilty about trying not to think about it - the pain it causes me to think about it is nothing compared to the pain she went through. Such a gruesome and horrific thing she went through. I'm so so sorry and so so sad I put another living being through that, especially one as lovely as her. I'm not religious, but I really really hope she's in kitten heaven, and she forgives me.

I'm glad the new kitten has bought comfort to my DD and sister kitten, and she is absolutely lovely and funny and drop dead gorgeous and I will do my upmost to keep them both happy and safe and protected for the rest of their (hopefully very very long) lives.

Just wanted to post an update for anyone who took the time to comment. I know it was a risk getting an unrelated cat, but sister kitten is so shy that I just felt she needed a bolshy, confident kitten she could follow about. Touch wood, it looks like everyone is happy.

So glad the kittens have bonded. .
Take comfort you may have saved some mn cats in the future.

I'm so sorry all this has happened. I can only imagine how awful you just be feeling. I'm glad the new kitten is helping, take comfort in that.

I'm so sorry, i was super careful about my lot as kittens being in the kitchen but regularly forgot to close the bathroom door and so one of mine fell in the toilet more than once and had difficulty getting out (you'd think both of us would have learnt the first time!) Accidents happen, no matter how careful we are.

What a lovely update!

I'm so sorry, it's not always obvious their in there.

Really sorry to hear this. I can only imagine the guilt you must be feeling but it was an accident. Please forgive yourself.

A really lovely update and I hope the two kittens continue to bond.

Your post has certainly helped me as I will now be sure to check our kitchen thoroughly before putting on any of the machines. Your brave post may have prevented so many accidental deaths among kitten owners, so thank you.

Lovely update.

Please please don't blame yourself! The fact I knew how this would have happened before you posted shows how common it is sadly. It's an accident it could happen to anyone. X

Ooh, please post some kitten photos

@swapsicles my cat fell in the toilet as a tiny kitten. Luckily I was with him, fished him out and gave his back end a rinse in the sink (so he wouldn't lick toilet chemicals from himself). The lid went down every time after that.
OP, don't be too hard on yourself, mistakes happen. Good luck with your kittens, I hope they continue to get along well :)

Sorry to hear this has happened to you, OP.

Quick kitten safety check list from me:

• toilet seat lid down, always, no exceptions.
• check fridge before closing
• never slam doors or close them without looking down with kittens in the house
• tilt and turn windows are lethal to cats and kittens; if they get their chests stuck in the v-shaped opening gap whilst trying to jump through it is impossible for them to get out. Their ribcages will be crushed as they struggle to free themselves.
• check before sitting down on sofas or beds - kittens and cats hide under cushions and duvets. Ban kids from jumping on beds whilst ever you have cats for exactly this reason.
• remove nets and blind cords - kittens can get tangled up and strangled by both
• don't leave pieces of thread or string around cats or kittens as they have a habit of eating them.
• review a list of substances that are poisonous to cats and keep them out of your house. Lilly pollen is a prime example

Oops posted too soon!

If anyone thinks of any more please feel free to add them to the above list.