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cat fighting for life

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Grange · 04/03/2015 21:49

My 5 year old cat has been in a road traffic accident today. The person didn't stop but thankfully someone else saw it and told the local vets who took her in. Her jaw is smashed and her leg is in bits. She is spending the night at the vets dosed up on pain relief to be transferred to the specialists tomorrow to see if they can save her leg and mend her jaw. The kids are distraught as am I. Anyone have any experience of a cat having 3 legs and having a quality life?

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Gileswithachainsaw · 05/03/2015 17:30

Oh god I'm soooo soooo sorry Sad

sweet dreams kitten.

what a truly awful day for you all.

be kind to yourselves and cry as much as you need to. x

GREYCROW · 05/03/2015 17:32

I'm so so sorry. Poor kitty.

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TheoriginalLEM · 05/03/2015 17:37

oh such sad news :( poor kitty Flowers

Chesntoots · 05/03/2015 17:38

I'm so sorry x

IHaveBrilloHair · 05/03/2015 17:39

So, so sorry, sending hugs to you all.

Fluffycloudland77 · 05/03/2015 18:03

I'm so sorry, poor girl.

cozietoesie · 05/03/2015 18:27

Oh No Grange - I'm so sorry. I thought she had a good chance from your initial posts but if she had that much damage it was the right decision. Poor girl.

Take care.

Ohfourfoxache · 05/03/2015 19:22

Oh Grange I'm so sorry Sad

You made the only decision you could sweetheart - she isn't suffering any more.

Sending enormous and Wine - probably needed after such an awful shock x

TamzinGrey · 05/03/2015 19:32

Oh no - I'm so sorry. I really hoped that she'd be ok. Poor little thing. Feeling terribly sad for you.

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Grange · 05/03/2015 21:11

Thank you for all your posts. It means a lot. I feel sick i've cried that much. The children are besides themselves. It is the first death they have had to deal with and as such are asking so many questions that I don't have the answers for - who does though. I can't believe her head trauma was so bad and yet they said she'd had a stable night? I just hope the pain relief was enough that she didn't suffer for too much too long.

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Grange · 05/03/2015 21:11

Thank you for all your posts. It means a lot. I feel sick i've cried that much. The children are besides themselves. It is the first death they have had to deal with and as such are asking so many questions that I don't have the answers for - who does though. I can't believe her head trauma was so bad and yet they said she'd had a stable night? I just hope the pain relief was enough that she didn't suffer for too much too long.

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cozietoesie · 05/03/2015 21:35

Grange - when I lost Twoago, I cried for a week. Gawd knows what colleagues at work made of it because I was doing it there as well. Don't worry about it.

I don't remember how old your DCs are but timtam reminded us that Blue Cross do a useful leaflet about children and pet loss. Here's a version of it for your information. There's another one around if you google.

fenneltea · 05/03/2015 21:46

I'm so very sorry. Flowers

Lonecatwithkitten · 05/03/2015 22:09

Grange she was almost certainly having methadone as her pain relief over night which is tip top stuff better than morphine in cats and dogs. So please don't fret about that.
DC deal surprisingly well with truth in these circumstances.
You made the very best decision you could in the situation.

SirVixofVixHall · 05/03/2015 22:13

Oh grange I am so sorry. I was very much hoping it would all be ok. Flowers.

pilates · 05/03/2015 22:27

Grange, so sad for you and your family Sad

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Grange · 06/03/2015 09:34

Lonecatwithkitten, are you a vet? Thanks for the information about the pain relief. I do hope she was on that. I feel distressed that she had those injuries for 24 hours before she was properly assessed. I also feel the vet specialist was pushing me to have surgery despite the very low chances of success. It feels like because we had a lot of insurance they were suggesting lots of things that they could do but none of it seemed viable at all and I couldn't put the cat or the children (all under 7yrs) through the trauma. I still don't understand the air in her brain bit at all. Surely that would have led to no surgery being possible?

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FiveHoursSleep · 06/03/2015 09:44

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's such a shock, isn't it?
One of our dogs got hit by a car 6 weeks ago and survived the accident and the first surgery, but died post operatively after a second surgery, 2 weeks ago.
I still feel really down and miss her terribly.
I'm thankful for the extra time we had, but part of me wishes she had not survived initially, especially since she spent the 4 weeks in between on three legs , tied to the sofa and unable to enjoy walks etc and we were seriously underinsured so are left with a bill for 8K.

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Grange · 06/03/2015 10:14

Oh my goodness, that's heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for you loss FivehoursSleep. Whatever decision we make it's not easy as there's too many ifs and buts. Flowers xxx

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FiveHoursSleep · 06/03/2015 11:56

Thanks Grange, pets really are members of our family aren't they? They leave such a hole when they leave us :(

cozietoesie · 06/03/2015 12:00

Lone is a vet, Grange.

So sorry, FiveHours.

code · 06/03/2015 12:06

I'm so sorry for your loss, terribly distressing for you all.

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Grange · 06/03/2015 12:42

Thanks cozietoesie. I thought from her posts she was a vet but I didn't want to presume. I wish the vet I saw yesterday had explained things as succinctly as she has x

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wevecomeonholidaybymistake · 06/03/2015 18:47

So sorry Grange.

We had our boy pts on tuesday, it's such a hard and heartbreaking decision but sometimes the hardest thing is the kindest thing, we have to put the animal first regardless of the pain it will cause us.

I've cried so many tears this week, they're such a big part of our lives, it's my children's first experience of death too so we're all struggling.

Big,big hugs to you all.