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Is it wrong to mourn my cat as I would a member of the family?

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donna20 · 13/09/2013 10:37

My beautiful cat got ran over and killed yesterday and I feel as it I've lost not only a beloved pet but also a family member.Feel numb,keep bursting in to tears and am finding it really hard to explain to my 3 yr old that his furry friend won't be coming back when he keeps asking for her.Anyone else been in this situation Help.

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RileyBigBro · 14/09/2013 19:42

My lovely cat died the same way two wks ago and I am still bursting into tears thinking about him, miss him SO much. Feeling your pain x

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Catmint · 14/09/2013 19:50

So very sorry. As others have said, she was a member of your family and it is natural and right to mourn. X

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ratbagcatbag · 14/09/2013 19:54

They are a huge part of your life, my neighbours cat (which I looked after regularly) was hit and killed one night, as we leave for work early I found her on the road. I took her back to her owner, I was absolutely devastated, I cried all day at work and she wasn't mine.

Ill be horrendous when anything happens to ratbag.

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donna20 · 15/09/2013 14:12

Thanks all its been three days now since our little fur baby was taken from us and things are slowly getting back to some sort of normality and the rawness has started to ease.Still find it hard to walk into a room and not see her little face but have started to remember her quirky little character and how much joy she brought to us as a family.

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everythinghippie29 · 15/09/2013 14:21

Glad you are starting to feel the initial pain ease off. Thanks xxx

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lurkedtoolong · 15/09/2013 15:26

I am so sorry for your loss, your lovely little cat was a member of your family and it's right to mourn her as you would any other family member.

I lost my beautiful boy 16 weeks ago and I'm still grieving for him. I can honestly say that I've never felt as much pain for a human loss - I was very young when my grandparents died and my parents are still alive so I was thrown by how painful I felt his loss.

I hope that you can remember her with happiness Flowers

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Snugglepiggy · 15/09/2013 20:51

Sorry for your loss and grief for pets can be just as profound - they are part of the family.We lost our lovely boy to sudden illness 10 days ago.All such a shock.I have had cats all through my life but he was the loveliest,cuddliest and most full of personality and I will simply never forget how much he meant to us for the ten years we had him.Our dog is an old,old boy nearing the end of his days too and we will all grieve terribly for him too.our pets bring us so much joy,but along with that comes the sadness of saying goodbye.all the best.

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WinterWinds · 18/09/2013 17:51

I lost my 11 month old female to the road 3 1/2 weeks ago and 4 days later I had to have my 12 year old male PTS.
I feel like I have lost a limb although we still have 2 cats left. I have been struggling to cope but am just taking one day at a time.
I have lost 4 cats in the last 4 years, but because I lost 2 in such a short time I have found it especially hard going this time

I certainly didn't think it was possible to shed as many tears as I have in the last 3 weeks.
So no it's not wrong to grieve for your lost pets, they are part of the family. I'm just hanging on to the good memories and know it will get better with time. I can actually speak about them both now without bursting into tears, but I cant think too much as it sets me off.

I hope you feel a little better today and hopefully with each passing day it will get a tad easier. My thoughts are with you x

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SuperiorCat · 18/09/2013 18:03

So sorry for your loss - when fluff-cat died the DCs were too upset to go to school that day - and I was too upset to be able to speak properly when I rang school to let them know Blush I had to keep stopping mid conversation and sobbing.

I took the DCs to the garden centre and let them choose a nice shrub and they wrote her letters to put in her grave.

I really feel for you.

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