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When your dog dies .. and you want another one ..

51 replies

Fidgety31 · 08/10/2025 17:36

I am seeking some opinions on this as I have not been in this situation before …
my dog recently passed away. He was elderly and with us a long time . He was such an easy dog and really never any problems with him at all.

I am wanting to get another dog .. and have a strong urge to get the same breed again- but is this wrong ? Am I just trying to replace the one I’ve lost ?

what have you done when you’ve been in this situation?

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TheOliveFinch · 08/10/2025 17:53

There is a temptation to go for the same breed when you have had a good experience with a previous one. Just make sure you are prepared that they may be very different in temperament. I lost my previous dog in traumatic circumstances who was very easy going , I got another dog of the same breed and she has been a nightmare as she is so reactive to other dogs and hates most visitors to the house despite us trying very hard to resolve her behaviour , I’ve always had dogs and my current one has been the most challenging by a mile

LandSharksAnonymous · 08/10/2025 17:53

I breed, so I get asked this a lot by prospective buyers and I have seen both 'sides' - the people who are ready and it's 'their' breed and the people who 'aren't.

I have one buyer, who has been buying from the 'Kennel' for 30 years - she bought her first Goldie puppy from my mum thirty years ago. She bought her latest dog from me only about a month ago. She always has 2-3 dogs, and she always says the best way for her to 'manage' the possible grief (and guilt) is to alternate girl and boy. She doesn't view it as replacing the dog she lost - and how could it be because each dog is so individual - but she is aware of the possibility the lines might 'blur', and so she never gets the same 'sex' back to back.

I have another buyer who does the same- boy, girl, boy, girl. He never has more than one at a time, and he always alternates and likewise he used to buy from my mum when she bred. He finds it easier to buy the same breed. He absolutely is still grieving the dog he has just lost when he comes to meet his 'new' puppy - and I don't judge him for it. We all heal in different ways and, for some, a new puppy of the same breed helps with closure.

Other prospective buyers have approached me and they've even managed to make it to being allowed to meet a litter (one was even on my waitlist for a year!)...and then they've realised it's not right and they're not ready for either a dog or, simply just that breed. And that's okay. Until that puppy is in your arms you cannot know if you are ready or if it's right.

What is right for some people won't be right for others. I think it's a very individual choice. The worst thing that can happen if you go to view a litter is you realise you're not ready and, I cannot stress this enough, no good breeder will ever judge you for that - so please don't be afraid to start putting feelers out there if that is what you want to do.

I am so sorry for your loss though - saying goodbye is awful, but when you've had them so long it is like losing a part of yourself.

Fidgety31 · 08/10/2025 17:59

Thank you for these thoughtful replies . Maybe getting the opposite sex, or even a different colour would be a helpful way to not blur those lines of being a replacement, as like you say - all dogs are individuals .

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PlatinumBrunette · 08/10/2025 17:59

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s horribly tough.
Mine died last year, and while I don’t plan on getting another dog, I would definitely have the same breed again. I understand them, and I think that would make it easier, somehow.

If I can talk on cats here (sorry!), I also lost two of my cats in the past year too. Now have a pair of kittens, perhaps a bit too soon after, but I lost my mind a bit with so much loss.

Their personalities are SO different from the others, and their behaviours are very different, it’s refreshing and very healing. I don’t think I expected such a difference, and it really helps.

not sure what I’m trying to say here, sorry!

TheLilacStork · 08/10/2025 18:00

I lost my boys last year, wanted a puppy of the same breed. Looked everywhere for rescues etc (really wanted a puppy but anything would do), ended up getting a mix breed puppy. I love her so much now and I don’t mind mix breeds at all, I love all breeds/mixes but I am really drawn to this breed and still feel the yearning to get one! I know the personalities will all be different. It’s so funny what we are drawn to! I can fall in love with pretty much any dog but am still really drawn to certain breeds. Sorry to hear about the loss of your boy

muddyford · 08/10/2025 18:04

I've had three male black Labradors, one after the other. They aren't replacements, they are individuals of the same breed who do share some inate traits.

CrostaDiPizza · 08/10/2025 18:06

Thank you for these thoughtful replies . Maybe getting the opposite sex, or even a different colour would be a helpful way to not blur those lines of being a replacement, as like you say - all dogs are individuals .
That's what I did. OldDDog had a unisex name. NewDDog has the same name and looks similar, and was a 'replacement', but DDog is female and has a different temperament.
OldDDog was run over, and the rush to get a replacement was to distract from the grief.
DDog is so different but has been here years now. Love her to bits.

Sorry about your loss.

Errolwasahero · 08/10/2025 18:07

Sorry for your loss. I don’t thinks it’s a bad thing, necessarily, to want another dog. I have had many over the years. Yes it’s hard when they go, but after a while the ‘name’ shaped hole dissipates a bit into a ‘dog’ shaped hole. Then I know it’s time. I haven’t gone for specific breeds, as such, but certain types, as I rescue. You’ll know what feels right for you. I guess the only thing is not to expect the same, even with the same breed as others have said. And take your time. Good luck I’m sure you’ll find a new friend x

Springersrock · 08/10/2025 18:18

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my old springer boy a few years ago and we got a springer girl about 8 months later.

I didn’t want another for a good while as it felt really disloyal. DH/the kids were the driver in getting another dog and although I loved her to pieces and she filled a spaniel shaped hole from the day we brought her home, she wasn’t my boy and it took a while to get my head around it all.

To be honest, although our old boy was ill, when the day came it was sudden and the end wasn’t what I wanted for him, I felt guilty and getting another just didn’t feel right.

Springers are ‘my’ breed, I love them, I love their enthusiasm and joy they find in everything, so I was never interested in any other breed. We got a girl this time and she is so different it doesn’t feel like I’ve tried to replace him - although I swear to god he’s up there whispering in her ear as she does the same naughty stuff he used to.

Chaotica · 08/10/2025 18:23

I agree with the PPs above: each dog is an individual and never just a replacement for the one you lost. He or she is often excellent distraction from the grief though.

SevenHundredandFortyThreeThree · 08/10/2025 18:26

This is so hard- I swung between wanting to get a dog just like my lovely old boy immediately, wanting to get something completely different, and thinking I'd never get another dog again. In the end we waited a year and ended up with a new dog who is similar but not the same...it's so personal. The only thing I'd say is that there's no rush- it's fine to get another dog straightaway and that works for some people but if in doubt you can always wait and give yourself a bit more time.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 08/10/2025 18:30

I have an elderly dog and if I ever got another I know I couldn't get the same breed because it would hurt so much knowing it looked like her but wasn't her.

Obviously it's different for everyone but that's how I would feel.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 08/10/2025 18:33

They are never replacements because every dog is different. Even within the same breed they have completely different personalities.

If you like the breed, go for it.

FuzzyBumbleeBee · 08/10/2025 18:38

Going for the same breed again means you have a good idea what you are getting into with a puppy and adult dog with walking, health needs ect and know that it's a good fit for your family, it doesn't mean you are replacing them.

We went for the same breed twice in a row but when he passed very suddenly even though he was young I couldn't go for the same breed again as my circumstances had changed and I wouldn't have been able to give the same good start to a working pup that they needed to have gotten to the stage he was when he passed.

I have a very different breed now that I have fallen in love with, looks and excersise levels are very different but the temperament is the same, I swear sometimes that it's like having my original boy back behind a different pair of eyes.

sueelleker · 08/10/2025 18:39

We've had spaniels for over 40 years. I'm currently on my fifth. I love the breed, and know a lot about their personalities and behaviour. As long as you're not expecting it to be a duplicate of your lost pet, I see no problem in getting the same breed. Some people wait years, because they can't bear to think they're "replacing" a pet; but I find the house too quiet without one. The longest I've waited is 3 months, because I go for rescues and it took that long to find a suitable dog. Good luck.

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 08/10/2025 18:40

I'm so sorry about the loss of your dog.

We always have the same breed. We've had 8 in total, and both sexes but not really alternated because there were times when we had two or three together. The last two have been the only dog - current youngster is female, previous one was male. Our next dog will be the same breed. I couldn't bear to get anything else.

They never replace the previous dog, or at least not in your heart and soul, although they obviously do fill that physical void. Each is totally unique, even within the same breed.

Myfridgeiscool · 08/10/2025 18:42

I currently have a girl collie, previous collie was a boy. She’ll never replace him, they’re completely different dogs but the amount of love given and received is the same.
Knowing the breed is a shortcut to happiness- you know what they need to be happy.

Itsnearlyxmas · 08/10/2025 19:05

I am so sorry for the loss of your dog. I lost mine 2 weeks ago and don't think i will ever want another one. I loved him so much and it hurt too much losing him. He was my best friend for a very long time. Not my first dog but the best bond ever.

Fidgety31 · 08/10/2025 19:07

This is so heartwarming to hear how so many of you have found happiness again in your next dog.
I am also relieved that wanting the same breed isn’t seen as a weird thing to do either .

this is all helping with my decision on what to do next … I am cautious that I might be seen by some friends as rushing into getting another dog - but I guess only those who have been there will have understand .

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ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 08/10/2025 19:23

Fidgety31 · 08/10/2025 19:07

This is so heartwarming to hear how so many of you have found happiness again in your next dog.
I am also relieved that wanting the same breed isn’t seen as a weird thing to do either .

this is all helping with my decision on what to do next … I am cautious that I might be seen by some friends as rushing into getting another dog - but I guess only those who have been there will have understand .

Real friends will understand, that's the least of your worries.

It's a very personal thing, when, and if, you are ready for a new dog. No one but you and your family gets a say in this.

Pointyhound · 10/10/2025 11:35

I went with the same breed/line as it suits my lifestyle and they even were nearly identically marked too ( not chosen purposefully).Some breeds have limited colours and if see them at a show they may all look the same at a glance but when it's your own dog you see similarities but a lot more differences and their character sets them apart. I view it as welcoming a new friend into my life and I've capacity in my heart for more than 1.

I think initially it's always going to trigger some grief emotions even when you've waited a while but having another dog to focus on also helps process these and brings some needed joy. When they did spark memories of the old dog, i found it a nice reminder as they live on within us.

Yetmorewifework · 10/10/2025 13:15

We didn't want to be in your situation without a dog in the house, so we got a pal for DDog when he started to slow down. His pal was so successful he almost doubled his life span! None of the dogs have replaced another one, because they all overlapped being with us. I'm not sure that I have a favourite breed, each dog has 'spoken' to us in some way that we've ended up welcoming into our family.

Gilead · 10/10/2025 17:15

I lost my 13 year old cockerpoo very suddenly the day before yesterday. I came here looking for support, but actually, whilst still in pieces, this thread has helped me a wee bit. Thank you.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 10/10/2025 17:17

Gilead · 10/10/2025 17:15

I lost my 13 year old cockerpoo very suddenly the day before yesterday. I came here looking for support, but actually, whilst still in pieces, this thread has helped me a wee bit. Thank you.

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I'm so sorry xx

CrostaDiPizza · 10/10/2025 17:19

@Gilead , sorry for your loss. They leave a big hole in your life. [hug] 🐶