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I dont love my dog anymore but I dont want my mum to get rid of her

59 replies

Christine19 · 27/09/2025 10:40

I have a 3 year old dachshund who used to be a perfect fit for me and I loved her to begin with. But over her time with me ive grown more annoyed with the things I once loved about her. She always has to be near me, she constantly licks if given the chance, and last year she had a slip disc. I had to pay 1k out of the money I just got for my 18th birthday for the surgery (slowly being paid back by parents). I dont know if ive changed and im not good with dogs anymore, if she's just too much for me, or if im somehow secretly waiting for her to get another slip disc because my mum isn't gonna put her through the operation again and will have her put down. Idk what to do because I feel so guilty, this dog adores me and on a good day I just tolerate her and on a bad day I dont want her near me but the last thing I wanna do is rehome her. I know this probably makes me a terrible person but I just need some advice on what I should do

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PopcornIcecream · 27/09/2025 10:41

You need to rehome her if you feel this way but please do it properly not via social media

GreyTS · 27/09/2025 10:45

Look I hope this is not real or it’s some kind of weird reverse because no one would reveal themselves to be such a disgusting excuse for a human as you have done here. If by any chance this dog actually exists then contact a rescue and let them know of your plan to give away this innocent dog to a random on social media. And if this is a parent posting about their child’s dog then you have done something very wrong to raise such a cold unfeeling selfish shit of an 18 year old

Sunflower459 · 27/09/2025 10:46

PopcornIcecream · 27/09/2025 10:41

You need to rehome her if you feel this way but please do it properly not via social media

Yes, please rehome her through a recognised rehoming charity, and please don’t get another animal until you’re settled and self-sufficient enough to be in it for the long haul.

SheepShankers · 27/09/2025 10:49

Poor dog. Please rehome her through a reputable organisation. And don’t get another animal

LidlAmaretto · 27/09/2025 10:49

So your parents got a 15 year old a dog and said it was your complete responsibility( including vets fees)? Is it not a family dog? Give her to a reputable rescue

Woompund · 27/09/2025 10:53

LidlAmaretto · 27/09/2025 10:49

So your parents got a 15 year old a dog and said it was your complete responsibility( including vets fees)? Is it not a family dog? Give her to a reputable rescue

She said her parents are paying her back - I assume they didn't have the money available when it was needed and OP did.

Look, a 15 year old shouldn't have sole or main responsibility for a dog. You're 18, your mum is looking after it, it's her decision if it gets rehomed, it's her dog now surely? You need to take your part in caring for it by walking etc but I don't see why you are hand wringing so much. If your mum wants to rehome because she can't care for it then that's her decision, given that you can't take full responsibility for the dog. It's a bit shit, but getting a dog for a 15 year old is bloody stupid and that's on your parents, not you.

Woompund · 27/09/2025 10:54

GreyTS · 27/09/2025 10:45

Look I hope this is not real or it’s some kind of weird reverse because no one would reveal themselves to be such a disgusting excuse for a human as you have done here. If by any chance this dog actually exists then contact a rescue and let them know of your plan to give away this innocent dog to a random on social media. And if this is a parent posting about their child’s dog then you have done something very wrong to raise such a cold unfeeling selfish shit of an 18 year old

Where did you read that she wants to give the dog away on social media?! She said she doesn't want to rehome the dog. She's 18, wasn't even an adult when the dog was acquired, it's on her parents for creating this mess, not her.

Lougle · 27/09/2025 10:55

This is not your fault. A 15 year old can't be responsible for a dog. My 18 year old has an assistance dog that we bought her as a puppy almost 2 years ago. On paper, she is my dog. I insure her, she is registered at the vets in my name. Same with my 16 year old who has an almost one year old assistance dog in training. I am the owner, I have the contract with the vets, etc. That's because children grow and change and develop. They don't always want what they did want.

If you want tips on how to enrich her day so she isn't so obsessed about licking you, we can help. If you just want her gone, be honest and find a rescue who will diligently find her a good home.

Hoppinggreen · 27/09/2025 10:58

Getting you a dog was a BAD idea, you are in no way responsible enough for one - especially a tricky breed with health issues like this.
But they did, maybe you will get lucky and your dog will have a reoccurence of its back issues and you can have it PTS
Problem solved
And as for you being a Terrible person? Yep but you are only 18 so maybe you won't be forever

Butterflybum · 27/09/2025 10:58

I hope that you are a troll.

im somehow secretly waiting for her to get another slip disc because my mum isn't gonna put her through the operation again and will have her put down.

😳

CalzoneOnLegs · 27/09/2025 11:01

how appalling wishing pain and death on a defenceless animal.

EffinMagicFairy · 27/09/2025 11:04

Really hope this is a wind up, if not, please re home responsibly, and do other animals a favour by never having one again.

GreyTS · 27/09/2025 11:07

Woompund · 27/09/2025 10:54

Where did you read that she wants to give the dog away on social media?! She said she doesn't want to rehome the dog. She's 18, wasn't even an adult when the dog was acquired, it's on her parents for creating this mess, not her.

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Seriously go read the OP again, it is disturbing, I have 2 teenage daughters who feed and walk the family dogs almost daily, if either of them expressed opinions like this about an innocent animal I would be so ashamed

Woompund · 27/09/2025 11:09

GreyTS · 27/09/2025 11:07

Seriously go read the OP again, it is disturbing, I have 2 teenage daughters who feed and walk the family dogs almost daily, if either of them expressed opinions like this about an innocent animal I would be so ashamed

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Yes but where does she say she wants to rehome the dog on social media?
I agree it's a horrible thought to wish injury on a pet rather than rehoming it. But she's been landed with responsibility beyond her capacity by her parents.

miserableandworried · 27/09/2025 11:10

Smells like bull shit

CalzoneOnLegs · 27/09/2025 11:11

miserableandworried · 27/09/2025 11:10

Smells like bull shit

I really hope so as it is very upsetting to think about, that poor little dog, failed by every human in his life.

JennieTheZebra · 27/09/2025 11:12

“… or if im somehow secretly waiting for her to get another slip disc because my mum isn't gonna put her through the operation again and will have her put down”

OP do you think you’re worried about bonding with her in case she dies? Brains can be a bit silly sometimes and try to keep us safe by pushing things we care about away. The operation must have been really scary and so it makes sense that you would feel that way. It’s ok to be scared of losing her.

Branleuse · 27/09/2025 11:17

Shes not a toy. Shes a living being and has got feelings.
You are only 18, and so this is your parents responsibility. I think you need to back off from guilt tripping your mum. You are beginning to understand that a dog is a big responsibility and I can see that you feel torn, but you already guilted them into getting the dog for you. Now you dont want it, but you don't want it to live a full life with a loving family?
Gently, you need to grow up about this.

CatAsstrophe · 27/09/2025 11:25

im somehow secretly waiting for her to get another slip disc because my mum isn't gonna put her through the operation again and will have her put down

I hope you're a troll. If not, you sound unhinged, totally lacking in compassion. Wishing pain and death on a dog is beyond horrific.

bugalugs45 · 27/09/2025 11:26

You’re right , you are a terrible person.

Pricelessadvice · 27/09/2025 11:27

You horrible excuse for a human.
Rehome this dog through the proper channels, not just an ad on social media.

Find someone who is going to adore this dog like they deserve and not wish harm on them so they can be put down.

Then take a long hard look at yourself and sort yourself out. And NEVER get an animal again.

ACavalierDream · 27/09/2025 11:38

I am not sure this is for real. If it is, it is a sad situation but there is no need to make an 18 years old feel that bad. OP I think you need to give this dog a better home. She is only 3 and there is a long road ahead.

OP I did a quick google and found this rescue for dachund https://dachshundrescue.org.uk

please contact them and give them your dog. There will be someone you will love her the way she deserves.

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Dachshund Rescue UK - Emergency Fostering Rehoming Adoption

Dachshund Rescue UK - Emergency Fostering Rehoming Adoption, Permanent homes for Dachshunds whose owners can no longer keep them.

https://dachshundrescue.org.uk

JennieTheZebra · 27/09/2025 11:50

Can we please remember that the OP is closer to a frightened child than a responsible adult. The dog isn’t even hers to re home-it’s her mother’s.

HoppingPavlova · 27/09/2025 11:53

Yes, being blunt, it does make you a terrible person. I can only be glad that none of my kids would have written this at 18yo.

lljkk · 27/09/2025 11:54

Ja, If I were a teenager I'd really be posting my dog dilemmas on Mumsnet. First place I'd go to, for sure.