Grief is overwhelming - pet loss

[Soulstirring]

I lost my girl yesterday. We made a hard decision and I’m driving myself insane querying whether it was the right one. I physically hurt I’m so sad, I can’t breathe. I loved her like one of my children. I’m writing this here as apart from my husband who feels the same, I’m not sure anyone else truly understands and I need to get it out. I’m not expecting answers just need a space to vent.

She had a catastrophic injury and perhaps could have made a recovery to some degree with surgery. Maybe I should have fought harder for her but to couldn’t bear her to suffer. Was it best for her though. We miss her so much already. The house feels empty.

Sending love to you all, we had to put our lovely boy to sleep over August bank hol weekend and I am still grieving, although having his adopted brother still in our family does make it easier to be distracted.
Like a pp, our dog also did not seem fully terminal at the end but was still settled and eating chicken.. but this was only because he was in the vets on loads of meds and fluids. The lovely vet told us that, if we took him off the meds and fluids and took him home, he'd be in pain and distress within a short space of time, and that she would let him go if it were her dog.
I feel so guilty that we held him while the vet injected him and he had walked into the consulting room himself, slightly wagging his tail, when we went to be with him.
I have to keep telling myself that the vet knew what was best and that it would have been distressing and painful for him to come home, but it is so hard.

Sorry for you OP and for all of you on this thread, they are such important parts of our family and we have to console ourselves by thinking of the lovely lives they had, and how we tried to do the best for them at the end xxx

Hello, first of all I m SO sorry for your loss. Even 2 months on you must still be devastated. 😥😥

This is for you and anyone who is still grieving so much for their pet who has crossed the rainbow 🌈 bridge:

As an animal communicator and having talked to many pets in-spirit too, I would like to reassure and comfort you with the following:

• Your pet is now pure,positive love
• Her/his soul never dies and her/his spirit will always be with you and you will feel it when you think of your pet with love and gratitude
• Animals NEVER blame their owners for anything or think they are bad pet parents or haven't done enough
• Animals NEVER hold a grudge or wish they had had a different life/end to their life
• Animals are much "closer" to and much more accepting of death, for them it is just a transition from the physical into non physical, regardless of what age they pass
• They can and do return to the physical
• It is possible to connect with them still
• So the absolute best you can do is remember your pet with love and appreciation. Perhaps create a shrine or little memorial place.

I hope this helps.
💝

I feel for you - but please know that thinking you made the wrong decision in this matter is so very common.

We've had several pets pts and it was only with the last one that we knew for certain it was time and this was because the vet said so. In fact, she said "You cannot take her home - it has to be today because (details of what would happen soon and we might not be able to get her to a vet fast enough)" In her case, we'd actually left it too late.

With that dog's predecessor - an elderly staffy we adopted aged 11 - we put him through a really serious back operation thinking we were doing the right thing and he had about 8 months of poor quality life recovering and then relapsing. So, opting for the surgical/treatment route with a seriously ill dog was not the right decision in his case and is fraught with danger.

Please be at peace with your decision - you made it for love of your much beloved dog.

@TinaAC- thank you for your post. It's really helped me ❣️ 🌈

Thinking of you, OP. There's no pain quite like it 😢

Because you said this OP, I think you will find it very comforting to watch some pet Psychics on youtube.
Viewing an American woman's channel (Danielle, but I won't link here) really helped me when I faced the same loss a year ago. 🌈

We’re 5 months on from losing our boy in a complete freak accident and I’m getting worse not better. I still can’t get my head round him being gone, like my brain won’t allow me to go there. But at the same time I miss him so much and I feel like the memory of him is slipping away 😭.