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Dog barking complaint - be gentle I’m upset

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Nugg · 04/06/2025 05:14

Looking for advice as well as letting it out. I received an anonymous letter from a neighbour posted through the Royal mail that basically said my dog barks too much at antisocial hours is left alone outside on its own for too long and I don’t walk enough

None of this is true. I hate barking dogs and the minute she starts I’m out there but there has been the very occasional time where for example I’m on a teams meeting and the back door is open and something has spooked her that she will bark for longer.

I literally say “quietly” which I’ve trained her to realise means do not bark in the garden as I opened the back door, I say “enough” in a very strong voice, which also stops her immediately should she start.

There are triggers to make her bark constantly because we’ve only lived here for a few months. She’s still getting used to the noises and the people outside.- She literally never barked at my old house unless a cat came in the garden or something like that which is to be expected.

So say my neighbour and her son are out and the little boy starts going woof woof talking to my dog she will bark back but I pick her up and we say hello however if her husband walks up and down the garden repeatedly near the fence and doesn’t interact it really frightens her I guess so she’s barking and I bring her in.

I sat and cried when I got the letter because I’m a really really responsible dog owner, my dog is even a therapy pet. If I ever have to work in the office, I have a wonderful dog sitter that either walk her or take her for the day. She doesn’t bark in the house ever and I can check this to make sure she hasn’t started, which I have because I have a camera.

I’m a very quiet responsible neighbour and dog owner and this has really upset me that they didn’t feel they could just knock on the door because I would’ve obviously have apologised for any upset and been even more attentive to her barking if that’s even possible because I really can’t stand barking dogs.

i’ve read the Battersea dogs home training guide on barking and none of it really applies to her. She doesn’t even bark at the front door.

I’ve only told a few people who all know me and my dog well and they have said it’s ridiculous and I should ignore it, But it’s actually made me frightened to let the dog in the garden for example after work yesterday I let her out she ran down the garden did two small woofs I said enough that was it but in that time one of the neighbours shouted shut up at the top of their voice.

I feel quite bullied that one of my neighbours is spying on me every move because they’ve got it all wrong they obviously don’t see when I take my dog out because a lot of the time I put her in the car and take her somewhere for a really good run. People laugh about how pampered my pet is because she is literally spoiled within an inch of her life.

Do those dog Barking colours work, are they unkind? I don’t know anything about it because it’s literally not been an issue but I don’t wanna be an annoying neighbour and it’s really upset me as I said.

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Onleemoi · 05/06/2025 17:42

TiredWife · 05/06/2025 14:27

Well then you clearly have no need for our advice here at all. Your dog is clearly perfect.

And a neighbour was prompted to send an anonymous note out of the blue for no reason whatsoever.

🙄

Says the person whose neighbours have been subjected to work calls with windows open. Dogs are probably telling you to put sock in it.

Nugg · 07/06/2025 21:20

TiredWife · 05/06/2025 14:27

Well then you clearly have no need for our advice here at all. Your dog is clearly perfect.

And a neighbour was prompted to send an anonymous note out of the blue for no reason whatsoever.

🙄

Yeah thanks for this. People can over react. I’m not ignorant nor stupid. I’m very careful but I acknowledge that in the past my dog has barked.

however, what I have noticed is no other dogs in the area are barking at the moment even the ones that have slightly irritated me.. I’m guessing we all got a letter!

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TiredWife · 08/06/2025 08:25

In my experience dog owners nearly always underestimate or downplay the impact of their dog barking for their neighbours. Dog owners treat their dogs as family members - their ‘fur-babies’ etc, so are unable to understand that others don’t find them quite so adorable.
This, for example:
if her husband walks up and down the garden repeatedly near the fence and doesn’t interact it really frightens her I guess so she’s barking

God forbid that the poor man should want to walk near the fence in his own garden (and repeatedly - how dare he!) without a dog yapping at him from the other side! Why should he have to react? Presumably he’s just ignoring it in the hope that the dog will shut the f*ck up and let him get on with the quiet enjoyment of his home, to which he is entitled.
Rather than assuming neighbours are over-reacting when they shout out ‘shut up!’ perhaps take it as a sign that they are fed up to the back teeth with the dog yapping.

Anyway if dogs are no longer barking outside for long periods of time maybe you have all now discovered what it means to be kind and respectful neighbours - well done!

teksquad · 09/06/2025 10:04

This is my experience too.

One former neighbour was particularly bad. Neighbours in the detached house next to us who had 3 large dogs that would bark like mad when we went dowt the stairs inside our hosue on that side of our detached house, inside, or opened the bathroom window on that side. I ruined an entire stair carpet when they gave me a fright one morning when i was half asleep and I dropped a cup of tea down the stairs when they gave me a fright. They 'lived' on their patio just the other side of the fence between our properties. If I tried to use my side passageway they would go absolutely beserk amd try and get through the fence. When a panel eventually came through, the woman next door suggested we leave it down so that the dogs could come into our garden at will, with my small children, so they could 'get to know us'.

When I complained about this and asked them to move the dogs to the other side of their detached house, they accused me of being 'unkind' to their dogs and threatened to report me to the RSPCA. The Royal Mail refused to deliver to them so they had to put a post box outside their gates. The woman got arrested for fighting with another neigbour who was complaining about the dogs, she shoved her off the step. Luckily they moved after a year of this constant stress (tiptoeing down my own stairs trying not to set them off), because 'everyone was being mean to our dogs' (sold house at a loss and moved to Wales, apparently becasue people love dogs there). Some people are absolutely insane about their dogs.

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