New owners

[Mrspinknails]

Hi we've been looking for a dog for years. Since this time, I caught my husband cheating and told him to leave. He never wanted a dog and we are currently going through a divorce now.
I have two primary aged children both asd and are going through counselling since their dad left. Counsellor also mentioned a dog may be good for them to encourage them to go outside ( they are obsessed with gaming) as well as bonding together.

I'm not 100% on breed. My parents have a sprocker who we see a lot so new pup would need to be ok with other dogs.
I'm a hybrid worker and parents love close by.
I could probably walk an hour a day myself, parents can help too if need be. Need a dog that's easy to train as we are new to this.
Options are:

A smooth dachsund ( we know the owner.) Parents health tested.
Mini poodle..dad is KC amd tested and nan of mum is heath tested but mum isn't
Cocker spaniel ( show i think but I've asked for confirmation on thjs as well as testing)

Id love a golden but our house is quite small plus my mum may need to help walk and see won't manage a larger breed.

Which one would be best for us and hoe much are they mostly for good and insurance.
I've tried to find insurance quotes but I need to sign up and give all my details even for a quote!!

Any experiences owners please I meed help!!

I can see both sides of this and can only offer advice from my own experience. We are on our fourth Goldie and omg has she been hardwork. The biting was awful, absolutely full of energy and much more demanding than my previous three put together. That said she's now 8 months and has calmed down a lot. She's walked three times a day and this is non negotiable no matter the weather. She does sleep through the night and accidents are long gone but honestly adding young children into the mix would have finished me off. Luckily my ASD son is now 20 but if we had have got her when he was little I don't think I would have coped. Even now we have to keep her out of his room as she "steals" things and drives him crazy or "dive bombs" which he also hates but can now cope with due to being an adult. We've always had dogs and our home wouldn't feel right without one so I do understand, I'd just be prepared to literally have your life turned upside down for a good few months/year. Thankfully we are a three adult household and so we all take responsibility but if I'd have been the only adult, hand on heart I just may have had to contact the breeder to discuss returning her as I was finding it hard to cope. I had just lost my dad suddenly and life was very overwhelming and she really didn't help!
On the flip side, she is slowly maturing into a lovely girl and I just know we will get there, it's just taking a lot of time and patience x

There are multiple behaviourist saying the same thing that you’re free to google. It doesn’t matter if they are all the same, it’s still not an appropriate environment for a puppy and leads to overstimulating them and them not learning to appropriately socialise with other dogs.