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Keep, re home or PTS a dog that bit?

183 replies

Puppalicious · 12/08/2024 11:54

Our dog bit my dh yesterday, punctured the skin and its now infected. It was entirely my DH’s fault - she was lying under a bush, he lifted her to pull her out (she’s increasingly hard to get out from her “den”), she almost went upside down so he had her by the back legs. She has hip dysplasia, it must have been excruciating for her. I don’t know what he was thinking. However, I worry now she’s crossed a rubicon.

The problem is we have 3 small children, the smallest of whom’s face is low enough to get a bite there. The dog is 3 years old but in pain - we thought it might be one bad hip and get a referral to a vet hospital. However, she’s actually got something wrong in all 4 legs (hip dysplasia in back ones, a touch of arthritis and carpal hyperextension in the front). They recommended weight loss, librela and conservative management in the first instance, all of which we’ve done, and then consider surgery. But in all 4 legs? Is it fair to any dog to do that? She’s not improving. She’s terribly slow on walks.

Last night she looked at me and growled for no reason. My littlest just told me that she petted her this morning and she almost bit her (made no contact - I always thought she had good bite inhibition but maybe not following yesterday). I worry that my DH’s idiocy yesterday has made her even more reactive. I worry a dog in pain is maybe not safe with children in any event. She thinks she’s one of them and will often try to lie beside them - especially the little one - but that means its very easy for one of them to knock her.

She has a lovely sweet gentle nature (she was at the groomers last week and they commented on how friendly and good-natured she is) but I just can’t take any chances with my children. They’ve all been warned sternly this morning to take a lot of care. But is it safe? Should we look at rehoming her to somewhere with no children - but who would want a disabled dog who has bit, beautiful and sweet natured though she is? She would also miss us so much. Should we look into surgery, see if that would help - but all 4 legs?! Is that fair on any dog? I can’t really contemplate the last option in my title - but would that be the fairest thing for her, if she’s in pain?

I know the doghouse can be very rough so I’m expecting some abuse here, but at the same time I’m wondering what good dog-lovers would do.

OP posts:
rumred · 12/08/2024 19:53

Nothing to add except breeders have blood on their hands. What a vile way to make money, from another creatures misery

LuckySantangelo35 · 12/08/2024 20:59

Educationexpert · 12/08/2024 18:14

You’re bad people. That’s all I have to say. Poor dog.

@Educationexpert youve led a really charmed and sheltered life if you think op and her husband are bad people.

magicmushrooms · 12/08/2024 22:27

LuckySantangelo35 · 12/08/2024 20:59

@Educationexpert youve led a really charmed and sheltered life if you think op and her husband are bad people.

Precisely-the husband made an error of judgement, he is not a monster. He meant no harm. But he does really need to see a doctor - infection & potentially sepsis can set in quickly.

OP thought she was getting a healthy puppy to grow up with her children but dodgy breeding has meant the dog has major health issues.

the dog does need a in-depth assessment by a pragmatic vet who had the dogs interest at heart and not the practice's bank balance.

Namechange303333311 · 12/08/2024 23:26

She’s only 3, if surgery is an option I’d explore that. Even if she has multiple surgeries and several long recoveries it’d be worth it for the next 10+ years. If she was 13 I’d have said PTS.

Blueberrymuffin80 · 16/08/2024 13:27

I'm sorry but I'm sick of people making excuses for dogs biting, dogs should not bite regardless.
Would people make the same excuses for humans, no they'd be in prison.
Stop normalising aggression.

LuckySantangelo35 · 16/08/2024 16:29

Blueberrymuffin80 · 16/08/2024 13:27

I'm sorry but I'm sick of people making excuses for dogs biting, dogs should not bite regardless.
Would people make the same excuses for humans, no they'd be in prison.
Stop normalising aggression.

Totally agree!

so many people on mumsnet will bend over backwards to excuse aggression from a dog and will tie themselves up in knots to always somehow make it the owners fault.

K0OLA1D · 16/08/2024 18:51

Blueberrymuffin80 · 16/08/2024 13:27

I'm sorry but I'm sick of people making excuses for dogs biting, dogs should not bite regardless.
Would people make the same excuses for humans, no they'd be in prison.
Stop normalising aggression.

So if I come in and deliberately hurt a dog, we should expect it not to stick up for itself?

LuckySantangelo35 · 16/08/2024 20:12

K0OLA1D · 16/08/2024 18:51

So if I come in and deliberately hurt a dog, we should expect it not to stick up for itself?

@K0OLA1D

op’s husband didn’t deliberately hurt dog

K0OLA1D · 16/08/2024 20:36

LuckySantangelo35 · 16/08/2024 20:12

@K0OLA1D

op’s husband didn’t deliberately hurt dog

Was i responding to you or the op? No.

I don't want to enter into a hate filled debate about dogs with you. So have a lovely Friday

LuckySantangelo35 · 16/08/2024 21:09

K0OLA1D · 16/08/2024 20:36

Was i responding to you or the op? No.

I don't want to enter into a hate filled debate about dogs with you. So have a lovely Friday

@K0OLA1D

erm ok 🤷‍♀️
thanks, you too - have a great weekend

abracadabra1980 · 16/08/2024 21:40

I'm also with PTS; however your husband is showing the 🚩 of retarded emotional intelligence.

Puppalicious · 30/11/2024 12:50

Well to update on this one, there were no more incidents like the one that started the thread, that was a one off due to DH’s stupidity. We decided to go ahead with surgery on her leg, as it was clear she was in increasing pain walking and the vet strongly recommended it. But she died last night, she somehow got sepsis, and she had a terrible last few days. She was alone in a hospital with no family around her, as she went down hill so quickly. We’re all devastated.

OP posts:
Renamed · 30/11/2024 13:30

I’m so sorry

Abc1weabc1 · 30/11/2024 14:08

Really sorry to read your update

Abc1weabc1 · 30/11/2024 14:13

My first dog spent his last night at the vets, and while I know he was on pain meds and in a woozy haze, I wish it had been different.
The plus side was that he was living his best life until 4 days before he was pts, and the end was relatively quick.
I have to hang on to that rather than where he spent his last night, and I think you need to hang on to the fact you went ahead with the op to give your dog a pain free future. You were incredibly unlucky that your dog got sepsis. Nobody could have predicted that.

Floralnomad · 30/11/2024 14:17

I’m so sorry @Puppalicious

Clearinguptheclutter · 30/11/2024 14:18

Just deleted my comment having rtft

im so sorry. At least the poor dog is no longer in pain.

Puppalicious · 30/11/2024 14:32

I think we didn’t have any choice, and we couldn’t have predicted the outcome, but I’m so sad. The children are so upset

OP posts:
SunQueen24 · 30/11/2024 14:38

I’m sorry for your loss OP.

Sunburnisrareinscotland · 30/11/2024 14:57

Ah so sorry to read your update op... You tried to do right by ddog. Don't forget that. Your poor dc must be heartbroken.. Maybe a ddoggy statue for the garden? We scattered ashes in a few of dog's favourite places..
Again sorry for your loss..

K0OLA1D · 30/11/2024 14:58

So sorry for your loss op x

TinyMouseTheatre · 30/11/2024 15:00

I'm so, so sorry. I can understand you being devastated Flowers

anyolddinosaur · 30/11/2024 17:11

You did the best you could to ease her pain. Sometimes the best course of action still fails. I'm sorry.

Pippatpip · 30/11/2024 21:27

So sorry for your loss. Roughs are lovely.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 30/11/2024 21:46

Very sad update and for her to be without her family when she died .
She would have had the Vet Care Team there and painkillers and sedatives on board
She's out of pain now think that way .