This is identifiable to anyone that knows me but I don't care!
We've just been on holiday with my husband's family. His brother, partner, their two kids and his parents. We have a 2yo and a newborn. We booked a dog friendly place so the brother could bring their family dog.
There is a history here - whenever we are at the in-laws house with them there they refuse to put the dog on a lead or put it in another room for a bit while we eat (toddler is hugely distracted and just tries to feed the dog who is able to lick her face from the floor, and does so). The other day dsil had the dog on the lead in the house so I left the room for a wee leaving my baby in his car seat. I said 'I'm just leaving baby here for a min while I pop for a wee'. I came back to find the dog off the lead, licking my baby's face. She was feeding her baby at the table, back turned. I didn't make a fuss and was leaving anyway.
Anyway, while away dbil and dsis made no effort to help us manage social times with the dog there. My toddler has been taught to ignore dogs but the dog would be in her face while she was playing on the floor, licking her, sniffing her right in her face and accidentally hitting her with it's tail. My toddler was saying 'go away' and 'I don't like it.' They wouldn't say 'dog, come over here out of the way!' or anything like that. The dog is allowed free roam at all times so it was hard for us to relax but we just went with it, moving our kids when necessary or sitting between her and the dog. One morning dbil let the dog outside while my child was outside playing. I was out there, sat near the house breastfeeding my newborn. She ran straight over and jumped up to my child's back, knocking her over. Dbil called the dog in but no apology, no help getting her up (she was really upset), pretty much no acknowledgement of it. Later, child was much different around the dog, crying when she came up to her on the carpet etc. So my dh asked them if she could be put out for an hour before bedtime so our toddler could do her new puzzle on the floor. Dbil lost it with us both, we ended up leaving and now they're not speaking.
I feel it's so ridiculous that I've lost sense of whether we are being difficult. We have 2 dogs and if we have little people over (or even when it's just us) I'll just put them in a different room for a bit so I don't have to be watching them constantly.
We did not expect the dog to be out the entire time at all, just that sometimes either they could be there to stop her bothering the child (especially when I'm bf and have no hands free) or pop her out for a bit if neither of them would be in the room.
Were we wrong? I'm too scared for AIBU but this has caused a huge family rift.