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EnglishBreakfastTea · 14/11/2022 06:02

I'm not even sure why I'm writing this, but I'm just trying to make sense about what happened yesterday afternoon.

It was such a perfect autumn day I took my dogs (cocker age 9, springer age 2 and cocker age 1) to Salisbury plain for a good old stomp about - kids (6&7) and husband in tow too. We had a blast! Lots of laughter, throwing of leaves, basically a perfect Sunday afternoon.

Then, on the way back to the car, my beautiful 1 year old cocker, lay down and died. No sound, no dramatics, nothing. He was about 4 paces away from me happily bouncing around - I turned to chivvy the children along - turned back and he was lying in the grass completely still, he was gone before I made it to him.

I can't process it. How does this happen?? I lost a 2 year old springer in 2020 due to kidney failure so I have been OTT careful with my other dogs. They're fed the best food, walked at least an hour off lead every day, stimulated and fussed to within an inch of their lives. I cannot believe I've lost another super young dog.

What's worse is that my poor children witnessed it all - I didn't react well and tried to perform a haphazard attempt at doggy CPR. My husband then had to carry my gorgeous boy back to the car - a good 20 minute walk. He's my hero.

Did I do something wrong? My head says no but you always blame yourself. We drove straight to our vet and he said it could only have a been a heart attack to go so quickly.

So, that's that. He's coming home on Thursday and the children have decided we should scatter his ashes where we scattered our other dog so they can run free together. I'm so very proud of them, we had a few tears and lots of questions at bedtime but they seem content knowing he's not alone and with our other springer in doggy heaven.

It's so unfair

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Pegsmum · 14/11/2022 06:15

I am so sorry for your loss, that must have been so traumatic for you all.

JustBkind · 14/11/2022 06:21

Oh my goodness, that is awful and I’m in tears just reading your post, cannot imagine what you must be going through. Sending you all big hugs and well wishes and remember he had the best last memories xx

PortiasBiscuit · 14/11/2022 06:22

It’s so sad, the breed dogs are so inbred though, this happens far too often.

PortiasBiscuit · 14/11/2022 06:24

Apologies, meant to add my condolences to your family. Losing a pet is so painful and this is so sudden.

MadameSzyszkoBohusz · 14/11/2022 06:27

Oh I'm so sorry, that's awful for you all.

EnglishBreakfastTea · 14/11/2022 06:31

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply, it means a lot

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Offleyhoo · 14/11/2022 06:32

I'm so sorry too. That must have been very shocking indeed. As the vet said he must have had a heart attack. You must not beat yourself up about it, you sound like a fantastic owner who gave your lovely boy a very happy life 💐

WonkyFeelings · 14/11/2022 06:34

My heart breaks for you, what a trauma. I don’t know if it would be a consolation to think that he didn’t suffer?

Vicliz24 · 14/11/2022 06:34

That is heartbreaking I can completely imagine how you feel . I'm so very sorry that this awful traumatic thing has happened to you . Please don't beat yourself up. There was nothing you could have done . Sending love ❤️

Batcountry8 · 14/11/2022 06:39

Oh no I'm so very sorry such a traumatic and sudden thing happened.
You poor woman.
You didn't do anything wrong my dear, that's just awful.
Bless you.
You had such a lovely time with your family and doggies, and let that somehow comfort you in the times ahead when you're questioning yourself.
You were sharing love and something unforseen and probably inevitable happened.

Very sorry to you all x

EnglishBreakfastTea · 14/11/2022 06:48

@WonkyFeelings I think in time I will take some comfort in that. I would have hated for him to have suffered

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australia200 · 14/11/2022 06:51

Couldn't read and not leave you a massive (((((hug)))))). Bless you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers x

reallyworriedjobhunter · 14/11/2022 06:54

How awful for you all. I'm so so sorry. Although far too short, it sounds like he had a wonderful life.

It's very very hard to lose pets when they are young and you have no explanation. Something similar happened to me when I was a child and it took a long time to process.

EnglishBreakfastTea · 14/11/2022 06:55

Honestly, a million thanks to those that have taken the time to reply to my ramblings. I know I'm not to blame really but it's the instant go-to, I was supposed to take care of him!

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Nongatron · 14/11/2022 06:56

So very sorry to read this how devastating and shocking for you and your family. There’s nothing I can say except as others have said he didn’t suffer and he was obviously so loved. Sending you hugs x

DuncanBiscuits · 14/11/2022 06:58

What a wonderful last day he had. I’m so sorry for you all, though. A terrible shock.

EssexCat · 14/11/2022 06:58

Oh my goodness I am so so sorry. I have a very beloved young cocker myself and cannot imagine how that must have felt.

BumbleShyBee · 14/11/2022 07:05

Oh that's so awful, what a shock it must have been. Definitely not your fault and it sounds like you and your DH handled it all very well for your children. So very sad.

kenadams86 · 14/11/2022 07:08

I'm so sorry OP, how awful for you. I've got a 1 year old cocker and I couldn't bare life without him. They are such special souls and become part of the family.

I'm not sure if anyone will have the words to make you feel better but just remember you gave him a lovely life and in his last moments he was having the best time with his family. It doesn't sound like he suffered.

Take care xx

PatChaunceysFruitCake · 14/11/2022 07:10

I'm so sorry. What an awful thing to have happened.

WhatJustHappened321 · 14/11/2022 07:15

How absolutely horrendous... I am so so sorry. Heartbreaking 💔

Springblossom2022 · 14/11/2022 07:23

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the heartbreak you are all going through right now.

Take some time to let all this sink in, if that means taking time away from work or other commitments then so be it.

Sending love to all of you Flowers

GiantCheeseMonster · 14/11/2022 07:25

I’m so sorry. That’s such an awful thing to happen.

When you feel able to, it might be worth talking to the breeder to let them know as it could have been a hereditary heart defect they need to be aware of in their lines.

It wasn’t your fault and there’s nothing you could have done differently.

marmaladepop · 14/11/2022 08:00

There is no pain like losing a dog, but I can always console myself (eventually) that I gave it it's best life. Big hugs to you and your family X

bluetongue · 14/11/2022 08:48

How awful OP. So unexpected when they’re young and seemingly healthy. It’s not your fault in any way.

Please look after yourself and give your other dogs an extra big hug.