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Interesting one...

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 00:07

I have had dogs since I was young however this one is a challenge he doesn't like strangers. I love this dog more than I've ever loved any previous.
I have never been scared of dogs, I have always loved dogs and thought most were friendly but I have now developed a phobia of them so much so that I don't go anywhere near strange dogs, I actively cross the road to avoid them.
My daughter wants a dog and I get tense when she mentions it and I'm dreading it.

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Happenchance · 28/08/2021 06:59

It's not clear from your post if you already have a dog.

How old is your daughter? Will the dog live with you?

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 08:43

Yes I have a dog
Yes my daughter lives with me

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 08:47

however this one is a challenge he doesn't like strangers. I love this dog more than I've ever loved any previous

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 08:48

My daughter is in here twenties so not a child.

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MistandMud · 28/08/2021 08:49

So, you have an unfriendly dog who dislikes other dogs?

Your daughter wants to introduce an extra dog into the household?

Just refuse.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 28/08/2021 08:49

i dont think you should get a dog for a daughter in her twenties, it will be a milestone round her neck.
does she plan to live with you for the next 10/15 years?

NoSquirrels · 28/08/2021 08:50

So your dog doesn’t like strangers, so you avoid - and now you’ve developed a fear of strange dogs?

I think if your daughter gets a dog you’ll be fine. It won’t be a ‘strange dog’ once you get to know it. You’ll need to do careful introductions between both dogs and then they’ll probably be fine too. Might take a bit of time.

NoSquirrels · 28/08/2021 08:51

Oh, she lives with you?

She can’t get a dog herself when she’s not living in her own place.

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:08

@MistandMud

So, you have an unfriendly dog who dislikes other dogs?

Your daughter wants to introduce an extra dog into the household?

Just refuse.

No that's isn't what I said.
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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:09

@NoSquirrels

Oh, she lives with you?

She can’t get a dog herself when she’s not living in her own place.

She's Autisic so shes with me for the for see able future
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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:14

So your dog doesn’t like strangers, so you avoid - and now you’ve developed a fear of strange dogs?

All dogs apart from my own. She's Autisic so I'd have to go with her and meet pups and parents which terrifies me.

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Powertothepetal · 28/08/2021 09:14

I’m sorry I have absolutely no clue what you mean at all.
I also read it as you have a dog that hates other dogs, your daughter lives with you and wants a dog but you have become frightened of strange dogs.
I’m not sure how else what you’ve written can be interpreted really.

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:17

This one is a challenge and doesn't like strangers

strangers meaning people. If I meant strange dogs I would of put strange dogs

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MumofSpud · 28/08/2021 09:17

@Shamsa03

I have had dogs since I was young however this one is a challenge he doesn't like strangers. I love this dog more than I've ever loved any previous. I have never been scared of dogs, I have always loved dogs and thought most were friendly but I have now developed a phobia of them so much so that I don't go anywhere near strange dogs, I actively cross the road to avoid them. My daughter wants a dog and I get tense when she mentions it and I'm dreading it.
So you have a dog who doesn't like strangers (as in humans) Your adult daughter wants a dog (I find it strange this - as it means she doesn't see the dog in your house as hers / the family's) You have developed a phobia of dogs - do you mean you are worried about your dog meeting a stranger and something bad happening Would your daughter pay for the dog and its upkeep? I would say NO - it's your house and if it makes you uncomfortable- no But I also think your dog needs training / a behaviourist
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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:24

Nothing strange about it. It will be her dog not mine she's paying for it and doing all of the care.
No, my dog is fine with other dogs. I mean me
My dog has had help to no avail.

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:28

Interesting how people have read he doesn't like strangers and decided to interpret that into he doesn't like dogs.

I have a phobia of dogs does not mean my dog has

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MrsLargeEmbodied · 28/08/2021 09:35

oh, can you persuade her to get something else?
have you tried any other pets op?

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:38

My dog doesn't like strangers.
My dog likes other dogs
I don't like dogs. I don't want another dog in the same house as me apart from my dog and I don't want one after he's gone(as in passed away for people that mis read)
Dogs make me uncomfortable
My daughter wants a dog she is Autisic so she's living with me, saying no to a adult with autism is not that the same as saying no to someone who doesn't.

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:40

@MrsLargeEmbodied

oh, can you persuade her to get something else? have you tried any other pets op?
I've tried a cat, rabbit, rat, fish but it's impossible she's Autisic so not easily persuaded. She's dead set on a dog.
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MumofSpud · 28/08/2021 09:47

Did something trigger you new found phobia?

MrsLargeEmbodied · 28/08/2021 09:49

can she volunteer with dogs?

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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:53

@MumofSpud

Did something trigger you new found phobia?
Yes I presume it was my dog that triggered it but I'm not scared of him which doesn't really make sense.
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Shamsa03 · 28/08/2021 09:54

@MrsLargeEmbodied

can she volunteer with dogs?
I wish she would.
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Hoppinggreen · 28/08/2021 09:55

It’s your house and you dint want another dog so she can’t have one.
I appreciate it must be difficult as she’s autistic but it’s ok to say no to her anyway

MrsLargeEmbodied · 28/08/2021 09:56

i would suggest she volunteers,
you can phrase it in a way to make her feel she is getting worthwhile experience

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