16wks - surely I should be allowed to sleep now?

[OldEnglishSheepDog]

I'm honestly at the end. Pup has slept through ONCE since we got him. When he wakes for a wee it can take an hour to resettle him. Much of the time I find myself sleeping on the sofa with him on my lap.

I'm currently stood in the living room afraid to move as he will start whining the moment I do. I am on the fb page everyone recommends and am following advice.

Can't fit crate upstairs so to be with him means being downstairs. Stopped bedding down on the sofa a couple of weeks ago as it felt like I was creating an expectation.

I have woken up in my own bed once since I got him. He is taken out around 10pm and settles reasonably quickly, it's when he wakes that us the problem.

Right now, despite all the planning, I am wishing we'd never got him. I am clearly incapable of looking after him and he can't be happy to be whining this much. It's not his fault but I don't know how to fix it.

Sorry OP you are married to an asshat.

You are doing are doing amazing!

Oh that's shit . Tell him to pitch the tent up himself

You are doing great and we will be here to help with the puppy even if your DH won't

Frankly, if he wasn't here I'd quite happily have pup in my bedroom. Maybe he could fuck off to the tent permanently then I wouldn't have to go through all this shit.

you've had a really tough time of it and you are married to a selfish arse.
If he wants to be an arse - let him sleep in his tent, just tell him to make sure it's put up well before pups bedtime so as not to disrupt pup.

Do you actually not mind having the pup in your room? Would that work for you?
Wouldn't for us as she's a giant breed so shouldn't do stairs and we have cats that need to be able to escape.

Sorry to hear about your loss :(

Maybe take a step back and do whatever is best for you? Xx

This is kind of funny. The thread started all being about the pup being the problem. Now it transpires, the pup is part of the course, it's the DH that needs firm handling! 😂
Congrats OP on your baby! 💐 Just do have complete faith that by the time baby comes your dog will be sorted. All the things you are learning now about the pup will stand you in good stead for raising a child - being consistent, setting expectations early on, showing whose boss etc. As for the man-child, sounds like he's chucked his toys out of the cot and spat his dummy out! 😂😂😂

OMG ...I'm so sorry, have you lost a baby. Please forgive my clumsy post, I'm really sorry! 💐 Have puppy brain too!

Please don't worry @Tinkobell! Thank you for the kind thoughts. Pup is now the little brother or sister that DS never got - equally disruptive and annoying, just a bit more furry! It was probably for the best really but the process of miscarrying was a bit traumatic. I'm fine now - just feeling very sorry for myself! I shall return to concentrating on pup who is padding around causing mischief.

Huge hugs for you, OP.

Thanks all. Sorry, that was all really self-indulgent. I blame the sleep deprivation. So tonight....

No water in crate. He has been out for a horrendous poo and a good sized wee. Put him in crate and he almost immediately started yapping. I put a lead on him and took him out (very much against his will) then put him back again. We did this a couple of times. I am now sat next to the crate. He is curled up ready to sleep.

I'm going to stick with @Biteyshark's method I think, since it's similar to what I was doing anyway. He has been completely banned from the sofa so he has slept either in his crate or on the floor today.

The crunch point will be when he wakes me and I'm really tired and quite fancy a puppy cuddle myself. I must resist the sofa and stick with the crate.

In other news DH and I have not exchanged a single word since his little camping suggestion (because we're grown-ups, obviously and also I can't think of anything I want to say to him that doesn't involve the word "cockwomble". I have not made dinner (fed DS on his own) and he has taken himself off to bed some hours ago. There is a huge fog of fury hanging over the house and it is going to take all my restraint not to go up there and kick him out of bed in a minute.

I'm hoping this is my last post for the evening. Night all and thanks for listening. You're all a billion times more helpful than my H.

Good luck old

Good luck

Good luck OP. Cockwomble. Could be worse. Could be wank badger or BASTARD!!!!

Puppy stage is hard. Fucking hard. Seriously.
Then the buggers grow up and you adore them and can't imagine life without your best mate. (Hoping that's not just me. )

Good luck!

Also don't apologise to us. You've had a rough time, and mumsnet is for support and venting our frustrations.

He has JUST woken up. Still a bit early so taken out on a lead for a wee and returned to the crate. I'm not going to declare this a victory just yet as he's knackered from last night but it's a good start.

Yes it's a good start. Keep doing that for a few nights and with consistency he should soon get that night will be only a boring pee break and nothing more. Well done OESD

I put him back and waited until my newly programmed doggy alarm went off (it's called "scamper"). He barked the whole time but I made sure he heard it before I said good morning and released him for cuddles. I like the alarm idea - it sets us BOTH a clear boundary.

Anyway, am feeling much better disposed towards him this morning so here is a picture of this morning's cuteness.

I put him back and waited until my newly programmed doggy alarm went off (it's called "scamper"). He barked the whole time but I made sure he heard it before I said good morning and released him for cuddles. I like the alarm idea - it sets us BOTH a clear boundary.

Anyway, am feeling much better disposed towards him this morning so here is a picture of this morning's cuteness.

That is brilliant progress!

Amazing!! Well done oldenglishsheepdog! I'm so happy for you :D

He actually did better than mine, my pup woke up at 5.35. Same thing I took him for wee and back to bed ignoring until 6ish :)

That's brilliant. Here's hoping for more sleep again tonight!!

Well done OESD! He is a cutie but don’t let that override your determination. Plenty of play and cuddles during the day with a wind down during the evening. Do you give him a daily brush? We do our girl around 7.30pm then she has a treat. This started in puppyhood and she knows that is the signal for relaxing, watching tv etc and nothing else will be going on for her. She was a hyper pup and I found that the more she relaxed in the evening the better she was overnight, we also used an alarm to signal it was getting up time. Stay strong😁

Well done - huge progress!!!!