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Need to get rid of dog !

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 14:30

We bought a dog 8 months ago where we have tried to train him.... he doesn't listen he still nips and snaps and it's now getting to the point where he is jumping up and going for my toddler and you can hear his jaw snap ! It's scaring me as I can't leave them in the room together he does it to me and my bf he tries to bite his ankles and he's the master so it's in heard of isn't it ? He knows not to go on the couch yet still runs in covered in mud and going on there he's not allowed up stairs but as soon as back is turned he's up there.... we've always told him no and made sure he knows and he does get praised when he's good (which is never ) he chews everything up in site and will just take food of the side and out of my boys hand, I'm currently pregnant and it's getting me so anxious ! He goes on walks everyday so he's excersised a lot. He doesn't listen to me whatso ever and when I play with him he gets aggressive to the point it scares me. Any advice would be helpful ? No nastiness please I'm at by whits end

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sofiainwonderland · 06/02/2017 19:57

We have a much smaller sized dog-he doesn't need a lot of exercise. He was and still is hard work (6 months now), but he sits, down, hi5, WAITS (this is really important).

You're saying he still pees in the house. Well ours, we take him out 4-5 times a day and sometimes can't still hold!!! You can't take a staff puppy out just 2 times a day! Can you pee just 2 times a day? I can'tz

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:02

I've not once said he wees in the house he does it in the garden but when we wash his bedding or just sometimes we willies in his bed

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UnbornMortificado · 06/02/2017 20:02

Wofie how big is she now?

People get staffs and don't realise the hard work you have to put into them. Mines a bloody cow for the sly chew and pinching the babby's toys but she's only 14 months.

I do trust her to a certain degree with my DD's not leaving the room trust (which is the same for any breed) but I'm not on edge around her.

You can't have a dog that strong you don't trust around young children. I had CowDog to training classes even though I've had six (mostly oldies) over the years.

There is some truth in the "nanny dog" saying (just in my personal experience) but it takes hard work and training to get to that point.

It's such a shame this happens so often and so many end up in rescues.

Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 20:04

Unborn she's 20 weeks tomorrow so we are off to the vets for a weigh in! She is probably bigger than a lab already! Hence my (obsession) with working to eradicate or prevent undesirable behaviour!

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:05

Thanks to the nice comments I'm reading them and taking them in, it's ha d not to defend myself on here though with nasty comments. I know the type of person I am my dog is looked after and happy it's the biting that gets me I'm not being made to feel I can't look after an animal!

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CouldHaveNotCouldOf · 06/02/2017 20:05

mimsy I don't think the dog has 'snapped' at the OP's child, it sounds like it's just playful mouthing.
OP, what are you feeding him?

UnbornMortificado · 06/02/2017 20:06

Jesus I'm sure you only got her a few days ago. I can't believe she's lab sized already Shock

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:07

He goes for two walks a day ? When have I said he has two wees? He goes out and pees in the garden inbetween going on walks ! Read before you start at me

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Itsmytemporaryname · 06/02/2017 20:07

OP i just wanted to offer support after you've had such nasty responses.
I had exactly the same situation with a very high needs animal and young kids. In the end it was kinder to rehome. Everyone involved made me feel like a failure and a bad person and I'm still not really over it. But at the end of the day I had to do what was safest for my family.
Its a shit situation that no one ever wants to be in.

The trainer said to me once you're afraid of the dog it's very hard to come back from and that was when we knew it was out of our control.
Flowers for you.

Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 20:08

The thing is if it's messing up its bed it's not happy.
I'm NOT saying you are a bad person OP. I'm really really NOT. I'm saying you haven't trained this dog and you need to change what happens at home (it can't just scramble over a stairgate) and you MUST seek professional help to overcome this issue. That's all.
Trust me. I know it is hard. I will admit to sitting sobbing on the kitchen floor because the puppy was chewing everything and weeing everywhere and not going through the night and I couldn't leave her for a minute. It takes hard work and (for me as I'm a newbie dog owner) decent advice.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:08

Actually twice he snapped at my child and his jaw slammed shut and one time he left a mark on his arm ! I wouldn't be so upset over a normal puppies snap this was a lot more aggressive !

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Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 20:09

Unborn
Got her 1st December. Last weighed 13th Jan. Over 60lbs! Shock

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:10

Thanks wolfie yeh I have held my hands up with that I've tried my best with him but I didn't know I was doing it wrong I read up on things and yeh I've sat there crying and upset over things he's chewed up but when he's aggressive towards my baby it really gets me in sure you can understand that ? I said get rid because I was very upset and shaky earlier I have calmed down since

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Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 20:11

Normal puppies bite.
A mark isn't an aggressive bite. It really isn't. An aggressive bite requires hospital treatment.
Please please. See a behaviourist. They can evaluate your dog in your home and advise.
My pup grabs. She has ripped clothes and marked us and hurt us too. It's not aggression. It's what pups do. And yes. I'm working on that too!

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 06/02/2017 20:11

This may have been covered earlier in the thread but does he have chew toys and soft toys? Our staff cross loves a chew toy and she carries a monkey soft toy (a dog safe one) everywhere with her. It could be that he's a bit bored, so having something to chew and play with could help?

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:12

He has had 5 beds expensive ones too! We don't keep that in the cage we just put it in the cage in the night and he's chewed them up and left his mark I wash his two blankets my son gave him twice a week so there fresh and he's got countless toys to not me happy when he's left in there while I'm doing school run

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Blistory · 06/02/2017 20:12

OP, are you going to accept that it's not about judging you. It is bloody hard work managing an unruly, mouthy young dog and keeping a toddler safe, never mind adding a pregnancy into the mix and a new born in the summer.

People have been reacting to your reluctance to accept the amount of time and effort and supervision that will be needed to make this work and keep your children safe. If you are going to keep the dog, your partner needs to be equally committed and support you in the training otherwise he could undo any achievements by you and the pup.

I don't think it's worth the risk but if you do decide to keep the dog, you have been given plenty of links as to how to get the right training. You need to start now and be consistent. If you have problems, start a new thread and be specific about the advice you need, what the problems are and what you're tried to date. If you show you are willing, posters on here will go out of their way to help you through this.

UnbornMortificado · 06/02/2017 20:13

User staffy's are strong, if it had been a proper bite the skin would of been broken.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:14

I prob look at it different now to before I was pregnant my emotions aren't the same I cry over literal spilt milk ! All in all he's a loving infact annoying clingy puppy but that's why we love him I'm I just don't want my boy to be scared of him if you get me as he's good with dogs and around them. Yes he has a loads of toys balls and even teddies lol but we had to stop the soft toys as they are destroyed in minutes

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UnbornMortificado · 06/02/2017 20:15

Il just echo what wofie said, puppies and young dogs are hard. CowDog is called CowDog for a reason, I'm probably classed as an experienced owner of that breed but even I recognised I needed proper training with her.

CouldHaveNotCouldOf · 06/02/2017 20:17

But is it playful biting? Or an aggressive snap? I had a staff who snapped at one of my other dogs. There was a lot of blood. There is a big difference between playful biting in over excitement and actual 'meant to bite'
My friend also has a staff puppy and he really hurts when he mouths in excitement but he doesn't mean any harm in it. Your dog will grow out of this behaviour but only if you are willing to put in the work to train him. My friend has said so many times that she has thought about rehoming her dog as she finds him so exhausting. Staffs are not for the faint hearted and you're not alone in struggling.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:18

Yeah he knows his role and I've rang him up in tears saying how we need to do this together he's amazing with the whole thing and the dog loves his dad listens to him more than flipping me most times I have less patience then him .... thanks I do see the wrongs in my ways and I'd never give him up not the person I am I was just at a loss earlier

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Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 20:18

He's not leaving his mark. He's stressed and upset.
Soft toys wouldn't last a moment here!
Nylabone is good.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 20:21

He never cries over night always seems happy to sleep so not sure what happens, I know staffs are anxious dogs too

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Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 20:21

OP I have sat there sobbing saying "if I didn't love this bloody dog so much she would go back!!!!"
It IS hard. So hard. Get professional advice and rope in partner too.