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Need to get rid of dog !

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 14:30

We bought a dog 8 months ago where we have tried to train him.... he doesn't listen he still nips and snaps and it's now getting to the point where he is jumping up and going for my toddler and you can hear his jaw snap ! It's scaring me as I can't leave them in the room together he does it to me and my bf he tries to bite his ankles and he's the master so it's in heard of isn't it ? He knows not to go on the couch yet still runs in covered in mud and going on there he's not allowed up stairs but as soon as back is turned he's up there.... we've always told him no and made sure he knows and he does get praised when he's good (which is never ) he chews everything up in site and will just take food of the side and out of my boys hand, I'm currently pregnant and it's getting me so anxious ! He goes on walks everyday so he's excersised a lot. He doesn't listen to me whatso ever and when I play with him he gets aggressive to the point it scares me. Any advice would be helpful ? No nastiness please I'm at by whits end

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IrregularCommentary · 06/02/2017 18:17

Unfortunately OP, it's not "come from nowhere". It's come from months of not properly training your boisterous puppy and now the dog has hit adolescence, it's suddenly become a problem.

Your refusal to acknowledge this is what's upsetting people. Your dog isn't trained, it's just not been a problem before that it hasn't been. A dog that wees in its bed is not in any way toilet trained for one.

I don't think anyone is suggesting that you've deliberately done anything wrong, or that you haven't tried to do the right thing, but you're simply not acknowledging where you've not done the right thing or not done enough.

Getting annoyed with people who are understandably upset at the situation and concerned for the dog's future welfare (understanding how hard it can be to rehome dogs in this situation) is never going to make for a non judgemental thread.

I hope it works out and the dog gets what it needs, either from you or from another home.

OneWithTheForce · 06/02/2017 18:17

this is what we can't get our heads around

Well If he normally goes in the garden then the accidents are because you are missing his cues that he wants to go out. Like I said, it's the humans that need the training.

Hoppinggreen · 06/02/2017 18:17

OP you have made mistakes and maybe they are fixable with time and effort but you are pregnant and it doesn't sound like your other half is much use either. With a small child in the house and soon a baby this dog needs to go elsewhere, whoever or whatever is to blame it's not worth risking a child's safety.
Unfortunately this breed who has bitten even in fun will not be most people's idea of a dog they would want so rehoming might be hard, although his age is on his side. Contact a rehoming or rescue group straight away and see if they will take him.
Will your OH agree to that? From what you've said it sounds like he might not

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MimsyFluff · 06/02/2017 18:18

I don't think your a bad person OP your at a difficult stage right now and it's not going to get better with a new baby on the way. The best thing for your children and the dog is to re-home him before he breaks skin or worse. Sit down with DP after bedtime and discuss the dog.

I have a pup who is 9 months who will have the odd wee at the back door even if his been outside 5 minutes beforehand.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:18

On his lead near roads then off when we get to the woods and feild, I didn't know it was a drug house until I got there and I didn't want to leave any of them there for that reason does that make me a bad person? I'm taking the advice and goinng to talk to dp tonight

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:19

How do I neglect my dog and children ?what an awful thing to say

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:20

My other half is outback working hard for us to have a roof over our heads wow that comment has really thrown me completely in gitted anyone would say that my child is my life

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Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 18:20

I can't see that you've said how much exercise he gets. Two long walks. How long? Off lead?
He's not trained.
I suspect he is sometimes toileting in his bed because he's stressed and never been crate trained. (You don't just shove them in and shut the door!) Good advice on Dog Training Advice and Support.
Still haven't convinced me this dog is actually attacking anyone.
He's bored and untrained.

Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 18:22

Oh and my girl will wee in her bed if she hasn't had a wee before going in (or if we left her too long). It's not naughty. She can't hold it. It would be my fault.

Blistory · 06/02/2017 18:25

OP, an untrained 10 month old puppy who is not trained is neglected. Letting a mouthy puppy interact with a toddler is an irresponsible act. If you can understand that, you can take steps to move things on.

I get that you're not the dog whisperer but you're nowhere near knowing enough about dogs to keep both your child and the dog safe. It's as simple as that. Puppy play is rough, it involves mouthing, rough housing, tugging and jumping. That, at best, will hurt your child unless you are 100% vigilant. At worst, you know what the consequences will be. If you cannot commit to that level of supervision and training, you cannot have a dog, a toddler and a baby living safely under the one roof.

It couldn't be any plainer than that.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:26

I NEVER leave him alone with my child and he's not completely untrained, I just haven't taken him to classes but we have done a lot of home training

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tobecontinued2000 · 06/02/2017 18:27

Sit down tonight with your DP and decide the future of the dog wether that be with you, or someone else.

I agree with pp's that there are small games you can play with your dog for you to be seen by the dog as a VIP.

Avoid ceaser (sp) Milan.

I have a dog that turned aggressive to others when I had my son, he would Grab people's trousers and growl if anyone went near my son (he was fine with me) We worked with him and he's better but I placed him in his crate (his safe space and the ONLY time he is crated) as he felt very anxious when people left the house or approached my son when he was a baby. He has been fine with others since my son got older but thats down to the training. Dog is now very old and too tired to be grumpy with others. We spent a fortune at the time on training with a behaviourist and it's been money well spent.

Wolfiefan · 06/02/2017 18:28

But your home training clearly hasn't worked. So it's not training at all! Confused

MimsyFluff · 06/02/2017 18:28

If you do give him to a rescue do say he has snapped at your son so they don't re-home to a young family because that will lead him to be PTS and I really hope you re-home him. I am worried about your son and future baby and I don't the trimming was wrong that's all OP

Blistory · 06/02/2017 18:29

Wolfie - Irish wolfhound ? How lovely and definitely on my 'one day' list. The thing about big dogs is that they are so puppyish for so long and then suddenly they turn 3 and become the most incredible companions.

I thought my two girls were great dogs and they were but when they matured, I fell in love all over again and can laugh at the puppy days but yeah, lead training a puller wrecked both my shoulders.

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:29

It happened when I was there and the word neglect is not nice cause it's the the case at all off didn't care and was neglecting anyone I wouldn't if started this post in the first place I don't just leave him somewhere, which I'm not like I love my dog I was very upset and shaken when I started this to which isn't calmed down now seeing your nasty comment

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:29

Has started itnoff again

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IrregularCommentary · 06/02/2017 18:30

You've not done a lot of home training! You've done a lot of what you thought was training; it's pretty clear they are not one and the same.

What stimulation do you give the dog during the day? Not walks, but playing with it, sitting with it so it has company etc? The dog sounds bored, which shouldn't be the case when you're at home with it all day.

tabulahrasa · 06/02/2017 18:31

"I just haven't taken him to classes but we have done a lot of home training"

You might have put lots of time and effort in, but between what he's doing and what you're saying about what you think training is, I'm sorry, but you've not trained him.

Blistory · 06/02/2017 18:32

OP, it's even worse if he's nipped your son and he's never been left alone with him. It just confirms that you either don't understand his body language, weren't supervising appropriately or weren't quick enough.

I'm not judging - dogs move at lightening speed but even with you there, your child got caught up. Can you honestly say that you could prevent that from EVER happening again ?

teaforbreakfast · 06/02/2017 18:33

I don't think a toddler should be playing with a staff to be honest, even if you're there supervising.

MimsyFluff · 06/02/2017 18:33

The timing* dyslexic, auto correct and broken phone!

WaitrosePigeon · 06/02/2017 18:33

OP please hide this thread, don't come back to it x

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user68753367 · 06/02/2017 18:34

What happens if I hide it does everyone else still see ?

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