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My pooch is going to sleep tomorrow

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PeppaPigStinks · 15/10/2014 18:51

We are devastated. Our life and lifestyle revolves around our gorgeous golden retriever.

Any tips on how to deal with this. My husband is in pieces.

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calmtulip · 15/10/2014 19:50

I'm so sorry. Losing a beloved pet is devastating. There's no short cut to dealing with grief but we did put together an album of photos of our cat after he died and we all still pick it up from time to time and look at it 3 years later. We also included memories written by us and the children. Have a special night with him tonight. Xxxxx

KiwiJude · 15/10/2014 20:59

No tips but many hugs. Know that you are doing what's best for your dog. As calmtulip says, have a special night with him tonight - give him anything/everything he wants, especially the naughty stuff he's not allowed.

Canshopwillshop · 15/10/2014 22:14

Oh I'm so sorry Sad. I know exactly how you feel as we had to have our old girl pts 4weeks ago. Its so hard making the kindest (hardest) decision. You are in my thoughts. X

kilmuir · 15/10/2014 22:23

We had to have our gorgeous elderly dog put to sleep in july. It was horrid, but i knew that it was being done because we loved her so much. Stay with your dog, huge hugs and kisses.
I cried for days, but now i can look back at all the wonderful times we had, the cuddles and know she is now painfree. I have her pic everywhere, mobile phone, ipad, computer.
Sending you strength for tomorrow

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PeppaPigStinks · 16/10/2014 10:07

Thanks everyone. This has to be the hardest goodbye I've ever made. My three year old asked this morning if she could give her her breath so peppa dog wouldn't stop breathing :-(

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ExitPursuedByABear · 16/10/2014 10:09

Had my horse pts on Monday. Had her for 18 years.

Time does heal. But it takes a long time.

I would suggest replacing with another dog. The rhythm of your life will change so much without a hound.

Hugs.

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PeppaPigStinks · 16/10/2014 10:18

Thank you. I have been thinking about another since my boss suggested it when I said yesterday.
Not sure im ready for the puppy stage and two young kids but also don't think I can do a rescue dog.
I've never been a dog person but having peppa dog from a puppy made all the difference.

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bishboschone · 16/10/2014 10:23

I have had to say goodbye to many beloved pets over the years . 7 years ago my beautiful horse id had most of my life and in February my wonderful cat .. I miss them soo much and cry regularly about my cat . I just miss him Hmm .( he was my buddy ) Confused. It does get better with time although it sucks .. I feel for you ..

MitchellMummy · 16/10/2014 13:42

So sorry. Write down all the little things about her that you'll miss, all her little habits and one off things that amused you. You'll look back on the list and laugh in years to come. It will hurt like hell but time does heal. There are rescue goldens available through breed rescue from time to time ... x

Canshopwillshop · 16/10/2014 21:56

OP - how are you?

calmtulip · 16/10/2014 22:17

I'm thinking of you too xxxx

DishwasherDogs · 16/10/2014 22:23

I'm so sorry :(
I lost my lovely dog on Monday, it still doesn't feel real.
As we left, the vet said to try to have a peaceful week, don't try to do too much.

We got a puppy a few weeks ago knowing that the old dog was headed for her last winter, it helps to have him around.

Hope you're ok xx

Grittzio · 16/10/2014 22:29

So sorry for you, we pts our family dog not long ago due to illness/old age, miss her terribly, we still haven't replaced her, I had a word picture put together with all her favourite places, food, likes etc from 'framed forget me knots', it took a little while to come, they get very busy towards Xmas but so pleased with the art work to remember her by. Thinking of you x x x

goldencity1 · 17/10/2014 10:53

I'm so sorry. No tips, just

CatThiefKeith · 17/10/2014 12:23

Oh no!

I am so so sorry my lovely, you must be devastated.

Big unmumsnetty hugs for you.ThanksThanksThanks

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PeppaPigStinks · 17/10/2014 22:59

Thank you everyone. I feel relieve that peppadog had a peaceful goodbye. She slept in my three yeast olds room the night before (dogs choice she usually slept At the top if the stairs) and the vet came to our house as she hated the vets

My husband is so much more upset than I imagined he would be (I don't mean that in a horrible way) and is making noises at getting a puppy. I don't feel so ready yet.

I've also been so touched at how many people have found our news as devastating as we have, it is a real honour to peppadog that she was so loved and respected.

Thanks for the unMN hugs

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PeppaPigStinks · 17/10/2014 23:01

How is everyone else bearing up after loosing their four legged friends?

Thanks for the memory ideas too. We've been randomly looking at photos this eve and lots of the kids and peppadog was a keen photo bomber!!!

I'm finding the house empty and it's funny what little habits you form! Last night and tonight I went to put her out for a toilet break before locking up.

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sooperdooper · 17/10/2014 23:06

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this, it still makes me sad to think of when we lost out old dog and that was a long time ago :(

Thinking of you, unMN hugs x

FrantasticO · 17/10/2014 23:17

Hugs to you.

Lost our lovely boy 2 weeks ago and still looking for him and hearing him about the house.

14 years is a long time to have our companion so think it's ok to be twitchy and missing him.

Understand your OH wanting another, I couldn't just now.
Feels like that's it for dogs for us.

Sorry it's not a happy clappy post.

God I'm a joy!

Wishing you every happiness and hopefully a doggy filled future xxx

Tootyfilou · 17/10/2014 23:28

Oh so very sorry for you all. We lost our 8yr old goldie in February. It was totally horrendous and unexpected. My DH was devastated( as we all were and still are) he mentioned getting another puppy straight away.If it was up to me I would not have had another dog, but here we are with our 15 week old puppy.
We all still miss our darling boy terribly and still feel shocked that he has gone, but the puppy has given us lots to smile about already and our other goldie seems a lot happier
It's a very personal decision, no right or wrong. Hope you can find solace thinking about all the happy times you had. My heart goes out to your whole family. They are such wonderful dogs.Thanks Thanks

stupidlittlegirl · 17/10/2014 23:43

I lost my boy at 6yrs, earlier this year. Our other dog totally freaked out so we ended up getting a pup much much sooner then i was ready for. We purposely didnt choose the same breed again but the new pup could never live up to my lad.
New pup is now 9 months old. Not a patch on my lad but very different and sweetly similar all at the same time.

I did have a lot of anger towards the new pup at first. What a fucking useless, stupid and annoying twat compared to my lad. Obviously i never projected this anger to the pup, my poor dh got it! But it did take me a long while to really bond and acknowledge that yep, i do love the new pup!

He is still not a patch on my wonderful lad, who was so clever, bright and intelligent, who never annoyed me or drove me nuts, he never jumped in muddy puddles. - Grin oh yes, rose tinted spectacles are always worn when reminiscing about my beautiful lad.

KatharineClifton · 18/10/2014 00:53

I'm so sorry for you. I unexpectedly lost my girl in August. Like you, I got the vet out and it was a much better end than the end my last dog had in the vet. Would always do that in the end.

As for grieving, still very much grieving for both my dogs. It is so utterly different than a cat as dogs are so very much part of your life in every way. I said never again, and 3 days later was on the phone to breed rescues and my new dog moved in 7 days after I lost my girl. He looks very similar in many ways, but is such a totally different dog. I just couldn't cope without my shadow. From the minute I woke up I felt empty without her, and tears welling up as typing this. Bonded very quickly with new dog, as rescues dogs often do. And couldn't imagine my house without him now.

momnipotent · 18/10/2014 01:10

So sorry OP. How are you doing? Unfortunately the only thing to do is keep on keeping on, it does get easier.

I lost my old boy last summer. Still regularly cry over him but I can smile at some of his quirks now too.

We are a foster family for a rescue and about 3 weeks after my old boy died we had a foster arrive, she was a sweet little girl, she had been found locked in a barn with two other dogs and the owner had moved away and left them there, she was very affectionate and lovely and I felt nothing for her. :( We had her for a month and obviously I was very caring with her but I knew she was not the dog for us and was happy when she was adopted.

About 3 weeks after that there was a phone call at the shelter where I volunteer, someone wanted to surrender a 12 year old "mastiff cross" because they were moving. The shelter was reluctant because it was unlikely he would be adoptable so I said I would take him. We have had him just over a year now and I love him just as much as my old boy. He is not the same breed and quite unlike my old boy (my old boy was a dominant male and this old man is very submissive, and scared of any floor that isn't carpet) but I can also see a lot of my old boy in him. He was exactly what I needed, and I am so grateful for him. He's 13 now, he's a big boy, healthy but I know in reality there probably isn't a lot of time left for him but I am very thankful for the time that we have had.

You'll know when the time is right for another.

Pollywallywinkles · 18/10/2014 18:06

I second that you will know when the time is right for another one. It may be soon, it may not be for years.

We lost our girl earlier this year. It was unexpected and iwe ended up having a dash to the vets in the middle of the night. After she went it was the first time in over 15 years that we had been without a dog. It took some getting used to not having the restrictions of a dog and we started to enjoy the freedoms of not having a dog.

Fast forward to earlier this month when DH spotted a rescue he liked. It wasn't to be, but we did see another one but was already reserved. A couple of days later the reserve came off and we've now had him for a couple of weeks.

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PeppaPigStinks · 20/10/2014 16:18

Thanks everyone

DH Is desperate for another. I've been looking a puppies and am tempted. Did think to wait till after x mas but not sure I can!

Looking at pictures with my ds last night on my phone (he is 15 months) he became animated every time he saw a picture of peppadog (pointing and saying his own little way of peppadog).

My dd is 3 and although hasn't said anything while playing has said to dog soft toy my friend sent "your not going to leave us are you doggy". Sad

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