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Puppy told off by woman for wanting to play with her dog!

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ohnoudidnt · 30/07/2012 12:48

She screamed at her to go away and told me to put her on a lead as her dog didnt want to play and she picked her little dog up....I called my 6 month gs pup back and she came to me and we walked a different way.Not sure if this should be in aibu but it really just pissed me off as she did nothing wrong.

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RedwingS · 31/07/2012 22:24

Scuttle I agree completely if a dog is on a lead. I never let mine go up to an on-lead dog without checking first. But the dogs in the OP were both off-lead, and I think if a dog is off-lead, many other owners will assume that means that it's okay for other dogs to approach.

Canidae · 31/07/2012 22:44

I have worked very hard to train my golden retriever not to bound up to other dogs and it is annoying when other dogs run up to her.

The thing that really winds me up is when small dogs run up to my large german shepherd and when he starts to sniff them I get the owners runnning up and yelling at me! They then scoop up the little dog and run away. My GSD even looks puzzled!

LookBehindYou · 31/07/2012 23:06

How many times have owners run up and yelled at you Canidae?

Canidae · 31/07/2012 23:20

Not so much lately because I now avoid parks where many people walk their dogs. It happened last week when my dogs were on lead and an older man has a terrier on an extendable lead. It rushed over to my two and the man couldn't drag it back fast enough!

Used to happen every few weeks when we went to the park. The last straw was a lady with two scotties who happily sent them to play with my golden but didn't see the GSD. As he came into view to see her dogs she made a screeching noise and started flapping around. I called mine away so she could compose herself.

LookBehindYou · 31/07/2012 23:31

God it all sounds so miserable. It's not like that at all where I live. I have a rottie and we quite often walk to the woods with a white fluffy thing and its owner and when there see all kinds of dogs - small, huge, bouncy, grumpy, dignified, naughty etc and they all rub together well. I will even smile at the guy who doesn't pick up his mastiff's crap tomorrow morning.

maxcliffordslovechild · 31/07/2012 23:54

I walk my dog off lead, she is a friendly dog unless pushed. She'll happily ignore other dogs and those that approach slowly with waggy tails she'll sniff, however she does not like being jumped on when she is sitting calmly and will snap at dogs that do. I always recall her when i see a dog i'm not sure of and warn owners that she can be skitty, some owners choose to ignore this and she was quite shaken up by a big collie just wanting to play who pounced on her and the owner was most miffed that she snapped. She's come a long way from the dog I got 11 months ago (rescue) and sometimes things like that undo all my and her hard work

JennerOSity · 01/08/2012 14:12

lookbehindyou good post! :)

RedwingS · 01/08/2012 17:04

Lookbehindyou, I agree. I must be really lucky where I live. Once a day we walk with other dog owners - sometimes up to ten dogs of assorted sizes from small to ginormous, almost all off-lead, and they all get along. At the weekends, when the footpaths round here are packed, we get to meet lots of new dogs and chat to their owners. The dogs love it. It's one of the things that is so great about owning a dog.

flapperghasted · 01/08/2012 17:30

My dog has been to dog training and we are still trying to train her on her recall but she is bouncy and is very easily distracted. She's also blonde...which may be a red herring, but may account for her butterfly like attention span.

I take her off lead only when there are no other dogs or people around. I have been caught out once or twice and have had her jump up at a woman once in the park (mortified doesn't even come close) and have had her bound over to dogs that she doesn't know a couple of times, which has induced more fear in me than them/their owners, fortunately. This makes me reluctant to take her off lead unless she's clearly safe and unable to cause problems.

I do therefore take offence when someone else doesn't show the same consideration. If your dog isn't well socialised, of course you don't need to put it on a lead and punish it AS LONG AS you can get it back to your side quickly and easily if trouble arises. If you can't then you are asking for trouble in my opinion as your dog is the one likely to be biting chunks out of other people and their dogs!

It's a bit like parenting, dog ownership. Some dog owners take their responsibilities really seriously. Some are slapdash about it all. Some are in the middle...sometimes they get it wrong, sometimes they get it right. Cutting each other some slack should be part of the process, but not when it threatens the well being of anyone involved.

Cuebill · 01/08/2012 17:52

lookbehindyou you are extremely lucky, you have a dog that can deal with social situations and a lot of it is luck. Many of us have dogs with "issues" through no fault of our own, rescue, ill health, age, disability, foster etc and work hard to get our dogs to be able to feel happy out and about.

Therefore there does need to be a degree of tolerance to what may seem like owners "odd" behaviour

I think this is Mn discussion at its best, the ability for all sides to express their views and voice their needs or explain their actions and that others can then understand, even if it is different view or approach from them.

LookBehindYou · 01/08/2012 18:31

Hi Cuebill, I am lucky with my dog, yes. I have though, owned all kinds of dogs and they all got ill and old. Some of them had issues and a couple of rescues had outright agressive tendencies. If a puppy zooms all around being an utter pain I have never minded. It's all part of owning a dog and learning. Plus they're cute. I see an owner quite regularly in an absolute rage with his really naughty spaniel and find it entertaining. I said repeatedly upthread that owners should take heed of other owners requests and behavioural hints. For the most part people do that and if they don't it might just be because their dog is having an awkward sod moment and not to get at you . I think there is a great deal of tolerance in the doggie world and if you don't have that in your area you're unlucky.

batteryhen · 01/08/2012 19:57

lookbehindyou - I agree. I am lucky to live in an area where there is a great level of tolerance for pups and bouncy dogs. My dog is both of these :) and we regularly walk with huskies, staffies, and all sorts of bigger dogs. My cocker spaniel pup will run and try to keep up, and they humour him mainly.

The owners are lovely too, and so far nobody has screeched at me thank god. If I lived in an area where people are fanatical about 'doggie manners and etiquette' then walking my dog would not be a pleasure or an enjoyable experience. He is still learning, and I am lucky that other owners realise this!

GobHoblin · 02/08/2012 16:39

Really interesting thread, thanks all. I always put 5 mth old lab/collie on lead when we approach another dog until i know the score. Then happy to let off and play if other dog happy to play. But after having pup literally pinned to the floor by a huge young bouncy thing and no owner in sight the other day i was a bit lost as to what to do. I ended up having to pick pup up as he just would not leave her alone or let her up. No agression but she was getting really anxious and looking at me for help.
Dog buggers off, then comes belting back, repeats behaviour and i was totally lost as to what to do! After a minute or 2 (felt longer) owner came along shouting 'Come here, he's friendly its ok' I was really pissed off!
I was probably wrong to pick her up, but couldnt keep him off her.
What should i do if it happens again? Did i go all PFD?!

batteryhen · 02/08/2012 16:59

I wouldn't have picked mine up - but that is because he is too big now and I am 38 weeks pregnant. It's difficult, but I think I would try and seperate them? I don't know what to do in that instance.

There is a young black lab that walks near us, and I don't let my dog play with her, because she literally bowls him over and he can't get up. He played with her once and was very stiff the next day, so until he is bigger I don't let them play. However the owner is always there and always apologises for her dog :)

I did have to pick pup up once when a bulldog came ambling over with the owner running behind shrieking 'pick your pup up - my dog is not friendly'. So I had to make a decision, and so pick him up I did - but he was about 4 months then. Her bulldog was deaf so she was shouting him to no avail!

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