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<sigh> another of my friends won't come to my house now her baby has been born

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MrsRhettButler · 20/04/2011 13:58

because clearly my dogs baby killers are just waiting for the chance to eat her pfb Hmm

seriously, i have two biggish dogs one sbt cross abd and one abd but.... she's been coming to my house for years and has never witnessed any bad behavior from them so i just don't understand it, she actually liked my dogs up until her baby was born

the abd is only 7 mnths old and is liable to get excited/jump so i would crate her just because of that anyway and i told her this, i offered to crate my boy too if she wanted (mind you her baby is 4 mnths old so wont be crawling on the floor he will be in someones lap) but still crating is not good enough.

they will clearly EAT THEIR WAY OUT AND KILL HER BABY! Angry

i know this isn't AIBU (i'm far too chicken to ask on there) Grin but... wibu if i refused to go to her house ever again either under protest?

this is the friend who asked me what on earth am i going to do when my baby (due in sep) comes? will i sell them or give them to the pound! Shock
i already have a 5 yo dd who the dogs love to pieces.... the mind boggles

aaaaarrrrrgghhhh

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MrsRhettButler · 20/04/2011 14:00

i already have one friend who won't come because of my dogs so this is the second :(

its not like i refuse crate them. (even though i disagree with crating dogs everytime guests come)
luckily most of my friends are sensible people

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Vallhala · 20/04/2011 14:13

"this is the friend who asked me what on earth am i going to do when my baby (due in sep) comes? will i sell them or give them to the pound!"

That's not a friend. No friend asks when you're going to sell or allow the murder of much-loved members of your family.

I'm not shocked, I come across too many morons like this ... but I am Angry on your behalf! People can be such knobheads, they really can. I can't say I'd be associating with that particular person again if I were in your shoes/

musicposy · 20/04/2011 14:27

You've offered to put the dogs in a crate and she still won't come? What does she think they're going to do, eat the metal bars? Even if you don't crate the older one, if he doesn't jump up he isn't going to be anywhere near the baby at this stage of the baby's life. I just can't see the problem.

Maybe ask her if it would help to crate your 5 year old DD too, just to be on the safe side Grin

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MrsRhettButler · 20/04/2011 16:24

Grin posy I wish I had thought of saying that!
I know, val the thing is I don't see when we are going to see each other anyway from now on if we won't be going to each others houses.
I honestly can't think what harm can come if the dogs are in crates

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FollowMe · 20/04/2011 16:43

It very much sounds like an excuse if she still wont come even if you have offered to crate both dogs!!
The only thing I can think of is that maybe she thinks it is unhygenic or something and doesnt want to specifically say that? Lots of dog hair everywhere, smelly etc

FollowMe · 20/04/2011 16:46

Actually reading back the OP, you say another friend that is refusing to come round with their DCs, sounds like a bit of a coincidence that they are all scared of crated dogs.
I've got one friend whose house I really really dont like going in. This is because they have one big dog. Its a very slobbery, hairy dog. The whole house smells very strongly and is absolutely covered in hair and slobber. Things like the dog licking the baby's highchair ttray after baby has been fed etc make me feel quite sick, so we meet elsewhere. Saying my kids are nervous of the dog is kinder I feel than saying her house stinks and is dirty!

Ephiny · 20/04/2011 18:49

"I've got one friend whose house I really really dont like going in. This is because they have one big dog. Its a very slobbery, hairy dog. The whole house smells very strongly and is absolutely covered in hair and slobber."

Are you talking about me? Blush Actually I don't have a baby so guess it's someone else. But I love my big hairy slobbery dog, he can't help being the way he is!

iwantadogbutarabbitwoulddo · 20/04/2011 20:25

I know some people are worried about worms, fleas etc, esp as babies are often on the floor and the dog licks them. It could be hygiene issues rather than your dog's killing abilities. Lots of dog owners dont worm dogs regularly, i think that's why my cousin didnt want to take their baby to see a friend's soppy lovely lhasa apso. Wouldnt bother me, though, I'd just ask.

Marne · 20/04/2011 20:32

I would come over Grin, i think people avoid coming here too, we have one (hyper) SBT, have also seen people cross the road as they think they are going to get eaten by my Staff Sad.

chickchickchicken · 20/04/2011 21:00

for me its love me, love my dogs Grin

dogs are part of our family and as such if you dont like them then best not to visit me at home. i have only ever made one exception and that was for a friend with a child with autism and severe learning difficulties who were visiting us from the other end of the country. as child already had so much to cope with - change of routine, meeting new people, long car journey, etc - and was scared of dogs i arranged for them to be elsewhere for the day

otherwise dogs will be roaming free in our house. if anyone think it smells, not hygenic etc then its their choice not to visit

i do however have a lot of young people visiting with sn and will make every effort to make sure they are comfortable and they understand how to interact with my dogs. dogs are not shut away

chickchickchicken · 20/04/2011 21:08

oh and in reply to are you bu not to visit her house........i am just Shock that she could think you would rehome your family pets because you are having a baby. she sounds selfish to me. i would find it hard to even talk to someone who asked me that. i wouldnt visit their house and would just grimace smile if i saw them in a social setting and it was awkward to ignore them

chickchickchicken · 20/04/2011 21:09

though might give them the death stare Angry and forget trying to be polite

CURLYMAMMA · 20/04/2011 21:11

I've got a dog and I suspect a few people don't come because of it, even though I shut him away if they say they are not dog fans (he's sooo gentle). Some people think dog/cats are germy and don't want their newborns around them. Really think its that and not a dangerous dog thing.

everyspring · 20/04/2011 21:14

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CURLYMAMMA · 20/04/2011 21:16

Meant to add, it doesn't bother me if people dont like dogs, want to come to the house, cross the road to avoid us, think he should be rehomed etc. I just think they are not dog people.

emptyshell · 21/04/2011 11:39

She'd be no friend of mine for the getting rid of the dog assumption.

Having said all that - I do enjoy the fact certain relatives will never visit us because of pets... and generally anyone who doesn't "get" my animals isn't someone welcome in my home anyway. Don't like it - don't come - don't expect me to put the dog out of the way unless you're going to do the same with your husband or kid I don't like when I go round to yours (could probably make a cracking husband crate if you stuck some beer and a games console in there!)

Ephiny · 21/04/2011 11:51

To be honest I sometimes don't like going to people's houses if they have small children because I'm in no mood for the noise and chaos, so I guess that's no worse than people not wanting to go to a house with dogs if they don't like doggy company for some reason. Would not however ask someone if they were planning to sell or give away their children, however badly behaved they might be!

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MrsRhettButler · 21/04/2011 22:35

sorry this is the first time i've been back on.

my house isn't smelly, in fact people are often surprised that you can't smell dog in my house i think this is because we have no carpets its all laminate and our sofas are leather so there is nothing for the smell to stick to, we even have wooden blinds not curtains....

her baby is not crawling, he's 4 mnths old
my other friends children are 7 and 6 so not on the floor either

its definitely the worry about my dogs being aggressive because they've both said if the dogs were out for the day that they would come round!

i did tell her she was being ridiculous and how are we going to stay friends if she never comes to my house and she just said yes i know.... Hmm

oh well, i love my dogs and so does dd :)

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Vallhala · 21/04/2011 23:17

Emptyshell, are you me? :o

BabyDubsEverywhere · 21/04/2011 23:26

Ive one 'friend' who asks me to put my Dog away,

as 'he's a staff and y'know', Hmm
I replied with, 'really? you think he's a staff? funny that because most people think he's a pitbull, including the vet Grin'

She ran!

I love my Reggie and i dont care what he is he's a dopey friendly soppy pup and her life would be better by just knowing him. Her loss, i got out of yet another marathon of slagging her chap off (who is actually my mate and my Dsis Bro-inlaw so not comfortable with it) and stayed on sofa cuddling dog Smile

chickchickchicken · 21/04/2011 23:29

(babydubs - how is the decking?) Grin

Grin at he is a pitbull

BabyDubsEverywhere · 21/04/2011 23:41

Hi chick - Grin

I'll do it myself if i have to, 'If i build it they will come' Im getting quite spiritual about it now, will be getting a couple of chooks to keep me going until the Guantanamo Hutch is finished Grin

As soon as construction begins I will be updating with pics dont worry....then its off to Dragons Den!

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MrsRhettButler · 21/04/2011 23:45

oh everyone thinks mine are pits

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Vallhala · 22/04/2011 00:17

Everyone is an expert on Pits and the recognising of, MDV.

Especially the non-dog-owners!

Gonzo33 · 24/04/2011 06:50

I must be a terrible mother then because I take my daughter round to see my friends who all have dogs/puppies and she strokes them, and they lick her face, and she is only one.

She LOVES dogs. We don't have one at the moment due to having to live abroad due to my husbands job, but will be getting a new family member as soon as we return to UK.

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