RANT

[spikeycow]

How can someone go on holiday and leave me with a dog and a bitch and now bitch is gone into season and is letting off the coochie so I have to keep them separated in my house and dog has been going huu huu huu huu huu for 3 days now and is trembling inside his skin with desire while poor girl is stuck upstairs not knowing why. This is stressful.

I can't leave her with him when she's in season because he can't cope. They'll get told off by him and will get on his nerves. He doesn't hurt them but has shouted at them in the past, that's why she comes to me. It's not some nice run of the mill guy here.
I have decided that I'm going with the cancer story next time. I'll have to tell him I've seen a lump took her to the vet and oh my god guess what. My friend who is a vet nurse can call him for me so it looks above board. That's the only way of doing it.

they had a litter before and he didn't get them both (or at least one of them) neutered after that?

why doesn't he have one of those pups?

might it not be better to wait for her hormones to calm down after the season? i believe three months is recommended..though obv ask vet...

though probably the most important thing here is to get it done.

my dogs spaying scar was invisible within 2 weeks - if you know someone around you who knows a vet that good......

Spikey, am I right in thinking that it was you who posted some while ago about your ex and the dog? He was being a prat then and you were trying to get the dog/s from him? Or maybe I'm mixing you up with someone else, apologies if so. Just thinking that there is history with this man and the dogs, IIRC. Yep, he's a twat!

There is maybe an alternative. Midori or one of the vets on here will tell you if I'm talking rollocks but I believe that you may be able to have the girl given hormone injections which prevent pregnancy. Might be worth a thought, that way the ex will be none the wiser?

What do you fear if you did/said something he disapproves of? Because, and sorry if this sounds nasty, I don't mean to be, quite the opposite in fact, I get the impression that you fear something. That worries me.

Was this girl yours and the ex's before he became your ex?

I don't think it was me wanting to get the dogs off him, he is a twat but is kind to them loads of treats and cuddles etc. He got the girl when we weren't living together then we did all live together for a while. If I did this behind his back there would be a horrible scene, he has said he wants a pup from them so when they die he has something left of them. But they're still young FFS. He has been abusive so I haven't got the option of just doing it. Hormone injections sound like a great idea though. Will research that. Don't worry something is getting done about all this nonsense. I'm not going through this again.

Spikey,another suggestion that I came across very recently is laporascopic neutering. You may well have heard of "keyhole" surgery for humans, and I've certainly had a laporoscopy (apols for spelling ), and just have a little scar by my belly button. This is neutering done as "keyhole" surgery and is very new in this country - not all vets do it yet. The benefits, especially for bitches, are (just as for humans) the surgery is less invasive and can be recovered much more quickly from. Any scars are tiny. Might be worth checking out? The website is here. www.veterinarylaporoscopy.com First go at doing a link so hope it works.

The link didn't come up but my laptop is funky so it might be that. Dog has quietened down now,just keeps following me from room to room. And girl is in bed with the kids they've tucked her in and everything! Bless

I said dog aggressive. FFS

Sorry Spikey, I got my posters mixed up!

I see your point, you do NOT want to risk matey becoming abusive with you. I also know that you won't just let this carry on, I have no doubt of that.

(And to be fair, I think that Korma must have misread what you posted because in her defence I'm pretty sure from her posts over time that she knows the difference between dog aggressive and plain aggressive). :)

Love the mental image of the dog being tucked up in bed by the kids! :o

Bless indeed! :)

Hang on love you said I was crazy and putting my children at risk. Or am I reading too much into your post? Hmm?

Was your post calm or nasty and judgemental? If you want to give it learn to take it. Intelligent? From the tone of your post I thought you were a dog hysteric.
Why do people on Mumsnet make sarcastic insulting posts then deny it?

Offended by FFS after you insinuated I was putting my children at risk???????

That's it be the injured party now. Pathetic

Spikey, I'm WAY out of line here and I know it, but that last comment makes me feel that your ex can be very nasty indeed. FGS take care, please, I've been there and would never want any other woman to have to experience it.

And, poking my nose in further and risking a bollocking from you, no woman deserves a good beating from a man. Korma misread, as I suspected she did, and has said so, please don't be so harsh. I know how you feel about the anti dog brigade and agree with you more than most, if not more than anyone on here, but Korma's was a genuine mistake, no more than that, she's a doggy person herself.

I know why you're looking after the dogs, I would too as much as my own ex sounds similar to yours, and I know how much you care about ALL dogs, but for christ's sake, as I said, look after yourself.

I mentioned it because you decided to go below the belt regarding my past relationship.
The dogs are part of my family, not everyone disregards their pets just like that.
And you're right, arguing like this over the internet is a waste of time. Taking a pop at someone with RANT in the thread title isn't the best of ideas.

She can be a doggy person Val but to get arsey over FFS after her post isn't on.

You said something like "if you affect my RL I'll do this that and the other". People became scared because they thought that fool was a danger in RL. There was a big panic then you said you weren't in danger or whatever.
Look I'm not bothered about that and only said it because you reckon I'm suited to my abusive ex. If you want to bitch you have to be prepared to get a bollocking back especially as I said I was stressed in the OP. Even if it was a mistake your first post was argumentative

Good cos I'm off to bed.
Nice 1 Val for mediating though. I nominate you head of the Mumsnet Doggy mafia. You have to make sure we only pick on the hysterics Val or our organisation will be destroyed from the inside