Babies BBC next week (tw?)

[halftermhalfawake]

Possible tw. Babies

Do I need to swerve this? I normally love a drama, relationships, marriage/family etc

But I am worried this might just destroy me, long TTC journey with a 🌈 at the end but still might hit too close to home....

It looks good but I'm newly divorced in the mix, so might be just too much of a rollercoaster.

Anyone else gonna watch/avoid?

I always avoid watching anything that might be triggering because I watch tv to be entertained or informed. Not to make me feel miserable. So as the idea of it is making you question it I would advise not.

But it hasn’t even been on yet so how can any of us truly know whether it will be heartwarming or triggering?

No I put a tw on my thread in case it was upsetting to others

I binged this show and found it to be very moving, especially the final episode.

Anyone else seen it?

I’m halfway thru , it’s quite slow so far and drawn out

It's been good so far, I've only seen a couple of the episodes, I quite like the pace so far

I would say to stick with it.

I watched it all - extremely slow, I had to ff much of it (because I wanted to see what happened) but I did not find the dialogue realistic and I found the characters really super annoying. Maybe I am just lucky but I do now know anyone who is so spectacularly unable to say what they mean.

Agree re the slowness and the extremely annoying characters, it’s such a shame because there are some very good bits done well.

I watched with interest and with such hope as I have never seen miscarriage, especially multiple miscarriage portrayed well on tv.

Yes, the characters' inability to communicate was frustrating but I feel like as it goes along and you start to see more of their individual stories it makes more sense - although I think it's over done a bit tbh.
I still found parts of it very well done and very moving especially the final episode.

I think I found Dave and Amanda to be caricatures - that was a very strange relationship. And Amanda's hostility to Stephen was also very strange. I felt Lisa had no personality.

I am currently binge watching this. Not all the way through it yet.

I agree with others that it is slow and in the first episode I very nearly gave up on it but thought I would see it through. I am glad I did and I actually find it really moving and a good watch, and am actually enjoying the slower pace and slower dialogue of this drama.

I think the two main characters are actually really likeable and I enjoy their relationship and am rooting for them. Seeing inside the pain and reality of baby loss, and how it affects a couple and them both individually, is moving.

It will be triggering to anyone who has been through miscarriage or has had trouble TTC and it's pretty raw in places. It delves into the reality of what happens and how it makes you feel and the dialogue can be graphic at times. It will depend on whether you are the kind of person who actually takes comfort from relatability, or would find it upsetting to see, will dictate whether or not you should chose to watch.

I have had a miscarriage over 20 years ago but the scenes including it actually moved me to tears when it is something I haven't cried over in many years. Although I am the kind of person who seeks out relatability to help me process things.

Dave and Amandas relationship is a little confusing at the moment as she really doesn't seem into him it all and never answers any of his questions, choosing to practically ignore him on occasion. However I feel this will start to open up as we see more of them and understand who they are a little more.

All in all I am really enjoying this and its nice to have a slower more in depth drama on TV instead of all the fast paced constant 'twists' over the top stuff.

I have watched it all the way through. I think the writer is excellent (Mum, Marriage) - and I really enjoyed the music (the writer wrote and performed the music as well). It is a slow burn but it becomes more and more heartbreaking. It kept the tension throughout about who had the best approach to dealing with trauma (lean it to it and be overwhelmed or KOKO bravado). I think the main couple were very sweet together but agree Dave was a ridiculous character - his gurning and shoddy acting / poor direction was very jarring. But I did like the angle that Mr Funny Bantz was a nasty piece of work underneath. I like how it later revealed the intergenerational experiences of the parents which entrenched / determined the emotional capacity of the main characters. Agree Amanda’s character was unbelievable, but Dave’s Dad explained a lot. The irritating shallow bantz between Stephen and Dave was toe-curling but I expect that was the point. They literally hid behind their beer glasses. I binged watched it and would recommend it but not sure you could watch each episode separately week to week and get the same impact.

I don’t think I would watch it if I had recently been through recurrent miscarriages as it’s emotionally very raw but there are no ‘jump scares’ - but it’s always there hanging heavily in the air.

It’s very slow and the other couple in it are totally over the top and unrealistic I find them difficult to watch

I found the main characters a bit uninteresting, enough so that I didn’t make it through the first episode.

The actor of the Dave character was the best, he verged on comedy at times I felt with his odd gurning expressions etc.
I thought the uptight Amanda character made sense when we knew her back story & I actually found her very sad.

It was a real slow burn and, I agree, definitely better for bingeing, not sure I would have stuck with it as a week to week thing.
As I said up thread, the final.episode did it for me, I thought that was very moving.

I still have two episodes left and will finish it over the weekend. It has kept my interest and I am enjoying it.

Dave is a strange one but now I have seen his Dad during the wedding episode I kind of get why he is the way he is. It was good seeing 'the best friends' hiding behind their beer glasses and only talking in banter, each seemingly having their issues but not knowing how to have a serious talk with one another. It was cringeworthy but it was supposed to be. And Dave not connecting with his son and not knowing how to be a father was interesting to watch.

Amanda is fairly unlikeable so far but I do feel a little sad for her as she has obviously lost the love of her life and is scarred from that. I feel there is more to be revealed here.

I have yet to watch the final episode but I really hope that the main characters have some joy in the end.

Ugh, I meant to say the Dave actor WASN'T the best, not was!
Yes, seeing Dave's Dad explained a few things and the awkward scenes where characters couldn't express themselves were meant to be as toe curling as they were. Very much like "Mum" in that respect.

I think Amanda was just very sad & closed off by her experience and couldn't let herself feel anything.

I hope you enjoy the last two episodes, I think you will if you have enjoyed it so far.

I have the house to myself a bit later today so will get at least one more watched later 😁

I didn't actually realise the writer was the person who wrote 'Mum' but it makes sense now. I really liked the subtlety and slowness of Mum and the characters in that too. I don't need a fast paced drama for it to be good and moving.

Thanks, I am sure I will enjoy the rest 🙂

Wanted to like this but my DH couldn't hack it after 20 mins, and I was happy to change over. We've had fertility issues so I thought it would be a good watch but it was painfully slow and the characters were trying too hard to be "vanilla" and likeable

Goodness I just finished this. I felt like I had been on the journey with them. It did move slowly but that’s one of the things I loved. Them emptying the dishwasher, piles of washing everywhere, someone hanging up a coat and it not staying up first time- exactly like real life is! I thought the situation and characters were so well observed. The only thing I didn’t like is the shallowness of the mens’ friendships. I know some men struggle to talk about the more difficult and emotional things but they over-egged that point I think. Other than that I loved it, and cried.

I finished it tonight and sobbed, well I sobbed through a lot of it. I thought Dave was really well acted as I felt initially I fecking hated him but he slowly allowed the humanity to seep through in later episodes. It was DEEPLY realistic, in the sense that life is shades of grey and not polished all the time. I liked there were moments of silence, people staring into space etc. And I thought the two main leads were incredible. The ending was really good as well.

There were some peripheral characters who appear and then are never seen again which felt a bit... strange? And all the people are fairly unkind at times, I dunno maybe i just have low tolerance for that kind of snarky, poking fun at others humour but it made me privately wonder at the writer and what sort of person he is.
Overall though, I loved it. It also helped me to understand what it might be like to have multiple losses, as someone who was very lucky to never experience that when I became a parent. My heart broke for them.

The observation I loved was Dave teaching is some to bite off the end of the ice-cream cone and suck the ice-cream thru. It really brought me back to my childhood and it provided a connection between Dave and his son (which didn’t last) - but it probably also highlighted Dave’s stunted emotional development - stuck as a child.

Yes, I felt the same about going through a journey with the characters.
And all the little incidental things you mention too.
It was so well observed and very moving. I binged it over a couple of days which I think added to the sense of the journey.

So slow and boring. Characters did not capture my attention.
Such a sense of entitlement to a baby and making it the centre of their world.

@Coclare yes Dave was a strange character wasn’t he. He desperately wanted to connect with his son didn’t he and that and the pancakes were pretty much the only time he did. Agreed it was a complete case of arrested development. Alison was a complex one too.

@cloudtreecarpet yes me too. Over 2 nights. I felt like I lived with them in their flat by the end of it!

I thought they made Lisa in particular look too granny like in the final scenes. Hilarious attempts at aging them by putting them in cardigans and grey hair. I’m their age now and I don’t think that was an entirely accurate depiction!

I loved the whole thing. Maybe the slow moving / observational aspect of it is not for everyone but it all just felt so real because of that didn’t it?

The same director did a similar style show called ‘marriage’ with Nicole Walker and Sean Bean which I also loved if you have not seen.