The Perfect Neighbor - Netflix

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Sorry if there is another thread, I couldn’t find it.

Ive just watched this documentary and can’t stop thinking about it.
Basically about a neighbourhood where kids are being kids and one neighbour takes huge exception to them and how it escalates.

A very interesting, very sad story which was well made. At times we probably saw a little too much but it was filmed and made entirely using police body cam and cctv.

At one point I was bawling my eyes out in one particular scene.

Although a harrowing watch it’s a good documentary.

The film has been made with the cooperation of the family in order to raise awareness of the circumstances of AJ’s death and to raise money for their communities affected by gun violence. Maybe do some research?

that’s what I thought. It seemed premeditated but was deemed manslaughter?

I started watching it and found it booooring. Switched over to something else.

I don't want to do any research thank you. I just looked at this thread out of interest and was shocked at the thought of children being filmed hearing of their mother's death (if that is what happened, it isn't clear from the thread). Not sure a child is mature enough to consent to this, morally if not legally. Other than this I'm not interested in the programme particularly.

You should watch it it’s all explained.

parents consent on behalf of minors.

i can’t believe you’re suggesting someone (in which country? Every single one?) would make a law saying children can’t appear in documentaries

we are watching children dying in Gaza regularly on the news, that would be illegal too.

So you haven’t even watched it yet felt entitled to berate the documentary makers with no clue what the film was about or its wider impact?

I'm not berating anyone! I'm expressing concern about children's intimate moments being made into a documentary. I'm leaving this thread now.

Good.

Why comment then?

What an utterly vacuous comment.

I think the police were very afraid of seeming racist so didn’t come down hard enough on the antisocial behaviour aspects (on both sides)

The parents seemed like typical 1980s parents to me, don’t really care what you do as long as you’re not doing it in the house and not bothering me. They all had big strips of land between the houses the kids could have played on, why not just tell them to keep away from the neighbours house if they were clearly winding her up

And before anyone says “why should they have to?” Well, the final outcome is why they should have had to

There’s only so far you can push people before they snap. Why would you antagonise a clearly unstable woman with 3 guns??

She absolutely deserved the sentence she got but I’m surprised no one saw this coming and didn’t treat her a bit more warily

Totally disagree, the other neighbours didn’t have a problem with the children playing outside, they actually encouraged them, as did the police, heartened to see them enjoying themselves in the old fashioned way.

AJ was a very present parent, ensuring her children had a good education and lots of extra curricular activities.

Lorincz was a racist, lying cunt, if it was all so awful for her she could have moved to a different house very easily, she didn’t because she felt entitled to rule the roost and dictate to the other families because she’s white and therefore superior.

It was heartbreaking. What struck me was how the kids were outside for all of it. The news broken to them while standing outside.

Maybe I'm wrong but I would have thought - had it been in the UK - they would have been taken somewhere safe - inside their home perhaps and specially trained officers or some other professional would sit them down with family as they broke the news. Offering specialist support. Maybe I'm completely wrong...

I'm not saying the police were bad - they seemed professional and sympathetic but it's the way it was done. Not that the location would lessen the trauma for them.

I don't know, I was just shocked at the lack of support for the family in dealing with it. And it all so public. I wouldn't want my kids to be told that on the side of the road.

The way it was filmed made it almost unwatchable. I don't know why people praise this documentary so much

Tbf I see where you're coming from. I watched it so absolutely wouldn't judge anyone else for watching it. Especially as it was made with the support of the family.

But I'll be honest it was a very tough watch and had I known that footage would be shown I wouldn't have watched. Those kids. Just awful.

Mostly I was struck by how glad I was not to live there.

@AndSoFinallyi agree to most of what you're saying. Why did the kids carry on playing outside of her house? Why didn't the parents tell them to stay on their side of the street? I'm not saying what she did was right, but they all knew she wasn't a nice person yet the parents carryed on letting the kids play on her grass, annoying her everyday. We all know the police do fuck all until something actually happens, and by then it's usually too late.

The man who actually owned part of the land (her neighbour) invited them to play there and would come out and play with them. There was also a lot more space on that side, which I believe was mostly common land intended for children, dogs, etc to play on.

I do agree the police should have acted sooner and offered mediation followed by criminal charges (against Susan) if that didn't work.

It wasn’t her grass. It was public land.

so you think someone should’ve said to them not to play on the common on their own street like normal kids in case some cunt murders one of their parents in retaliation. That’s not on.

the aggravating factor here is the stand your ground law in this state. If you read the statistics at the end of the documentary, re how many people are using this law,
it’s insane. The woman in this case had looked up the law and admitted it in her interview. She thought she was protected by it and would get away with murder.

And didn’t the documentary say that there was another room with a lock on it so she had 2 locked doors she could have hidden behind and called the police back (except she lost her phone for 2 minutes between first calling the police and shooting her neighbour which apparently stopped her being able to call the police back)

Yes, if it were my kids I would have taken the stance that this lady is clearly unstable, and owns firearms, so let’s all keep away from her and not antagonise her while we seek appropriate redress through official channels

Not saying they should have to do this, but why would not just take the pragmatic approach and stay out of her way?

I wouldn't have let my child play there after she had shown the type of person she was.

I agree @AndSoFinally