@chickenlettuceunderbacon I get what you're saying and I don't disagree but the way it was done tonight irked me. I certainly don't think Ryan should have said nothing but it seemed to be a "things you have in common" thing, her eyes appeared to light up when he told her although that's almost certainly done to production team and editing. My piss was boiled by it all but your take on it is just as valid. Also, yes about meeting people who've also been through it/are going through it. I feel a kinship and respect. It's also good for the soul if you feel you can give them some information that's helpful. The operation I had is relatively unusual (oesophagectomy) and it's helping me to be in contact with couple of women I met in hospital. One who had her op a couple of weeks after mine, although because hers was elective rather than emergency she got to eat actual food ahead of me and I was jealous. The other will have her op at the beginning of November. She's having a shit time of it now and I am really able to help which helps me feel good about myself.
Sorry! Me, me, me! Sort of makes me wonder what impression each of us would give (or be edited to give) if we were on the show. I think I'd want to slap myself upside my head.