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Game of Thrones for 13 year old

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 21:04

Hey, so we've been helping my SIL out a bit at weekends (DH's sister) and we have her teenage son over the last couple of days. I was just in the kitchen and DH was showing nephew first episode of Game of Thrones. DH and I have seen the entire thing, loved it. I told DH after SIL came to pick up nephew that I don't think it's appropriate for a 13 year old boy (it wasn't an argument, we are newlyweds and haven't really argued (yet!), we agree to always address things calmly and I wouldn't even call it a disagreement, but I was speaking carefully trying not to sound like I was making an issue, because it probably isn't)

DH doesn't see any issue as he said nephew is a teenager, so I'm just confused. It's not a big issue that I'm gonna lose sleep over, I just want opinions cause I'm dead confused. Should I say something to nephew's mum or leave it?

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AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/09/2023 21:07

Jesus wept. No, GoT is totally unsuitable for a 13yo. Any adult who's seen it and doesn't realise it's unsuitable for a 13yo has issues imo.

Foggyfoggyfoggy · 12/09/2023 21:09

Def not for minors ime. 16 plus at least.

HermioneWeasley · 12/09/2023 21:10

It’s very very adult. A genuine 18+

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 21:11

Also I should add that he brushed it off by saying he's now a teenager and boys have seen/know "stuff" at that age. Eh I just don't think it's old enough

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2023usernameNew · 12/09/2023 21:11

Way too young for both the violence and the bordering on pornography at times

RoyKentFanclub · 12/09/2023 21:12

That’s extremely irresponsible. If f course it isn’t appropriate. I’d be fucking fuming if you’d shown it to my 13 year old.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 12/09/2023 21:13

Not a chance. But unfortunately it's not your place to say anything.

LubaLuca · 12/09/2023 21:13

Unsuitable. Anyone who has watched it would not then want to watch it with a kid! Is he trying to be cool uncle or something? 🙄

SingingWaffleDoggy · 12/09/2023 21:13

Hell no

35965a · 12/09/2023 21:14

If I were your SIL I would be so angry with your DH.

Talipesmum · 12/09/2023 21:14

Absolutely not ok for a 13 year old. Honestly. Totally on a par with showing him an 18 movie - difference is that bits of it would be great for a 13 year old and then right out of nowhere it’s NOT ok.

I’d def mention it to his sister. After all, if DH is convinced it’s ok he wouldn’t mind.

picsssodreams · 12/09/2023 21:15

No definitely not suitable viewing for a 13 year old. I'm unclear about what you would tell your sister in law though. Are you going to report your husband for allowing his nephew to watch unsuitable material? Or just warn her that her boy is interested in something that's not age appropriate?

OnTheBoardwalk · 12/09/2023 21:16

You've watched the show yourself, surely you and your DH know it’s a no

Jackydaytona · 12/09/2023 21:17

Series 1 is cert 18

For good reason

Your dh is a dick

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 21:18

Thanks guys I'm glad to know I'm not being crazy.

@SisterMichaelsHabit Yep, I have never ever got involved, first rule of having no problems with in laws, I might find a way to drop it in subtly next time we are together, like casually asking SIL if she has seen it in front of DH, not, "Oh by the way, your brother and son were watching this." Not sure if I should bother though...

@LubaLuca Unfortunately yes "cool uncle thing," he's always had the way the youngsters, maybe something to do with being the youngest of all his siblings and still childfree 😩

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AliceMcK · 12/09/2023 21:19

Teenagers may have seen “stuff” at this age but GOT is not appropriate, I’m saying this as a fan who has let my DCs watch shows over their age guide. There is incest, rape, torture, murder, prostitution, misogyny at its best… and it’s very graphic, it’s absolutely not for impressionable young teens.

crackofdoom · 12/09/2023 21:20

Hell no. The violent, rapey sex in Episode 1 is particularly bad. They actually toned it down a bit after that, and especially after the first series- maybe because of complaints? I've told DS (13) he can watch it when he's 18. Maisie Turner wasn't allowed to watch it until she was 18, was she?

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 21:20

OK I am definitely saying something to SIL, she's dropping nephew round again on Friday. I'll just try and not mention it until then seeing as it won't be a problem til Friday, don't want to aggravate the issue... thanks guys!

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TokyoSushi · 12/09/2023 21:22

Oh my days no, quite a bit of it is verging on pornographic. I'm 43 and j sometimes wonder if I'm old enough for it!

SirenSays · 12/09/2023 21:23

There's incest and a beheading in the first episode, its hardly family friendly entertainment.

FoodFann · 12/09/2023 21:38

This is really sad. A woman stands by and can see no foul play when a grown man wants to bond with a child by watching violent sexual content. Have you lost your mind OP?

It’s certificate 18 for a reason. It’s not your decision whether it’s acceptable or not for a child to watch. I would be livid if you and your H showed my 13 year old child anything cert 18. You might well be newly weds, but sometimes it’s worth stepping in and confronting your H, especially when you’ve got the opportunity to stop child abuse. What else would you sit by and allow in the name of ‘newlywedness’. What a ridiculous excuse.

I’m shocked that you can’t see how serious this is.

Even more concerning is that your H wants the “cool uncle thing”, but when it comes to exposing a child to violent sexual content as a way to be the cool uncle… it’s screaming red flags to me. Please keep your H well away from children.

You say you don’t want to ‘aggravate’ it, so won’t proactively tell the child’s mother. What is wrong with you? And the child will tell all his friends at school what he’s seen, so well done, that’s how many young minds ruined? If I was a parent of one of them I’d be reporting it to the school and there would be a safeguarding investigation as to why children are watching violent certificate 18 rape scenes.

I really hope your H has to face the music. He should be thoroughly ashamed of himself, and frankly, you’re not much better.

GreenClock · 12/09/2023 21:40

16+ definitely.

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 12/09/2023 21:42

It's highly inappropriate and certainly not OK to show to someone else's kid.

My stepkids are coming up 16 and we're still loathe to allow them to watch many 18s. They're rated for a reason.

continentallentil · 12/09/2023 21:44

It’s obviously too young.

It’s not your job to say something to your sister in law though - it’s your DH sister and thus his problem.

Just tell him not to be so stupid again. Hopefully the nephew will keep quite about it, if not SIL can take it up with DH.

ItstimeToMoveagain · 12/09/2023 21:47

Not at 13 no, I can't remember how old ds2 was when he watched it but all his friends had already seen it. I didn't find the violence an issue, it was more the sex and degrading of women